How to get out of 8 to 5 routine and yet maintain the living standards?

Question

I am just bored of this tiresome 8:00 AM to 5:00 PM schedule of working and getting a pay at the end of every month and just passing my life with my only single boring wife and children. I wana go out and have fun, to feel alive and see the beauty of this world. For me this life is living in A class jail. Is there any one who can reply?

Answer 1

My husband had the same problem. Our relationship felt stale because he was following the same patterns. After this we decided to each have one night a week to go out without the other. My husband joined a pool league and also even Dj's on the weekend for fun at a local bar on the weekends. It sounds like you need to enjoy your family a bit more as well as gain some other interests outside of them. Hopefully it will work out for you like it did for us. Because my husband has outside interests he is much more willing to spend time with me and to do things I enjoy as well. Hope this helps!

Answer 2

You're caught in the "matrix". The "living standards" part of your question is the operative term. That's what the matrix does. It gives you a sense of worth based on where you live, the vehicle you drive, the size of the home you live in, your marital status, etc...

Because you place your self worth on the aforementioned items, you have become alienated from yourself as a spiritual being. When you can realize that life is more than just "living standards" you will be happy. For this joy I speak of is freely given. However, there is a catch--No comfort zones allowed. You are in a comfort zone. That's just what this "matrix" is a comfort zone. A comfort zone of boring, listless, uninspired livelyhood. But, you still have a high standard of living, right. In the meantime the only thing you think about is time and money. Time is money right? That's what we're told. Get to the point where you no longer have to where a watch or monitor your bank account. Our sprititual beings have no sense of time or materialiality. Happiness will follow.

Speaking of which...Watch the movie The Matrix. If you have already seen it, see it again.

Answer 3

You have obviously never recognized the fact that boredom comes from inside our minds, not outside. Otherwise, everybody in the same business would be bored to tears on a daily basis. You know that's not true because there are people in your business who are excited on a daily basis about doing their job. Have you considered the fact that you may not like what you're doing and are too lazy to make the effort to change?

There is a simple solution. Consider what you would like to do if money didn't count. No matter what it is, you can make a living at it and be deliriously happy at the same time. But you have to have goals. And you need to write them down. Goals only work effectively if you write them down. And they have to be realistic. Writing down that you are going to be the right front forward for the Chicago Blackhawks professional ice hockey team when you can't even ice skate is really ridiculous. And you must act on your goals every day.

There are all kinds of self-help audio cassettes in the library. Get some and listen to them in your car on the way to work. It could change your life.

Answer 4

Well, I'm a stay at home mom, so I do understand that yes sometimes the day to day grind can be a bit ugh...redundant or boring to say the least. But, if it really is the life you want (which for me, there's no question that it is), meaning being married, having a family...just like marriage itself, sometimes it takes work. You have to find ways to make it fun. I think every married couple should have nights out with friends. Because you really do need some time on your own! And find fun things to do with your kids, take up an art or photography class together , or some type of sports. And family nights, make them spontaneous. Just on a whim, pack up the troop and head out to do something. Hit up a museum or something. It takes effort to really try to make it fun and different, but its well worth it I think.

But, since you refer to your family as boring...sounds to me like this isn't the life you want at all...you really dont want to make the extra effort to make it fun. If this isn't really the life for you, your family will know it. Dont think they can't feel your misery. In which case, just get out now. Let your wife move on to someone who does want that life, dont let your kids grow up thinking they make you miserable...do you really want to leave a scar like that on them? So really, the actual question is...is this the life you want or not? Because if it is, put some effort into it and its great. If not, get out and let your family have a happy life.

Answer 5

Life just passes by the window while you sit in work making other peoples bonuses at the top larger and larger. Then you come home an assist the household with daily needs and before you know it time for bed for the same routine again. I completely understand.

Answer 6

now these day you need to work . but i no what you mean. ever 2 year i take a 3 weeks of all by myself and take a trip some were just to get back to nature. my wife love that i do this because when i get back home she all over me and my so to. so try to do that. good luck.

Answer 7

How incredibly selfish and spoiled. You took on a wife, created little human lives and now YOU are bored and feel as if you were in jail? Has it ever occured to you to ask any of them how they feel? Or how they would feel if you decided to do something to "feel alive" that could potentially harm them or throw their lives into turmoil? No wait, of course you haven't. Your poor children...your poor family. They didn't deserve an *** like you and I feel horrible for what awaits them down the line when you do decide to act on your incredibly selfish motivations.

Answer 8

try something new