Four years together, a 3 year old daughter together, engaged and yet he still goes thru my cellphone, checks the wonderful (sarcasim) myspace to see if there are guys on my friends list, doesnt like me going to my grandmothers and if i do go i have to call him on my way over (she lives like five doors down mind you), i feel trapped, annoyed, and to be honest like i am nothing. It is literally pushing me to the end of my rope, I am human yet i am treated like i have no say so or control. and NO i have never cheated on him or given him a reason to act this way...any advice? oh and i do not go thru his phone or check his myspace cuz i dont care, i trust him...help.
2007-03-06 23:23:35 · 11 answers · asked by mrsbarber21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
we live together...so the go home to my parents do not work and the stop calling him doesnt either, thanks tho.
2007-03-06 23:31:39 · update #1
and i do love him but i am no longer sure if it is enough or worth all the stress and irritation. he claims to love me but i would do what he does to me...so i am not too sure about that, but at times i believe he does and dont think i dont know bout control...i was with an abuser for two years when i was 14, oh my god this is nuts.
2007-03-06 23:35:34 · update #2
to the addtional detail above i meant to say i would never do what he does to someone i love.
2007-03-06 23:36:29 · update #3
It sounds like you are very unhappy. If this is the case why stay. There are many other men out there that will treat you right. If your staying because of your daughter it is going to be harder on her if she has to hear yall fighting all the time. good luck
2007-03-06 23:29:55 · answer #1 · answered by feb29 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does engaged mean: you have a three year old daughter together and haven't gotten married? Sounds like you are two people who are sort of dating each other but sharing a living space and playing house because you have a child. Be clear about what you want. If you feel trapped, it's not because you can't walk out the door tomorrow with your daughter - no strings, right?
Have a serious talk together about what you want, where you want to be in the future and then act on your conclusions together. He may be waiting for you to cheat on him so he can leave the relationship. You may be chafing at his suspicions and thinking that might be a reason to leave the relationship. Neither of you is committed to this relationship - after 4 years and a child, you are not married - what does that tell you?
2007-03-10 18:59:07 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just quit calling him and do as you wish. If he gets mad go home to your parents house and tell him when he "grows up" you will come back. I could not live with this kind of jealousy I dont know how you do it.
Brightneo: She didnt "do" anything except normal activities like going to see her grandmother -he is the one who is in the wrong here!!!
2007-03-06 23:27:50 · answer #3 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not going to stop. It has happened so long its second nature to him. You need to stress how serious you are about your privacy. Tell him if you continue to snoop our engagement is done. If you never gave him any reason not to trust you then he needs to get over all those PAST ISSUES and look to a positive future. Your not a chld.
2007-03-06 23:30:33 · answer #4 · answered by kaliprincess82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run, run as far as you can get from this controlling person. People like that will consume your entire identity, and make you feel worthless.
PS--When people are distrustful, it is usally because they are not trust worthy. You might want to do some checking yourself!!
2007-03-06 23:35:30 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give him back his ring. he has a controlling behavior and it gonna get worse. he is one of those men that end up killing their wives or gf. dont marry this punk. he is no good. he is insecure and he knows it. he is gonna isolate u, make u feel crap abutou urself, ruin ur self esteem and get u to a place where u feel like u know good and u start to belevve the crap he feeds you.
2007-03-06 23:54:49 · answer #6 · answered by braille 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he really loves you? I think he is insecure and I don't see love. How about you, do you still love him? I guess your love already fading away. I sugguest you part way if you don't care about him. Take your daugher with you and you will be happier.
2007-03-06 23:30:04 · answer #7 · answered by Sabrina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while my acquaintances stored bugging me to spend time with them as a exchange of staying domicile on my own. i'm by technique of nature a loner. it drives me nuts considering the fact that i individually decide to be by technique of myself at circumstances, yet them bugging me exhibits that they care approximately me. and that i does not exchange that for the international.
2016-09-30 08:03:17 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And youre still with this over controlling freak why???? Get yourself and your little girl as far away from him as possible as quickly as possible!!
2007-03-06 23:26:48 · answer #9 · answered by minimouse68 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has issues and time for professional councilling because he is at point of habit.
It is not unique, lot of woman do it to men.
2007-03-06 23:26:49 · answer #10 · answered by bright_neon 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋