2007-03-06 23:15:42 · 22 answers · asked by b 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Look forward to the future - forget the past. You will soon forget last year when good things start to happen. Plan a nice holiday or trip somewhere with somebody you care about!!
2007-03-06 23:41:47 · answer #1 · answered by Chazza xx Baby born 7/11/09 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a simpe fact that you will never forget the last year! You can rarely forget what has happened (except in exceptional circumstances - amnesia?) but nor should you want to, every bad experience makes us what we are! As does every good experience.
Most people have a problem with times that have held bad memories because they do not know how to let go of them!
Some answers given so far say that you must look to the future, but I am afraid that to a great extent I disagree!
What has happened is already in the past, and what is to come is in the future (which often people worry about too), is something we cannot know.
The only time that is important is your present time. You CAN chose to live either in the past, or, in the future - but it is NOT the here and now, and that is the only realtiy that we really know.
A simple exercise (although it is hard work) is to be aware of when we are thinking back to the past ( a time we cannot alter) and challenge yourself to bring your mind back to what you are doing NOW.
Do this often, it becomes easier, and we learn to live with how we feel.
Yes, you will remember your past, and it is good to make future plans (though not to live in the future), but to make yourself happy again you need to live in the here and now.
Good luck :)
2007-03-07 15:02:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Last year is over, and unless you have committed some heinous act that refuses to go away, just look forward. The past is done and dusted and no matter what you did, or what happened to you there is nothing you can do about it now. I think that everyone experiences events which, with hindsight, we would avoid like the plague. Being realistic, we have to live with events and choices, there are no second chances, just different ones. Learn from your mistakes and go on because dwelling on things you have no control over, is pointless. It just drains your energy like a vampire sucking your blood.
2007-03-07 15:48:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, even if it was the worst year of your life, most assuredly you learnt something good from it so, you need to look at the good things and go from there..
It's always easy to dwell on the bad things that happen to us, they stand out SO well, but, we have to teach ourselves that good also happens, even if it's only 'small' good.
And, of course, you don't want to dwell on the past, because then, you're expecting it to come at you again. Learn from what happened last year and do your best to avoid those situations, and, above all else, find a support group, or a support person, to help you when it seems like things are starting to go sour.
2007-03-06 23:25:17 · answer #4 · answered by chuckufarley2a 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can never, and should never forget!! all life's trails and tribulations no matter how awful can teach us so much.
What you need to do is strive to establish and maintain a positive frame of mind and set a goal for this year, finacial, emotional, physical ect.. and concentrate your efforts on the acquisition and pursuit of this goal. Keep looking forward and try not to let you focus on your new goal slip, otherwise you will have time to dwell on the things you are trying to put behind you.
2007-03-06 23:28:42 · answer #5 · answered by tinyinnit 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not try to forget it .
Sorrow and troubles , are a part of our lives
We learn to appreciate the good times ,
by comparing them ,with what has gone before
Make sure this year and the future is better .
I wish you well , xx
do not forget , just learn and move on
>^,,^<
2007-03-06 23:30:14 · answer #6 · answered by sweet-cookie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
By making this year better
I had a bad year last year with, two lots of cancer in the family, three deaths of relatives, two deaths of dogs and i split up with my fiancee two days before christmas due to him cheating on me (we were together 6 years and meant to marry in May this year). I thought i'd been dealt a real bad hand, but do you know what it makes you stronger.
Go out with friends, meet new people, do new things (college courses, fitness, whatever) and you will soon find things start to turn around
2007-03-06 23:27:41 · answer #7 · answered by Elaine D 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You probably forget - depending upon what happened. I don't want to pry - but you can learn from it. God knows it's hard to move on, especially if you've been through horrible experiences. Nonetheless you can focus on where you want to be, on what's good about yourself, and on how to change your circumstances for the better.
We all learn from our mistakes and from our setbacks as we go along, that's what life's all about, isn't it? You can move on and I'm sure you will. You're strong. If you weren't, you wouldn't still be here. Have hope and go for what you want.
2007-03-07 15:03:12 · answer #8 · answered by Wildamberhoney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can practise some neurolinguistics exercises,for example there s one where you sit in front of an imaginary screen and there you see the worst image you experienced and then put it inside a big bubble and begin to see how it goes away until it is just a dot and then it disappears completely from your sight. it really works.!!!! if you are more interested in this matter go to the web and there you ll find a lot.THE BEST LUCK FOR YOU.
2007-03-07 15:34:55 · answer #9 · answered by hope55 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By making sure you make up for it this year. Its easy to dwell on the past but remember that is exactly what it is - the past!!! Have plenty of happy memories this year then you can look on the past as being helpful to where it has taken you.
2007-03-06 23:21:01 · answer #10 · answered by bobbleheado5 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋