I am 25 weeks pregnant and have a 2 year old daughter.It isn't often that my husband and I are in the mood at the same time.He is in the military and works long hours.We don't have much time left in our day to really do anything romantic.It seems that whenever he's in the mood I should just drop my pants when he says to,but when I'm in the mood (trust me right now me being in the mood is a big deal seeings how the last 24 weeks have been pretty much sexless due to pregnancy hormones) he's either too tired,not in the mood at the time or he's gone!Our relationship is hanging on to a thread because we never have time to be intament... what should I do?
2007-03-06 22:57:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Make a date night, spend that time with only each other, don't have to go out, order in. Don't talk work or kids or pregnancy, just try to get in touch with eachother again. A little bit of a lone time won't hurt either of you, might make you closer again, and at the end of the night, maybe you both might be in the mood.
2007-03-07 00:22:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hang on there. Lots of people are in the same situation and there is nothing much you can do about it at the moment. Not having sex does not mean you don't love each other. It is a difficult period for both of you and you can count on it being like that for a while with you having to take care of children and being tired and your husband working long hours and being tired too. I don't know how your husband is but if he can stay without sex for a longer period of time, then don't worry about it. Difficult times pass away and things get better. If he's the type that can't go a long time without sex, I would recommend doing it his way once in a while (that is dropping your pants the moment he's ready) so he doesn't get overly nervous and starts looking for the thing somewhere else. And you know, sometimes it is even relief to be able to do it quickly, not having to go through all that preliminary stuff and get a good night's sleep after that. Maybe after an instance or two, your hausband will be more prone to do it your way and at the time you want it.
2007-03-07 07:13:19 · answer #2 · answered by petyado 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Neither one of you are doing a very good job of prioritizing your life. You have to make it happen which means that sometimes you do need to just stop and drop your pants and bend over for him. And yes he needs to make the same happen occasionally for you so don't just say you are not in the mood. In fact you should say to him, honey let's not use the words not in the mood anymore.
2007-03-07 07:03:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Schedule time for yourselves just like at work. All work and no play makes for a unhappy marriage. Make the time because your both important and deserve some quiet adult time.
2007-03-07 07:04:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sheesh, you've found the time at least twice, haven't you??? Some people are never satisfied.
2007-03-07 07:00:44 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Buy yourself a great big dildo and f u c k yourself as much as you want and whenever you want.
2007-03-07 08:19:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Find a substitute... Ask for the marriage to be open so you can find someone else... Or pleasure yourself...
2007-03-07 07:03:15 · answer #7 · answered by Forlorn Hope - returned 6 · 0⤊ 4⤋
buy a vibrator
2007-03-07 07:08:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋