A single co-worker of the opposite sex who does the following for you, romantic interest or friendship?
showing concern when you are sick, offer snacks and cookies, offer to accompany you when you are alone for lunch or dinner, bring you dinner when you missed a company dinner, drives you to work occassionally, invites you for dinner.
I thought he was showing romantic interest.
But, when I ask him to join my husband and I for dinner, he is ok with it.
So does it mean I had misread his signs and that it is purely friendship?
2007-03-07 01:35:23 · 11 answers · asked by isabella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thats really hard to answer because you are not inside his head. I have a male friend who is a co-worker....he always discusses his personal life with me...(he has only just been divorced). I knew him when he was "happily" married and I was still just as friendly then as I am now that he is divorced. We were chatting on line one night and he had a few drinks...he made sexual advances to me, then apologised profusely the next day. He said he thought I was being nice to him because I fancied him. It blew me away actually because I never thought he would think like that. I am just an open friendly person, and just because he is of the opposite sex doesnt mean I cant really like him as a friend. There are a lot of people who cant be just "friends" with the oppositie sex, but there are some who really can be....I am one of them. This has been a problem I have faced quite a few times in my life. Men have confused my friendliness with attraction. I always thought it was a problem with me and that I was sending out singnals that I wasnt aware of. It made me very self conscious, and I would be watching everything I said and did around the opposite sex just in case it was taken the wrong way. It was a silly way to behave because I shouldnt have to make my intentions clear just because I am nice to someone and realised that the problem wasnt with me, just common misconceptions people hold regarding friends of the opposite sex. Maybe this co-worker is just like me....maybe this is just his basic personality and he is a naturally friendly, helpful, caring guy....thats one maybe.....the other maybe is that he fancies you. I can understand why you wouldnt ask him how he feels because it would be a little bit embarrassing. I suggest you remain vigilant and see how far he goes with this "friendship". If he does fancy you, then he will make it very clear as time goes by. I knew my co-worker for 3 years before he made it clear he could easily be intimate with me. Before then I just thought we had a really good friendship. Time will tell you what his intentions are. I also have another wonderful friend of the opposite sex.....we are very close....we hug, we kiss (not passionately) and he is gay.....but if onlookers were to judge, they would think we were involved in a relationship....maybe this guy is gay too and really likes you......so there's 3 maybe's you can consider. Like I said, time will tell what his real intentions are.
2007-03-07 01:54:07 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's interested. Just be careful to listen to any concerns your husband has regarding how much time you spend with the guy.
If you get any butterflies you'd better cut it off immediately and make more time with your hubby.
Infatuation kills marriages if you let it.
2013-12-26 13:52:14 · answer #2 · answered by TCB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, I would just be polite,sounds like a nice person but, he knows you are married rite? Sounds kinda weird. You should not be putting yourself in the position to be alone with him, you could hurt your marriage, and jeopardize your job if he gets angry for some reason. Don't S*** where you eat!
2007-03-07 01:43:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bigger question, why do you care? Seems you are looking for something from him and you shouldn't be, you're married. Lets say he was romantically interested in you, exactly what would it matter to you, what good could come from you knowing? Sounds more to me like you want him to be interested in you and that you may have an interest in him.
2007-03-07 01:56:33 · answer #4 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is he possibly gay? I mean, normal men don't do that, unless they want "something", do they? The men can probably help you better here, but if I were married, I damn sure wouldn't be going to lunch with another man.
2007-03-07 01:47:49 · answer #5 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I still think he is interested.... Maybe he thinks he can get you to leave your hubby and then again maybe he just wants a booty call without strings attached..... Tread cautiously
2007-03-07 01:40:17 · answer #6 · answered by M B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he was just trying to be polite..... it sounds like he is very interested in you, but since you're married you should discourage his special treatment. it could lead to trouble later and hurt feelings. =)
2007-03-07 01:40:35 · answer #7 · answered by Cloudy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is just trying to be nice there are a few good men out there yet
2007-03-07 01:43:57 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its to size up your relationship. To move in for the kill, so to speak.
2007-03-07 01:39:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep pretty much there are men out there that truley just want to be your freind.
2007-03-07 01:42:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋