For three months, he had been treating me like a dog and he broke up with me again n again. He would come back to me afterwards. Then he started abuses again. Then he tried to break up again. The same thing went on every week. I really can't take it anymore. I can't bear to live without him either. I really love him so much. I dont want to lose him. Thats y i was trying to take everything. I really dont know how i can forget him..How i can move on my life without him?? Pls help me..
2007-03-07 00:25:37 · 17 answers · asked by rose 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Oh Sweety, you deserve so much more than you are allowing yourself to have. I know how you feel. I went thru the same thing and I always wanted him back too. I know you won't believe this right now, but, if you did stay away from him for a while your feelings would begin to change towards him. I felt like no one else would ever do, like he was the only man I would ever be capable of loving. So, it made it even harder for me to understand how he could hurt me like this over and over and over again! This went on for me for 4 yrs. I finally realized that it was something a lot deeper than even I knew. I just really needed to belong to someone, I needed to be loved so bad, and I had fought for that relationship so hard and for so long, that that was just what I was trained to do!!!! And so I just kept fighting. I couldn't accept the fact that it was over, or that all my efforts were in vain. I was stubborn. And by not being able to "fix" my relationship, it just made me crazier. I was literally driving myself nuts. I started having anxiety disorders, and sometimes thought I was gonna have a nervous breakdown. Anyway, to make a long story short,,,,,,you just have to leave him, cause that is part of the problem too. He's always been the one to leave,,,,,,,not you! Think about it! And good luck!
2007-03-07 00:39:36 · answer #1 · answered by kathy l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You put one foot in front of the other and leave him. Contact your family for support, that's what they are there for and allow yourself to feel bad for a couple weeks and then move on. You can't live your life being treated like a dog. What would you tell someone in the same situation? Leave him. You wil find a nice man that will treat you like the queen you deserve to be treated like, not a dog. Two years from now, if you leave, your life will be so much better you will wonder why it took you so long to end it.
2007-03-07 00:31:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out of that toxic relationship sooner than later. Face it, it is going to end eventually. Call him, tell him you don't want to be with him anymore because you are unhappy and that is all the explanation he deserves. Put all his belongs on the front porch so you don't have to see him face to face. Change your phone number. DON'T call him. Stay with a friend or relative (or in a hotel) for a while so he can't stop by. Surround yourself with friends and hobbies to get your mind a way from him. And start dating other people. Even if you are not ready for a relationship with someone else, a few first dates will really help you start to move on emotionally.
2007-03-07 00:36:30 · answer #3 · answered by I know EVERYTHING! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People allow others to treat them badly because they have low self esteem. The way out of this cycle is for you to live for yourself first. Establish some goals, (where do want to be in 5 yrs?) etc. Take steps to reach those goals, (school, training, career change). As you move towards where you want to be in life youll find that you dont have a need for anyone else, then you will meet the person for you. You will have the confidence to blow off creeps that treat you bad.
2007-03-07 00:38:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man like this is unworthy of your love.Dont let him treat you this way,you deserve better.There is someone out there for you,who will treat you with the respect you deserve.Dont let this continue,break away from him.Keep yourself busy you will get over him in time. You are not a doormat,dont let him use you this way.he would not make a good husband or father this way.The abuse could get worse.He does not care about your feelings at all.
2007-03-07 00:36:03 · answer #5 · answered by canteloupesweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's one thing you have to understand here. Nobody can help you if you refuse to help yourself. You said he had been treating you like a dog, then what did you do for yourself? Understand this, unhealthy relationship gets you no where. For once, treat yourself with respect. You know that the man is bad, why is it that you keep letting him back into your life? Wise up. Your life is yours, and you take full control. It's yours to make or ruin.
2007-03-07 00:33:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to learn not to let an abuser back into your life...again and again. Second learn to live without an abuser because he is ABUSING you. Seek a counseling group and learn to break the cycle. Clearly you are not able to see it on your own. Third, move on and don't look back. Why...because he is an ABUSER.
2007-03-07 00:31:05 · answer #7 · answered by father of 4 husband of 1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please please please stay away from him.Hes done you a favor ,finishing with you.Don't go back as you can do much much better than him,he doesn't deserve you and you don't deserve how hes been treating you.Have some self respect and confidence in yourself to say,I'm not taking that from any person ever again.If he truly loved you (which i doubt)he wouldn't treat you this way.Find someone wonderful who will treat you like a princess,and take your feelings into consideration.ASK yourself this question....would you hurt,abuse,upset,make cry,make unhappy,treat this way,anyone you loved,or even someone you didn't love????????I BET THE ANSWERS NO.So don't expect to be treated that way yourself.It isn't OK. weather someone loves you or hates you, to do this to you.He may promise not to treat you this way again and will definitely sound sincere,but please hes lying to you ,i promise.It will only get worse it always does and hes no different to all those millions of men that have made the same promises to millions of women before you .they will all tell you the same as me.don't believe him
2007-03-07 00:49:15 · answer #8 · answered by patsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will b hard 2 get over him, u will NEVER 4get about him, but u need 2 leave him no matter how hard it is, leave now the longer u stay the harder it will b 2 leave, give ur self time b4 getting n2 a new relationship, b honest with the new guy-tell him what u have been thru-cause some of what u went thru will affect the new relationship (there will b no surprises)
2007-03-07 00:30:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a strong woman you dont need a man on your arm to feel complete even though i no it helps but you will be better off with out him u dont need guys like that you have to love yourself more then him so for your own respect just move on i no its hard but its something that has to be done xx if you need some1 to talk to my addy is
xjohncenaluvax@yahoo.com.sg so add me xx good luck
and dont let him get away with it anymore
2007-03-07 00:32:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋