he left her 2yrs ago to come live with me i fell in love with him now he has gone back for the kids he says he says they dont even stay in same bed? he still wants to keep seeing me what shall i do?
2007-03-06 20:24:37 · 36 answers · asked by purdy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
trust me on this one hun, leave him alone. I myself got involved with a married man 11 years ago, after 2 years he left his wife, lived with me, but kept seeing her regularly promising nothing was going on, after a while i found out he was still sleeping with her. He promised me it had ended and that he wanted me, i gave him a second chance. Then another year passes and i find out AGAIN that he never ended it with her. All in all i continued this battle for about 4 years in which time i had twins to this man, I tried and tried to forgive and forget, each time thinking it would end eventually with her, and he would settle, his excuse always being about his other kids with her and the guilt he felt for leaving em.
Eventually hun, you find you are fighting a losing battle and destined for a life of never ending heartache.
I am still with the same man even after he put me through a few different affairs with different people due to the fact that it shattered my confidence and i have 3 kids to consider.
if i could have 11 years back, i would have got rid as soon as poss and moved on. You have the chance to do this and i reccommend that you do.
i know you love him, but thats what allows him to mess you about, because he can toy with your feelings knowing you will never leave him or say no.
trust me hun, say no now and stick with it, if he truly loves you he will leave his wife again and choose you, but he doesnt have to make a choice at the moment does he, as both women are letting him get away with it in the hope he will soon make a choice.
let me know how you get on hun, i know its hard, but please try, its not worth the years of misery, xxxx
good luck
xxxxxxx
2007-03-06 21:27:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's got to be really hard on you. Ask yourself this - do you want to be with a man that isn't fully committed to the relationship? Going back for the kids sake is really bad. To be honest him and his wife will most likely split in the future anyway. It will not be worth waiting for that to happen.
Move on. It will be hard but time heals and soon you could meet someone that will love you as much as them. You may even discover all the things that may have been wrong with the relationship. Love is blind - be smart and don't let it get your better judgement.
2007-03-06 20:37:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 07:29:39 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has chosen his wife and you must accept his decision, do not be there for him just to come and have sex now and again. He will play both of you off if you give him the chance. His wife is perhaps making him stay in the spare room until she is sure of him again. You can do better he will always be a player and you will be the one that gets hurt. Good luck
2007-03-06 23:24:27 · answer #4 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him no chance he wants to use you for sex if he wants you that bad he will come but it is a very hard thing to do to leave kids Ring and tell his wife he is still seeing you see what he does then That is what i did you could be wasting your time time is precious tell him to get sorted and i bet he is sleeping with his wife he could be telling you anything don't believe him all men are liars Get it sorted ring the wife find out the truth even if it hurts you willget over it
2007-03-06 22:17:26 · answer #5 · answered by nancy_habershon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be stupid! Bottom line he had a fling now it's over and you are a victim along with his poor wife! He has more than likely been seeing her on & off this whole time. And god knows who else! You were blinded by love you didn't see it coming but it's time to wake up girl! He will never divorce her never! In no time he will have another woman and mess around on her again! BET!!! You will be part of his harem or flock orbooty calls what ever you wnat to call it. Find yourself your own man! One that doesn't belong to anyone but you. You don't have to share!!!!
2007-03-06 20:27:00 · answer #6 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I doubt if he has gone back just for the kids, he could quite easily see the kids often, weekends and midweek if they live nearby or holidays if they dont. He probably thinks it will be easier and cheaper to live with his wife and kids and see you on the side. Don't bother, it's an insult, move on. Dont let him have his cake and eat it.
2007-03-06 21:49:25 · answer #7 · answered by jaygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can start by admitting that any man who'd leave his wife and children for another woman doesn't have any true moral values, and go on from there. If you let him continue seeing you, then he gets the best of both worlds, and you and his wife get the joy of sharing a selfish pig.
2007-03-06 20:29:12 · answer #8 · answered by JooniMoon 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to take a hike - he's using you as his shagging stop on the way home - Tell him to P**s Off and go look after his kids - which in all fairness he should have been doing in the first place!
This happens all to often and people like you (no disrespect) know what the outcome will probably be but you allow it to continue and then feel crap when it all goes wrong - Sorry but you are equally to blame in this -
2007-03-06 20:29:18 · answer #9 · answered by jamand 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
He's probably been sleeping with his wife everytime he popped home to see his kids - thats what they do!
Thats what happens when you try to steal another womans husband - the wife always wins in the end. Find a nice single man with no baggage.
2007-03-06 20:38:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋