Im in a relationship where the guy has two kids but it seems like the longer were together the more he isn't there for me emotionally. It feels like I have gone from girlfriend to maid and babysitter. I would feel bad leaving because the kids rely on me to get them up in the morning and feed them dinner but Im running out of love to give them because Im not getting anything from ther father. I know time is something I can't get back so I don't want to waste it on a relationship that really needs work.
2007-03-06 23:10:30 · 10 answers · asked by kaliprincess82 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I understand you feel responsibility to the kids but your making it so that he doesn't have to be responsible for his kids. You did not partake in making those kids so although you love them because you love him you shouldn't be or feel that responsible for them if he is not sharing it with you. If he does not give you any emotional support then what the heck good is he that is the most important part of a relationship Sounds to me like he is using you and maybe not even intentionally he just fell into that rut because you let him. You do need to move on because ultimately the most important person is you.
2007-03-06 23:23:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, well it's never too much to put into a relationship but the thing is here just seems like he is so busy with everything else and hey he counts on you big time and that my friend is not good. It's great when two people are giving but you are the only giver here and I don't think that's good for you. Now with the kids they have grown to love you and as well as yourself loving them, if you do leave you could still see them but on the other hand you should let your man know how your feeling and that he doesn't even give you the time of day and you need attention and if your not going to get it and for as much as you do well hey I'm sorry but things just aren't working out.
Good luck.
2007-03-06 23:28:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the father. And if by any chance the love is gone, prepare the kids for not having you around, or at least hire a different babysitter. Don't leave with only presumptions - make sure you have the whole story.
2007-03-06 23:17:48 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems you are giving too much. It's wonderful you are there for his kids but what about your feelings and needs. I would openly talk with him about how you feel, maybe he does not realize how you are feeling emotionally negelected. If he refuses to listen move on you can still be there for his kids but nobody should be made to feel like they are giving 125 percent in a relationship and in return getting back zero.
2007-03-06 23:16:06 · answer #4 · answered by bbinqueens33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What attracted you to him in the first place? Did he take care of his kids before you came along. Is he a good father? Does he support you?
I would take a long look at that relationship, don't stay for the kidsif there is nothing there.
2007-03-06 23:51:20 · answer #5 · answered by ladybugjan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is very important in a relationship,tell him your heart, if he is not understanding then he just needed someone to look after the kids. Move on but dont involve the kids they are vey innocent.
2007-03-06 23:28:40 · answer #6 · answered by Musumba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are his partner, not the babysitter. And let him know that if he doesn't starting treating you like his partner, he is definitely going to need a babysitter!!
2007-03-06 23:41:38 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him how you are feeling. Then decide what you should do after his response.
He may not realize what he is doing to you. That can happen when people get relaxed in a relationship.
2007-03-06 23:16:35 · answer #8 · answered by twyla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like he is using you. get out now before you waste your time and get to emontionally attached to the kids. don't be his doormat..
2007-03-06 23:22:05 · answer #9 · answered by raven1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him and move on...
2007-03-06 23:13:23 · answer #10 · answered by Forlorn Hope - returned 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋