I want to marry my partner, I have the Ring and Everything...
here's the problem , he has married and divorced and it has left him a little scared as far as his opinion of marriage goes.
He was married to his ex wife for 10+ years and divorced a little over 3 years ago after she cheated on him (They where in a monogamous Relationship).
A Few weeks ago i asked him if he would ever get married again and he said maybe
He sees marriage as an unessasary "Trap" , divorce is a nightmare, and that all marriage is good for is the legal benefits you gain from them (Filing joint taxes ect.)
A few weeks before that i told his that i want to marry him and he said "so, you want to be Mrs. (his last name)" smiled and said "Ok" and just kept Rubbing my leg and smiling
Its very confusing
Side Note
* We are in a Responable Non monogamist relationship, I don't want this to change after marriage unless we come to an agreement that it should (Unlikely)
2007-03-06 20:54:20 · 6 answers · asked by Raven Ty Marx 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So, I guess my question is should i propose anyways, wait then do it , or wait for him to do it
I Love him to death and i want somthing more solid
2007-03-06 21:01:09 · update #1
If I understood you correctly.. you said that you are NOT in a monogomous relationship, and don't plan to be?? If that's the case, then I strongly advise you NOT to get married.. Marriage is about being committed to one and ONLY one person, physically, emotionally.. not running around with whoever you can because you both "agree" on it. So please, don't get married when you have that sort of lifestyle.. You'll only be making a mochary of a sacred commitment that you obviously have no desire to stay true to.
So, if you don't plan on being with just him.. then why the need to get married to the man?? That doesn't make sense.. Marriage is about commitment between two people, and you apparantly have no idea what that means.
I'm sorry.. but I strongly feel that anyone who thinks it's alright to be with others like you two do.. have no idea what marriage is all about.
It sounds like you just want to share his last name, and continue in that kind of lifestyle..
To be perfectly honest, I find your whole desire to be married, a bit ridiculous, considering how you have no desire to be monogomous in your relationship. If you two are alright "sharing" each other with whoever will have you, then that's all on you.. but to bring that type of lifestyle into the sacred union of marriage, well.. it's just disgusting.
2007-03-07 00:00:44 · answer #1 · answered by arkiegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would be different for you once married ? You can't push a person towards this, just sit back relax and enjoy your time together as a cpl.It is today that is important, the future comes don't rush it.He knows how you feel, just give things time.Bad reasons to marry are, to make your relationship secure, fear of being alone,wanting a big wedding...the some of good reasons are, for love, to make a commitment, starting a family..
2007-03-06 21:18:46 · answer #2 · answered by mother hen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is scary sometimes. I don't know what to tell you either. I wanted to get married, but the last girl I was with took about $10,000 I had & the car.
No, the law didn't help get any of it back.
It made me angry, wonder if marriage would be worth it sometimes.
2007-03-07 06:46:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, i do no longer think of that's suitable. in case you somewhat have the want to cause them to mad, act such as you do no longer know or see them after the breakup. seem to be purely high quality with out them. which would be plenty extra valuable then slashed tires or broken abode windows.
2016-12-18 17:01:45 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What exactly is the question?
2007-03-06 20:58:01 · answer #5 · answered by kenniemcooper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you avoid this person
2007-03-06 20:58:53 · answer #6 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋