When did you absolutely have to......?

Question

End a best friend friendship,and why did you have to do it?
DO you think that there was perhaps another or "much better" way to solve this problem?
if so,and or if not...why?
What would /could you do next time if it happened again?

Answer 1

I have a friend that I fall out with occasionally because she disrespects me. The only time we have any problems is when I speak on it. I care about her a lot, but this really irritates me about her. I just continue to tell her when I believe she is wrong or disrespectful, regardless of the outcome.

Answer 2

I give everyone three strikes. Those strikes aren't just differences in opinion, they are serious differences in core values. One "best friend" friendship ending I remember distinctly:

Strike 1:

My friend created an unsafe situation (unstable ladder on a waxed floor with wet winter boots on) asked me to hold it, then when it slipped he blamed me. I should not have agreed to do it in the first place, we BOTH knew it should have been tied off, but his reaction was unfair and nasty (very close to a fist fight).

Strike 2:

Asked to borrow his truck for a couple of days to move some misc junk and yard waste. A few hours later he called to say he wanted it back because he didn't like driving my brand new car (he liked being "high up"). I was forced to drive half way across the city to return his truck and then rent one.

Strike 3:

His girlfriend gave out personal information about me to a marketing firm, in spite of the fact that I had made it clear I did not want her to, and it was a form of identity theft and an invasion of privacy in my mind. She is a real psycho ****** b*itch. But my friend sided with her and neither would apologize.

So I realized they were never real friends, just acquaintances.

I believe in forgiveness, but sometimes you just have to realize that the statement "to have a good friend you have to be a good friend" goes both ways.

If there was a second chance to do it all over, knowing what I know now, I would have accepted the advances of his beautiful 20yo step daughter. Without the loyalty inherent in true friendship there would be no reason not to.

Answer 3

About 6 years ago, my best g/f lied to me about being raped. I told her to forget she ever knew me and was disgusted she lied to me and wasted the police departments time. There was no way I could trust her again, and getting her out of my life was the best option. Since then, I've learned she was a habitual liar. I don't tolerate lies within friendships. If another g/f told me she was raped, I think I would keep my distance and let the professionals handle it. If is turned out she lied, I'd do the exact same thing and dismiss her from my life along with a speech of how distgusted I am.

Answer 4

i wouldnt end it just ask for some space and time on your own if not let her down gently and say 'look we are spending to much time together and i feal as tho we arent best friends anymore'