A question for married/commited couples about your sex life...?

Question

Have you ever tried a situation where the woman plays/has sex with another woman, while the man watches? What kind of boundaries did you lay down? Was it with someone you knew? How did it affect your relationship sexually and emotionally?

Answer 1

come on it is a mutual choice tell us wats bothering yoyu do not try to get a moral justification copme straight

Answer 2

Couples who are considering bringing another person into their relationship - male or female - should talk the whole situation over FIRST, to be sure that there are no feelings of doubt, anxiety, jealousy, etc.

You can lay down any kind of "boundaries" you like; it's your relationship, your fantasy.

Exactly what kinds of behavior were you considering as "out-of-bounds?"

We enjoyed some time with another couple and there really weren't any "forbiddens," other than the fact that none of the four had any interest in anal.

How did it affect the relationship? There weren't any negative effects if that's what you mean. The entire event was totally pleasurable and satisfying for all parties. We were left with some very wonderful memories.

That said, this kind of thing is obviously NOT for every couple, because of the above mentioned risks; anxiety, jealousy, doubts.

As long as you TALK IT OVER and be sure to cover all the bases, set up whatever kinds of guidelines you want, hopefully everything will be up to your expectations.

One thing that might be helpful; there is a thing called a "safe word," which is normally a part of bondage and discipline activity, but you might consider using one. That means that if, at any time, someone becomes overly nervous, doubful, or uncomfortable, you say the "safe word," and the activity - as per prior agreement - stops.

Answer 3

Boundaries for sex life? First of all, if you've COMMITTED to someone, there is NOBODY else you should be intimate with / receive sexual gratification from (including porn).

HERE are the boundaries:

"Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral." Hebrews 13:4

"But usually it is best to be married, each man having his own wife, and each woman having her own husband, because otherwise you might fall back into sin. The man should give his wife all that is her right as a married woman, and the wife should do the same for her husband." 1 Corinthians 7:2-3

Answer 4

am with my boyfriend for 1.5 year now, and he watched as I was with another woman. I always wanted to be with a woman and one night he let me. He was there all along, watching, he didnt want to join. The woman was a stripper, she was really nice and gentle.
He didnt say anything, just let me do what I wanted. It did feel strange, for me, as it was my "1st time" handling a woman! LOL.
I guess I was a bit nervous.
I was so extactic afterwards. I know now why guy are so into boobs!
Nothing changed between us, our sex is still great, and getting better even. Emotionally, I am still very much in love with my boyfriend and he still very much loves me. Maybe I even love him more for what he let me do (not sure how many guys would act like him).
I guess he knew it was a thing for me, that I wanted to do it (I wouldnt have done it behind his back though), and so, he said he let me, if he could watch. Maybe later we will look for someone again so I can go all the way, with him or not, maybe one day, or never. It is not something that is on my mind all the time now, but I do think about it now and again. It was a real experience for me, and a good one.

Answer 5

No, I've never had that experience in my relationships, but just about every male (straight) has those fantasies! If I were able to do so, I wouldn't mind it as long as it was strictly for sex and not for a fulfillment of love. That's where I'd draw the line. I wouldn't want a prolonged habit of watching two women having sex unless I could be a part of the action, too.

Answer 6

ok first of all, each and every physique at here who thinks in simple terms because of the fact your intercourse existence falls slightly, does not mean you divorce! Ya'll are stupid! i've got been married in simple terms over a three hundred and sixty 5 days, been with my husband 2 years, and we are the two 22. For the final a million a million/2 months i've got not needed intercourse. I have not got any prefer for it. we've been dealing with ALOT and that i understand that has alot to do with it...particularly for us woman. as quickly as we get emotionally wrapped up in our lives it particularly is stressful to place our thoughts and minds into making love with our husbands. it particularly is thoroughly organic. the suited ingredient i will say (and that i'm following my own advice here lol) is confer with him concerning to the way you sense, decide what's inflicting you to sense this way, etc. Now in specific cases (like my own) its going to talk awhile to get with the aid of....in simple terms be certain you and your husband are on an analogous web site and as long as ya'll are, and function an information of what's happening, then it particularly is okay. If he does not understand and does not prefer to understand, maybe you may get your marriage in examine or go see a counselor. a sturdy guy will understand and wait and see. sturdy success woman!

Answer 7

Boundries are, must be a high class prostitue that way its a business transaction and the male can't fall for her. If its a friend or a girl you both pick up, you run the rist of him falling for her. Make sure you also want this as if its just him, it may not go too well. See if he wants it again and again and again. You obviously have concerns so I assume he suggested it to you. tThink carfuly and make sure your happy to do it. See if he will have regrets, maybe you might like it too much..lol By the way I am male also.

Answer 8

for me it would be pretty straight forward. I think it would be best to try with someone neither of you are close to. Someone who is looking for the same thing and realizes that it is nothing more than a sexual relationship.
Decide what it is that both of you want out of this, set some rules and stick with them.

Answer 9

I just would like to sugest not to take in consideration something like this. If you feel attracted to another womand that means that you need to look deep inside yourself and talk to your husband.
I don't believe it this type of experience and sincerely I can only see that you are really bored with yourself or maybe now you want a different experience. What is the purpose of this question????
You have already the answer!!!!

Answer 10

I have two married couples as friends who do this. They love it and the man in one of those couples gets to partake as well. He has some great stories, but for me, I think it's weird.

Answer 11

IT COMES WITH BOUNDARIES AND AN AGREEMENT AND TRUST. MANY RELATIONSHIP HAVE GONE TO **** OVER THIS. DID YOU EVER SEE "ZEBRA LOUNGE" THAT MOVIE IS A GOOD EXAMPLE OF THIS SITUATION GETTING VIOLENTLY OUT OF CONTROL. THOUGH IT DEALT WITH 4 PEOPLE . "TROIS" WAS ANOTHER. IF YOU DON'T HAVE ALL THREE OF THIS- AGREEMENT/TRUST/BOUNDARIES IN THIS- YOUR RELATIONSHIP WILL BE OVER. MY ADVICE IS TO REALLY SIT AND TALK ABOUT THIS.