My wife (been married 5 month) has recently admitted to being addicted to sleeping pills. In December she was acting crazy one night I looked around and found all the sleeping pills she had taken. We went to the hospital and she had to drink the charcoal. Later in January I found she was taking too many pills again I gave her and altamatem the pills or me. I have yelled been nice and everything in-between to explain how this was effecting both of us. I offered to get her help but she said she would work it out with her doctor and that she could quit on her own. She has told me how hard it has been not to take them but that she had gone a month without it. Just last night I found one more new prescribed from her doctor. She doesn’t know I have found them yet. I am ready to kick her out and send her back to her mother. Any ideas on what I can do with her I love her vary much but I am at a loss how do you help someone that doesn’t wont to be helped!
2007-03-07 01:23:34 · 24 answers · asked by irishfirefighter762 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like an intervention is in order. Set it up and make it happen. Be prepared for a long road ahead.
2007-03-07 01:27:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound as if she is a crimminal by being addicted to sleeping pills. You sure do not have any compassion saying you are ready to kick her out and send her back to her mother. I guess in your marriage to her the house belongs just to you and she as your wife does not have any rights to it. This is why women should not marry a man and then move into HIS house. It leaves the man with all the power in the relationship. Before being married to you she should have made you buy another house that belonged to the both of you. My advice to you would be to first show a little compassoin towards her addiction. Denial is a normal reaction to being addicted to anything. First you must make an appointment with her doctor and then keep that appointment taking her along with you. Talk to her doctor about this addiction she is having with sleeping pills. He might be able to prescript something else to help whin her off the sleeping pills. Then she will need to be enrolled into some kind of rehab program to help her with her addiction. Hope she is willing to do this as I agree, she needs to get herself some help. Best of luck to you both.
2007-03-07 01:38:32 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try changing th daily activities of ur wife.
When someone sits lonely in the home or has hardly any work to do get addicted to the pills and drugs.
Take her outing by the evening and keep her engaged all the evening with some work or shoppingh or create reading habbit or watching nice movies.
Or go for swimming in the evenong so that she gets tired and sleeps as soon as she comes home.
I may not be correct. But give a try some idea may click.
But onething is for sure keep her engaged in any work don't leave her alone and don't send her to her mothers house because u took the responsibility of taking care of her and married her.
ADJUST AND ACCEPT LIFE AS IT COMES.
gOOD LUCK
2007-03-07 01:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give me some of the pills. I work at night (10pm-7am) and need the sleep desperately. Seriously, you need to stick with the ultimatum. It doesn't mean you have to file for divorce, just leave and see if it opens her eyes that you are serious about her health and y'alls marriage. Then call (I think it is) Al Anon and go to their meetings. It is for the family and friend who are dependent on drugs and alcohol. I would also think about calling this doctor that is prescribing the pills and let him know that she is addicted and give him the symptoms. Let him know that if he prescribes anymore for her you will call a lawyer. She needs help to get off the pills. You need help to learn how to deal with it. I wish you well.
2007-03-07 02:04:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who are addicted to drugs of any kind will generally push away the people who are trying to get them off the drugs. You gave her an ultimatum and now you have to go through with it-or your words are powerless and useless. You have to be strong enough to follow through with your ultimatum or you are NOT doing her any favors. As long as there are no children involved you need to stand your ground and force her to choose the pills or your relationship. If she chooses the pills you are not morally obligated to stay in the marriage and hopefully next time you will be more discriminating about the woman you choose to marry and share your life with and potentially create a family with.
2007-03-07 01:34:55 · answer #5 · answered by conservamommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i used to be addicted to sleeping peels, i still say quiting smokeing was harder, im still a smoker =/ yuck! but anyways, she got on the pills probly becuase of a break up, or a death of close friend, couldnt stop thinking about it at night and couldnt sleep, she needs time, alot of it, and the strongest power in the world is LOVE give her alot of it, show her shes number 1 in your life, you telling her shes makeing you want to leave will not help, she would feel insucre, depressed, and some times suacidel, on pills that are addictive though doctors arnt supost to give you more then 2 times withen a time limit, shes jumping doctors to get more im sure, can always just take her money away they arnt cheap =p
2007-03-09 19:46:32 · answer #6 · answered by Jonathan c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry about this...especially being newly married.
So she is addicted and in denial.
She almost overdosed.
What you need to do is tell her...I am not willing to watch you kill yourself. I can't help you if you are not willing to get help. You must seek help and get into some kind of rehab or program....or it is over. I love you so much..and I want us to have a happy life together...but I am not willing to live my life with an addict. Getting off the pills will be hell...but I know you can do it and I am here for you...and your life will be so much better...you just don't know it yet.
Then...you must back up your word.
Even the best psychologists...say adultery, addiction and abuse are the deal breakers in a marriage. In other words...when you marry...you marry for better or worse...however......the three above...break the vows and you really have no choice but to move on if you can't or are not willing to handle it. In other words...don't feel guilty. She is choosing pills over you and over everything important. Until she comes out of her denial...your chance of happiness together are pretty slim.
Please seek some kind of short term counseling for yourself to help you get through this.
Take good care of you.
Best wishes.
2007-03-07 01:36:39 · answer #7 · answered by kallie m 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel sorry for you but in this case send her to her mums house and leave her for a short-while until she gets out of it but i don't mean leave her there for ever. Another way is to talk to her about it and still doesn't work just replace the pills(i think she'll know the difference)
2007-03-07 06:48:59 · answer #8 · answered by asin k 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If a woman dies within 7 years of marriage with unnatural death or commits suicide and it is shown that she was subject to cruelty soon before death, the husband & concerned inlaws will be punished for life imprisonment. The court will believe them guilty unless they prove their innocence with valid legal evidence.
If she is compelled to leave matrimonial home and cannot maintain herself, husband has to pay her and refrain from remarriage.
2007-03-07 04:35:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her doctor in front of ur wife. and take her to a good counseller. and a professional doctor who can help. after talking to the doctor do not go to her again. i find something fishy here with the doctor and her understadnign with ur wife. well before jumping to conclusion talk it out first.
2007-03-07 03:04:59 · answer #10 · answered by slv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋