For example performing oral sex he will stop me, and start arguing that it makes him feel guilty. I explain that it can be a 2 way street, but he only wants to argue. Then he tells me its my fault we are arguing, I dont think i started it, i thought I was doing something else, in the end he always gets up gets dressed and leaves for "work". Don't know what to do anymore......
2007-03-07 00:15:03 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He always loved when I would perform oral sex, for over 4 years never a problem always asking for it, and sex, now its down to this. He says he feels guilty because I get nothing out of it, thats kind of where the 2 way street comes in, its nice but not expected. I feel that if I do this he doesnt have to do anything for me. Oral sex is a means of getting to sleep with out all the fuss. Maybe im just wrong, dunno anymore
2007-03-07 01:05:10 · update #1
Before jumping to conclusions about cheating, as some of the other answers have stated, you should have a conversation about what he is going through. I've heard of some men feeling guilty about getting oral sex because their partner wasn't good at it. It hurt them and they didn't want to tell them out of fear of hurting their feelings. Start it by saying you're not upset or angry, but just worried about the situation. Be honest about the feelings you've had and assure him that you do care about the relationship.
The number one thing that causes marriages, and relationships in general, to fail is lack of or bad communication. Having been married since 2002, and seeing how communication can make or break your relationship, I can certainly vouch for that.Try to talk with him about it as much as you can, as calm as you can. Hopefully you can get it resolved and get things back to good.
WARNING: This will take an insane amount of patience and effort, but if the relationship is worth it to you, it will be worth the effort in the end.
2007-03-07 00:48:06 · answer #1 · answered by bignate_2000 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It could mean one or more of a few things. He may be gay. Imagin a woman wanting to go down on you all the time... if you are straight that would be a turn off. Maybe he is having an affair. This affair could be with a man or a woman. Anyway- the situation you are in is not a good one. The sign of a healthy man pushing a healthy woman away from pleasurable acts in the sanctity of marriage is just not right. Whatever it is- save yourself years of anguish and find out whats going on or who else is going down.
2007-03-07 00:52:11 · answer #2 · answered by jeweledfruit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You....perorming oral sex on him...makes HIM feel guilty? Honey...after reading the rest of your statement here theres more to this than you think. I think its safe to say that if a couple starts arguing right in the middle of an intimate act than something is amiss. better sit him down and insist you want to know what the problem is and how are WE going to address it. His response will tell you if he's willing to get the air clear or if you have to think about sending him packing.
2007-03-07 00:24:57 · answer #3 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yep his mind is somewhere else & he starts an arguement because of his guilt.Why else would a guy turn down oral?Have you noticed any other signs that he might be cheating?If you have then trust your instincts.
2007-03-07 00:41:07 · answer #4 · answered by Another Planet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth is he feeling guilty? Something is very wrong with this picture, I'm afraid.
Maybe he has cheated? Sorry but, your husband's behaviour is very odd and clearly, it's coming from somewhere.
2007-03-07 00:34:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that your husband may be having an affair. You need to confront him about this. His pattern has changed and that usually means that something else is going on. Find out now before its too late.
2007-03-07 02:45:21 · answer #6 · answered by jjeano661 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps your husband was a victim of sexual abuse when he was young...? or he was taught that sex is an unclean act?
it sounds as if your husband is confused about his feelings, sex and relationships, what with the arguing and blaming YOU.
you can't change your husband.. HE has to change himself. there is nothing YOU can do, short of suggesting therapy so that things can be worked through.
good luck.. you're probably going to need it !
2007-03-07 00:54:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he feels guilty because he doesn't love you any more. He argues hoping you well break it off and save him from having to do it. Go find a real man who can tell you what is going on in that head of his....
2007-03-07 00:24:18 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Is he cheating? I mean what kind of guy would argue to find excuses not to have sex?
2007-03-07 00:39:58 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's turned gay. What you need to do is shave your
p u s s y, find and man and let him eat you out while you take pictures of him licking you until you c u m. The put the pictures on the nternet and show your husband. If he gets upset them maybe he'll start treating you right. If not, then at least you had a good time.
2007-03-07 00:27:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋