I see my cousin now and again (she lives several hundred miles away - thank goodness!), but she does tend to make remarks. Once, my mother and I went to visit and when we got back home, my mom told me that my cousin had told her that I'm 'very innocent'. I find this hurtful and I'm now embarrassed to see her again, because I dread what she is thinking of me. Yes, for my age, I suppose I am quite naive, but that's me! What can I do to feel better about this? Thanks, anyone.
2007-03-07 01:31:49 · 13 answers · asked by Say It Like You Mean It 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm 25 by the way.
2007-03-07 01:38:46 · update #1
i wouldnt worry about it
im 14 and me and my cousins ( boy ) were very close growing up . auntie looked after me while my mum worked
thn after 13 of being good friends he suddenly hits out that he hates me and is actually denying that i am his cousin
so dont worry
2007-03-07 08:18:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to pay more attention to how you feel about yourself, than what others including your family members think of you, I am like you I constantly wonder what other think, but I am realizing now it doesn't matter. Everyone has a judgement call some speak out loud, some don't. No one person is going to think entirely like another, if you want to try to analyze it than maybe there is jealousy involved, maybe you aren't her fav, maybe you are, see how a person can waist so much time, stressing, maybe your cousin didn't put much thought into what she said, maybe she did. Have you thought about discussing this with her to ease your mind? If it really bothers you I would ask her what do you have to loose? If you were mentioned by her she should have no reason to avoid giving you an answer! Maybe you should or just worry about you! Good Luck!
2007-03-07 09:46:35 · answer #2 · answered by need advice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To cope with this problem, just thank your stars that she lives several hundred miles away, like you said. Believe me, the older you get, the more you wouldn't care for her remarks.
However, in fairness to your cousin, maybe she was just trying to help. It's not that she backstabbed you or anything. Sometimes, other people can appear very intimidating, but when you get to know them, they're really quite nice.
2007-03-07 09:42:31 · answer #3 · answered by Dowland 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're upset because she called you "innocent"??? Am I missing something here? If this is all it takes to upset you and bother you then I suggest YOU are the problem and not the cousin. Take a good hard look at your front side right now for me, using your xray vision, and take a peep at that backbone...is it slumping? Sit up straight and lock it in place and stop worrying about what other people say and think of you. There HAS to be something else in your life for you to concentrate on! Good grief!
2007-03-07 09:39:15 · answer #4 · answered by conservamommy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So what if you are "innocent"? Its better than being classed as some know it all who's been around the blocks twice over. Don't be hurt by it, she only means that you have a lot to learn about life, which is not a bad thing really. I don't think she meant to be nasty or hurtful, she was only giving a general opinion of you. If she meant to be nasty, I doubt she would have said it to your mum!
2007-03-07 09:37:09 · answer #5 · answered by beanie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your cousin was trying protect you as she may think that in this day and age where there are no holes barred so to speak that your naivity could be your downfall.
She was not beng unkind I feel...anyway bloods thicker than water so why not ask her what she meant. If you don't find out it will gnaw away at you and make you bitter and twisted.
2007-03-07 09:38:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are, but the remark you describe isn't really bad is it? I think if you're quite young it could be taken as a compliment! Try to think of it as positive instead of negative!
2007-03-07 09:36:00 · answer #7 · answered by jet-set 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take that remark as a compliment. Too many people are jaded and pessimistic. It is refreshing to see and meet someone with rose color glasses on. Life is beautiful for you, enjoy it.
2007-03-07 09:45:49 · answer #8 · answered by A friend of Bill W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it may be, try not to let it bother you. In your life, people are going to judge you and say things about you and there is not much you can do. Like you said, you agree with what she said so it really shouldn't bother you so much. There is nothing wrong with being naive unless it deals with your safety. :)
2007-03-07 09:38:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. She is only making comments about you because she is jealous of you. Take it with great pride.
2007-03-07 09:35:44 · answer #10 · answered by kingsgirl 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋