I will marry only a Christian!!?

Question

I have made up my mind on that!! My previous questions will you see on my profile will tell more. I love the non Christian girl more than ever. I fear of my own salvation too. So my decision is to be her good friend, try to make her know of my religion, if she decides to be a Christian then I date her and try her out and if we match then marry her. That's my plan. If she doesn't want to be a Christian I will still be nice to her because I love her so much. I will be praying for her and her family always that may they know God's truth. Yes it may break my heart so much not to date her or marry her if she doesn't want to be a Christian but I have to. I will love her forever till I die and shall be praying for her always. I dare to say she is much better than alot of Christian girls I know and I say this without thinking twice but main barrier is religion. She is the best girl I known in my life. God is first in my life. So that is my decision on this.

She is the best girl I known in the 28 years of my life and she is kind, gentle and understanding and she has a heart of gold. I don't know where to find a girl as good as her. I will try my best to trust the Holy Spirit in my life and if I have to be single all my life so be it. But I will trust him and his will be done in my life and not my will.

So the conclusion is may Holy Spirit's will and purpose be done in my life and all glory be unto him. I am not a good Christian and I don't claim I am one. But I definitely will try to be a good one from today onwards. Not sure If I will succeed to be a good Christian but I will try!!

So the conclusion is may Holy Spirit's will and purpose be done in my life and all glory be unto him. I am not a good Christian and I don't claim I am one. But I definitely will try to be a good one from today onwards. Not sure If I will succeed to be a good Christian but I will try!!

My question is did I make the right decision?

Answer 1

If you marry someone who has a different religion then you. How are you guys on the same path in life? Jesus is the Lord, and he died on the Cross for our sins!

Answer 2

I beleive in your decision. You are in your middle 20's, you are a mature person. The decision you made is a good one.except for the fact that you will try to convince her to become of your faith.

I do see that you are still fighting with your feelings,so I will try and give you the strength to keep to your decision. you have to look at the whole picture. How do you want raise your children? A peron always wants a better life for thier children,than they have had.

If you have to convince her to become a christian, and you succeed in doing so. She is obviously doing it for you, not for g-d. So her faith will not be in her gut, in her inner soul. After all she is now a non-believer.

Many things come up while raising children which you will both have to make decisions on. After the honeymoon is over, and you both come down to earth,(you know what I mean) If she does not agree with you then, it will cause disssention, and strife in your marraige.. Marraige in itself has allot of hurdles, even if people have the same strong belief in thier religion. Why add another hurdle that you will have to overcome? In order for a marraige to be successful there always has to be compromises, in any situation.

No one knows what the future brings. I am sure you know the divorce rate today is very high. G-d forbid if the marraige does not work out down the line. And you both go your separate ways. You will both have shared custody of the children. There is no guaranatee that she will raise them of the christian faith, as you had to convince her to begin with.

The core of a persons beleif in thier religion is instilled in a child from day one. If the marraige dissolves, and she does not continue to raise them in the christian faith they will grow up confused about there stabulity in religion, and it will ultimately effect thier emotional stability.

I am sure she is all you say she is, but you are taking a chance, a 50/50 chance. You have a 100% chance, in finding a girl that is Christian, and has all the same qualities of this girl. Your love for her is BLINDING you. If you had One million dollars, would you invest it in something with 50% chance of losing the money. Well that is how you have to look at it. You have 50% chance of losing your children from the Christian faith. Is that the risk you want to take?

If I have not convinced you then go to your Minister. When you do ask his opinion, give him the pobabilities of what I advised you. It will definitly have a bearing on his decision.

G-d is testing your faith now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I hope I have given you the strength to stick to your convictions. May the lord bless you, and your future.

Answer 3

I am a Christian and was raised that way. I met a Non-Believer 5 years ago, but instead of walking away from him, I prayed about the situation and asked for God's guidance. In our second year together, we had some problems and split a few weeks. We Loved each other and talked about what was wrong in our relationship and I told him if he did not start going to Church with me and at least try to understand how I felt, we simply would not make it. That was 4 years ago and now he reads the Bible almost daily, plays Golf with our Pastor, and we are stronger and happier than ever.

Answer 4

Let her go. Stop stringing her along if you dont want to spend the rest of your life with her. There is a man out there waiting for her hand and she wont be able to grab it if you are teasing her giving her hope it may work out some how.
Anyway- The path to your spirituality is in your heart. And jesus would never tell you to only marry another Christian. All religions want the same things- love, peace and harmony. Its the details that make them different. Come on, you dont think God would send you to hell because you married a woman that believed a certain chapter of the bible meant something different to your belief? Its not that serious- love is love.
But seriously, let her go if you dont want her. I feel bad for her.

Answer 5

Being a Christian means that you are changed on the inside, not controlled from the outside. It means that your heart has been changed by the presence of God. It does not mean that you are required to go to church, required to pay tithes, required to be good, required to do anything in order to stay a Christian. It means you desire to do those things because you've been changed.

This indwelling of the Spirit of Christ in the spirit of an individual is the life and presence of the Person and Being of the risen Lord Jesus. Paul encouraged the Corinthians to evaluate whether they were really Christians, by asking, "Do you recognize this about yourselves, that Jesus Christ is in you?" (II Cor. 13:5). The spiritual mystery of the gospel is "Christ in you, the hope of glory" (Col. 1:27); the basis on which Paul declares, "It is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me..." (Gal. 2:20).

So, being a Christian means that you have encountered the true and living God and that you have undergone a change in your heart and soul. It means that you are not restricted to the Law's of right and wrong in order to please God because you cannot please God by what you do. God will only find pleasure in you through Jesus Christ.

So who do you think you are to judge someone who has yet to experience this?

Answer 6

If the girl is not a christian or has no faith in got then it is your duty and a Christan to give her that knowledge. I'm not saying push your beliefs on her because that is the fasted way to push some one from you. Just talk to her about god and take it from there.. The beliefs of others can not effect your salvation unless you let it by loosing your faith or giving up on it to please some one else

Answer 7

John, I am glad that as a Christian you only want to marry a Christian woman. The Bible tells us that we are not to be unequally yoked. I am a firm believer that it means that we should not marry someone not of our religion. It would lead to serious problems... trust me!!! If it is meant to be with you and this said girl, God will answer your prayer for her salvation. If not, keep your faith in our Father... you never know who he has waiting for you. Good luck.

Answer 8

You are very closed minded if you refuse to marry a girl because she isnt christian even though you love her more than anything. Drop your prejudices and stay with the girl. Love should mean more than religion. Doesn't Jesus say in the bible 'there are many room in my father's house'...? God won't condemn you.

Answer 9

well if that's what you decided a Christian women would be great for you at least your smart and not like a lot of men meet at bar's or off the street it sounds like your a nice christain young man church might be a start for you to find that special women

Answer 10

you may be the oldest christian virgin we may all know , but on the other hand , if you do land a christian girl dont expect the marraige to be smooth sailing , all you have is the foundation to a happy marraige , by having the christian morals to work with, you still have to be true to yourself , and not be a hypocryte , and hide behind god , non christain and christian marraiges are simalar to each other receiving a statistical simalarity to each other ..
what ever happens to your life will depend on gods will anyway , but the foundation is there for a strong future with this type of relationship - having god as number one for both of you.

Answer 11

I agree with you, don't disregard your values because she isn't respectful of them.....You should marry someone whom shares the same values as you and loves Jesus the same as you do, that way you will both serve Christ first, and then each other, and then all these things will be added unto you (proverbs)