im nineteen, no longer in school, and am not going to college, and i recently moved to so. cal. because i was tired of being cold all the time back in my hometown in montana. ive been here for a few months but i am finding it really hard to make friends down here, any advice anyone?
2007-03-07 00:48:59 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well first of all make it very clear that you want to buy them things. Friends like to have friends they can walk all over.
2007-03-07 00:52:51 · answer #1 · answered by seminole0885 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You can make friends at work or you can start doing volunteer work in your spare time. Remember, for everyone you meet, they have friends too. That's called "networking". You're going to have to make the first move most of the time and smile and be open so people will feel relaxed around you. But once you get the hang of it, meeting new people won't be a problem. Even if you hang out at a bookstore, before long you'll meet some one if you just open up and allow them to approach you; or you approach them first. Also, CA is nothing like Montana. So I would be careful. One good connection could really help you a lot. Godloveya.
2007-03-07 00:57:51 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off, coming from Montana and going straight to the belly of the beast has got to be prety rough. Everything is going faster than your used to and the people seem like jerks. Most of the people are, but the other ones are usually putting on a front because everybody else does. Once that front goes away you'll find it way easier to make friends. Just stay optimistic about the whole thing, but be careful there are a lot of people that will act like your pal then they turn around and show you all different kinds of faces! Keep your cool and your friends will find you.
2007-03-07 01:29:30 · answer #3 · answered by im stuck someone grab a hose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to find new friends in a new town is to just be yourself. Find groups or volunteer doing stuff that you are interested in. That way you meet people that you have stuff in common with. I am sure there are a lot of volunteer things to do there. If you like to bowl hang out at the bowling alley and join a team. If you like to play basketball go to the local recreation center and find out about getting on a team. It is hard in a new town I have just moved a few months back out of the country and that makes it even harder. At first I thought that I would never make friends but get out and about. You can do it I am sure. And remember you can only have friends if you are a friend. Good luck. It is hard but you can do it.
2007-03-07 00:55:36 · answer #4 · answered by Virginia B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good grief! This is one of the simplest things to do. CIRCULATE!
Get out and volunteer for the Red Cross, for the Salvation Army, for the Good Will. Go to church meetings. You don't have to be religious to meet people at different church meetings. There are a lot of others that are doing the same thing. You can volunteer at the local children's hospital that is always looking for help. The VA hospital is in dire need of volunteers. Since you have access to the Internet, go to Google, type in "volunteer organizations in" and then type in your city. You'll get more information than you can act on in the next five years!
Don't sit around feeling sorry for yourself. Pity parties never accomplish anything. Get out of yourself and do something for someone else and it will come back to you a hundred times over.
2007-03-07 01:11:30 · answer #5 · answered by pianofritz2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you answered my question about college and no im not a spoilt brat and i know what a job is if you must know iv not long lost my job and im looking for a new one now! the only reason i lost the job i had was because my boss needed to cut down hours! im 17 years old and iv been working since the age of 12 and stayed in full time education another reason why i am not working at my last job is because i got kicked out i had to move into my boyfriends from there i have to get a train to work and there isnt any trains that would get me to work on time so if your going to judge someone and be a ******* wanker about it you should get your facts straight first
2007-03-07 01:12:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aren't you located near a beach? Hang out there, if you're a guy you can feel free to be outgoing and forward(girls like that stuff) If you're a female then search for groups of girls that seem accepting. If that's not your thing go to clubs, like jazz clubs or dance halls, that have your interests or new ones for you and you're sure to find people that will talk to you there and maybe some that don't even like what you're both watching.(lol) If that still doesn't do it for you then you should try picking up hobbies like sports or an athletic group in your town's fitness center, you're bound to find someone that likes what you like as well. good luck, sounds tough
2007-03-07 01:09:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the most important thing at all is having the same intrests and talk about them too and as anew boy in a school i might say that being on your nature in good and lieing some white lies is good too , be confedent , and dont forget the smile or laghing on jokes that even are not funny ...
and by the way after you meet the lucky friend invite him home and make alittle party of you kind and then you will know him more and more
hope you have your friend
2007-03-07 01:17:26 · answer #8 · answered by mohsenbawab 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get involved with a club or organization, church group, volunteer, hook up with some people from work, etc. There are all kinds of ways to make friends.
2007-03-07 00:52:23 · answer #9 · answered by Jewel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go hang around the beach towns...at first you will not be accepted...because you like a foreigner.
You have to hang around daily.....like the same place...offen...they will warm up...takes a good long time.
2007-03-07 01:25:09 · answer #10 · answered by Bobbie4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋