how can i convince my 17 year 26old man is off limits ?

Question

she will be 18 in june but still to me thats to big of age gap.

Answer 1

You need to be careful do you remember 17? Everything was so important and the guy you were with was the guy you were going to marry regardless of what anybody thought even though he was a serious looser.....

Have you tried talking to him? Have you explained to him that you think he is wrong to go after your teenage daughter? You can't have him arrested, 17 is consensual... Try talking to him and make him understand that she is a teenager and still has her whole life ahead of her who knows maybe you will shame him into leaving your daughter alone....

Answer 2

Have her watch Dateline's "Perverted Justice: To Catch A Predator." Most of those guys are in their mid-to-late 20's preying on teenage girls. When she's that young, it's definately a big age gap. While she needs to make her own mistakes, you do have to do what you can to keep her safe. There's only one thing that a 26 year old man wants from a 17 year old, and it's nothing that a 17 year old needs to be doing. Get to know him, and judge by the feeling you get in your gut when you're around him. She's blinded by love, lust, the idea that someone who's much older is interested in her. That can be very intoxicating.

Answer 3

Until she is 18 you are responsible for her well being and sometimes that means enforcing rules on her she may not necessarily like. When she is 18 you can explain to her that now that she is technically an adult she can date whom she pleases but she can't do it from your home while you are paying her way. Until then she is to stay away from this 26 year old guy or she will be shipped off to military school or boarding school until she's 18. Then you get to the nearest police department and get a restraining order against the young stud and make it painfully clear to him that he isn't to come within 500 yards of your daughter or he will be arrested.

Answer 4

Well, unfortunately, you can't. A nine year difference is a big one, but ultimately, it's going to be your child's choice once they reach 18. If it's meant to be, it's going to be regardless, and you have the choice of either embracing it or making your 17 year old choose between you and what is now perceived to be true love. If it's not meant to be, it won't last, and your child will need your unconditional love and support when it fails.

You can't win by arguing against it. You have to let your kids make their own mistakes and be there to help them recover from them.

It's tough. Good luck.

Answer 5

You probably can't if she has a "crush" on him. Her emotions will leave her...uh...lacking rationality.
What you can do is tell her to ask herself, "What sort of 26 year old wants to date someone 8 or 9 years younger?" "Why isn't he dating other 26 y.o.'s?" She'll be mad as h. that you raised these questions but trust that they will be there in her head.
But the more you tell her he's wrong, the more she'll want him a) b/c she just does and b) to prove you're not running her life. If you make too big of a deal out of it, she'll hang on to him just to win.
Last but not least, they do listen to us even when they don't seem to.
Good luck.

Answer 6

well my parents were 9 years apart. so its not really a big deal but in a way it is bcuz shes just starting out her life and its not like hes the only guy out there that'll be interested in her. although she may be thinking hes the only one for her. i'm 17 myself and a 23 year old man asked me when i turn 18 if i'd go out with him and i explained to him hes better off finding someone his own age. bcuz my life is just begining.

Answer 7

actually um if shes turning 18 soon leave it alone if hes a good guy i was 17 when i married a 25 year old and we have no kids and have been married for along time is she matture? does she know what shes doing? i would let her learn by herself or she might just turn on you and go marry him in a couple of months. oh and my parents approved of him greatly so it wasnt a rebeling thing

Answer 8

You will never convince any 17 or 18yo ANYTHING, especially if it has to do with your judgment being better than theirs. I say encourage it. Right now the attraction is probably the fact that she knows y'all hate it!

If she really really likes the guy, warn her (again) about guys going after one thing and tell her to hold out on him. Otherwise she'll be dumped like yesterday's garbage.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

You cant! At this point she feels that she is wise enough to make her own decisions. You would be better off sitting down with both of them at dinner. Get to know this guy and then ask him what his intentions are. If he just wants to "hit and split" unfortunately she may have to learn it the hard way. No pun intended. But let her know you disagree but will support her and her relationship if that is what she wants. If you talk her head off it will only cause her to continue to date older men but only behind your back!