My husband is a mama's boy. His mom meddles on almost all our affairs all the time and it seems that as his youngest son, my hubby is fine with it, too considerate to not even do something about it. She watches our expenses, scolds our kids, rearrange my furniture, blah blah blah,,, even telling me to do something about baby booming without me soliciting any advice for that matter. My mom doesn't do any of these & I grew up really independent. I need her to stop in a way where we can be civil about things. She's old about 70. Please help.
2007-03-07 00:39:49 · 20 answers · asked by one hot momma 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell her to keep her nose out, nicely as you can. Be firm.
2007-03-07 00:43:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to stand up to his mom and grow up already. You should come first. She already raised her kids. She should not be reprimanding your kids that's your responsibility not hers. Does she live in your home that she is rearranging your furniture? Even if she is she should not be moving anything around in your home. I suggest that you have a talk with her since your husband isn't doing anything about this. Being that she is 70 be kind and firm at the same time. This is not acceptable in any marriage. Good Luck!
2007-03-07 01:07:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My Husband is a big mamas boy too. So here is my advice when she starts rearranging your furniture go over and say that's OK Ive got this and put it back where you had it. Scolding your kids is another story. I'm a free spoken person and i would not put up with that. when she starts i would say these are my kids and i will discipline them. Hope this helps. Good luck to you.
2007-03-07 00:47:19 · answer #3 · answered by Trisha m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband how you feel and tell him your relationship should be between you and him not his family at all. A relation ship can crumble this way. I know. If this doesn't work ask to have some coffee with the mother one day and talk seriously to her. Let her know you want to feel like you have a say so in your family. She is another part of your family that shouldn't come in to your home and run it. When a man marries a woman he leaves his family to start a new one. A family can only run on two people's shoulders. The wife and husband. NOT the mother.
Good luck I know its a hard situation and you are probably tore up over it. Much love
2007-03-07 00:46:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 11:38:09 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL. my mother in law is the same age..................and even though my husband is a mama's boy as well, she would never DREAM of doing what yours is doing.
What you CAN do, is put your bills and financial items up (not a good idea leaving them around anyway) and NICELY tell her that you do not need any help running YOUR home, and when you do (think of something that she COULD help you with) she will be the first you come to.
As for your husband, explain to him exactly what is going to be done about his mother, and if he does not like it, he should be the one to tell her to mind her own affairs. Do NOT let him get away with this, if you don't put a stop to it now, you will be in for years of misery.
2007-03-07 00:59:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly where you're coming from, and honey, you're in for a ride! Age is NOT the issue - regardless of her age, she has NO right to meddle in the marriage. The only time she should ever be scolding your children is if she is providing care for them in your absence. Your husband (AND his mother) need to realize that he is NOT "mommy's little boy" anymore...he is a grown man and he is YOUR HUSBAND. Your marriage is supposed to be his FIRST priority - not his mother! The bible says "A man shall leave his mother, and a woman leave her home, and the two shall cleave unto each other and become one." Seems to me that every woman I know had no problem leaving her home, but every man I know has issues when it comes to leaving his mother! Until he realizes & accepts this, and gets the backbone to confront his mother about it, you're fighting a losing battle. Talk with him and ask him if you can seek marital counseling together regarding the issue. Best of luck to you! (It took my husband almost 20 years to finally cut the apron strings, and he STILL has his weak moments!)
2007-03-07 01:42:52 · answer #7 · answered by Romans 8:28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too was a mamas boy and it took my second wife to point this out to me..she had a lot of experience with momma boys and always seem to end up with one..she was a good mother...two boys and two girls..but they were all had different fathers and i was her second husband but we had no children..well she was well experienced as she was part American Indian on her father side..but she got me off the mamma's boy kick..but we ended up divorced cause she was a good worker but a better drinker then i was..she was alcoholic.
well my mother got oldtimeers disease AD and died at 79..but she died a lonely women in the nursing home and even her only daughter (me sister) had nothing to do with her ..her love was only for her three boys..ha ha..
YOU will have to take the higher ground and keep trying to get your husband to grow up and be a real man...it can be done..have faith and don't give up....but if you do give up ...don't get another mommas boy as women have a tendency of making the same mistakes over and over again..and men do this too?
2007-03-07 00:51:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, she doesn't have a lot of years left, so, as morbid a thought as this may be, it will stop long before your marriage is over.
however, in the meantime, all i can do is give you my sympathy because my hubbys a mama's boy too. Actually, i'm pretty sure they all are...
I have to constantly remind him that our finances (for one) are none of his mom's business, i actually had to tell him my therapist said so (she did) to get him to actually believe there's a problem there.
We don't have kids yet but i can only imagine how bad that must be...
2007-03-07 00:47:28 · answer #9 · answered by Some Lady 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm going through the same thing, his mother has gone as far as to insult me since I am an American (I live in Guatemala) I won't say anything to my mother-in-law because she will exaggerate it to my husband. Tears work for an elderly lady.
I told my husband to get off her tit. He is allowing her to do this, and he is allowing her to disrespect me!
Explain to him that you and your kids are his family now, and you damn well better be more important than his mommy.
I did this, and my husband stands up for me alot more, and actually says "no" to his mom,
2007-03-07 03:31:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are stuck with a Mama's boy...because they do not change....even when mom dies...she still has a hold over him.
It's unreal.
I could tell u a long story...but....2 long.
Just believe it.
Stand up to her...tell your husband to cut those Apron Strings
or ELSE.
2007-03-07 00:58:58 · answer #11 · answered by Bobbie4u 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋