i am a very devoted wife to my family and my children my husband keeps complaining about each work i do i am very hurt how can somebody just shout or get angry at every little thing to his wife he loves now i think he doesnt need me i feel sad i think he does not love me please add your suggestions
2007-03-06 20:36:22 · 18 answers · asked by %0oi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Have a one-on-one chat with him. Let him know that his actions hurt. You are afterall his wife and not his punching bag. If he has a difficult time at work that does not mean the world is against him. Don't take it in silence. Speak up.
2007-03-06 20:40:50 · answer #1 · answered by SGElite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually he probably loves you more than you realize. It sounds like your hubby is under extreme stress and something is bothering him and as usual in nature, he/we take it out on those closest to us,which is usually those we love the most. What is bothering him is really hard to tell without knowing either of you on here. You need to know that chances are that you and your kids are not the main problem and just have to be patient, things will always change. Just show him you love and care for him no matter what and that you are there to listen if and when he wants to talk. Right now he probably feels he cant talk to you for whatever reason so hes keeping it inside himself. But you dont need to question his love for you by his actions, worry if they stop and he gets real distant. Good luck
2007-03-06 20:53:13 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him and tell him how you feel.
Tell him that you cant cope with the constant criticisnma nd it makes you feel like you have no value to the family. Ask him why he has a problem with the things you do and ask him straight out if he still loves you. He might be getting angry with you for many reasons and you may be able to help him with those.
You may also need some couples councelling. Dont discount it, asit can be really helpful and get you two talking in a truthful and constructive manner.
Be strong and try and work through it with him. He also has to know that you feel devoted but unloved.
Good luck!!
2007-03-06 20:42:08 · answer #3 · answered by salsabrunette 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would seem to me a good idea to re-ask this question instead of one run-on sentence.
Maybe you were upset when you typed it, but, if you could take time and utilize the space given, and give more paticulars and separate your statements from your questions within your narrative, it might be more helpful to allow others to better answer that truly care to address your dillema.
I'm not trying to be critical, and yes, I see others have answered already, but, I think you would be better served to write a more lucid post.
I mean, you want thoughtful and sincere answers. It would be better to understand your situation with some more information. You more or less just blurted it out.
If you decide not to re-post, I wish you the best just the same, but, think others may be able to better help you with a clearer and ariculate narrative.
2007-03-06 20:50:53 · answer #4 · answered by The Sylvan Wizard 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ya, speak up. Simply just TALK to him and ASK him why is he acting like that and his hurting you.
But dont ask him right away if you think his mad or his having a bad day again.
The best way to approach him is when his in a good mood or even after you guys made love. Then you can talk to him about it.
Tell him how you feel when he gets home and all you hear is complains. Tell him it hurts you a lot. Tell him you love him dearly and your telling him this because you care for him/your family/ and your marriage.
*YOU KNOW, TO HAVE A GOOD RELATIONSHIP. YOU GUYS HAVE TO HAVE A GOOD COMMUNICATION AND OF COURSE COMPROMISE.
Hope goes well & God bless you and your family....
2007-03-06 20:48:55 · answer #5 · answered by MizBeingCute 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi! I think you should try to talk to your husband about it and tell him how you feel right now. He may have some problems at work or stress which cause him to have a bad temper at home. Sometimes the more you love a person, the more you will tend to throw your tantrum at him/her as deep inside your heart you know that only this person can tolerate and forgive you.
2007-03-06 20:45:25 · answer #6 · answered by blurqu33n 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is shouting at you alot that is not a good thing, nor is it healthy for you or your kids. You need to have a serious talk with him and let him know how he is making you feel. And if he dosent like the way you do things around the house-tell him to do it himself!
2007-03-06 20:43:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you got to explain a lot in the questions like this.if you are devoted so much, you can make efforts to do things perfectly according to the wishes OK your husband.may be after this you can ascertain ,whether your husband continues his shouting .If he is having some problem outside ,in his job or with drinking habit that's a problem for you. however ,to suggest to the extent of your question, instead of crying you could make yourself worthwhile ,more. good luck.
2007-03-06 20:46:29 · answer #8 · answered by dpkdrj 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Man would be nagging or getting upset alot if he doeasnt have his own space. Leave ur man alone, Leave him feel the he have his space, leave sit in his cave for hours, dont be very emotional. Men are like rubber bands when he feels he got his space he will pull back just like a rubber band.... and be a goody goody
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2007-03-06 22:49:11 · answer #9 · answered by Productive 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong in crying. People cry after seeing a cinema.
But your problem is not about the crying. It is about the treatment meted out to you by your husband. This needs to be sorted out mutually.
Perhaps some thing else has been bugging him outside of home. Sort it out as long as he is not a chauvinist.
2007-03-06 20:43:44 · answer #10 · answered by cnsone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋