But at every opportunity she has, she turns it into a hateful confrontation. Never has anything to say but hurtful mean stuff to me. Keeps denying me from seeing my kids. Falsley accuses me of things. What is she doing. Trying to make me more miserable being without her than I was when I was with her?
2007-03-06 19:39:08 · 11 answers · asked by ckgene 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She still wants to be with you but not until you've been severely punished with guilt, shame and repentance. She wants you to suffer through an embarrassing humility for not adhering to her foolish pre-conceived notions of what a boyfriend/husband is supposed to be.
She feels that in order for you two to move on together then there has to be closure to what's went wrong between you, and her mind's solution to bring about that closure is to for you to give up all personal dignity and humble yourself to the level of an insect.
You don't realize how right you are, she most certainly does want you to be miserable, and then some.
2007-03-06 20:15:29 · answer #1 · answered by WhooHoo! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she's not sure what she wants. We all want to be loved, but it's knowing how to let go that can sometimes make it so difficult; having kids together makes it even harder because despite whichever direction she does want to go, she always has a reminder of what was and what may never be again.
Because you have kids, I think it's crucial she understands that regardless of the path you two may take together, the kids are the most important and that even if you two never get back together, you two must somehow come to the end of the road and get on the same page as parents. The kids deserve to have some type of stability, even if it's only on a civil parental basis.
Sometimes we just have to take some nasty behavior from others to inevitably make peace. Once a parental relationship can be established and kept up, then maybe you two can sit down and talk about what caused you to break up and the possibilities of getting back together. Until that time, just focus on your kids and providing them with as much loving stability as possible. Hopefully she'll realize she's only hurting herself and the kids by putting them in the middle of such a heated situation.
2007-03-06 20:56:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably having sex with some other guy and when she sees you she feels like such a piece of $hit that she is taking her guilt out on you. Happened exactly like that to me, or so she SWEARS.
And to be fair to her, she has been, literally, on her knees to me since she told me the "truth" and as I look back, despite my anger and hostility towards that particular issue, she could be telling the truth.
She also said that she felt so dirty for letting another man touch her in her darkest hour that she could not let me near her as she felt contaminated and the reason she allowed the sex with the other guy to continue was because she was too scared to stop it as she felt he wanted her and I didn't. She was afraid of being alone and not wanted.
Sounds crazy to a man, but I've ran this by many a woman who said they've felt the exact same way. Weird, and maybe this is your issue. She can open up to her friends with her true feelings for you, but when she sees you all the pain surfaces and she just can't deal with it. So, don't be surprised if one day soon she realizes the pain in where she's at right now is greater than the pain of being honest with you will be. Then, if you're lucky and she is willing to fight for you, things can be better than ever. They certainly are over here for me. It was tough, and it's been SIX LONG years since I found out and it was four years before that when we were split and all this stuff happened.
You may have something to look forward to or it could be that she's just freaking evil.
2007-03-06 19:43:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just answered you question with the last one. Yes, she wants you to be miserable. Think about it like this; that woman probably used to make you feel so tall and proud in the beginning, and towards the end and even now she makes you feel worthless. So you know what the problem is, plus she´s making up lies and denying you the right of seeing your children. Get a GOOD LAWYER and learn your rights and fight for the ones you deserve. And with the lady trying to make you feel like crap, find a lady that doesn´t, and appreciate her. Good luck.
Love and Respect.
2007-03-06 19:53:01 · answer #4 · answered by nassim420 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In actual fact, she doesn't love you anymore. she may have another boyfriend or she wants to lead her own freedom.
She painted a beautiful picture about telling other people that she still loves you and wants to work things out. She is doing this, perhaps she wants your kids not to worry about your relationship with her. When you confront her, she sees you like a "hateful" person. When you want to see your kids, she controls you. There is time when a woman turns out to have a 'negative' feelings towards you, you cannot do anything. You just have to leave her alone.
You must be strong and lead your own life, go out with your friends for a chat, dine and have fun. Remember to tell your friends that you 'still love her and wants to work things out'. Wait till these words go to her ears, she will get fed-up and stop talking nonsense.
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2016-09-30 07:59:17 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I wouldn't suck into her bullshit, the more she knows it bothers or hurts you the more she will continue to do these things. Try blowing it off like it's nothing and that she is not even of interest to you. I bet she changes her attitude real quick and then trys to suck you in with seduction!
2007-03-06 19:48:54 · answer #7 · answered by Ozzie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
geeze
Get away from her. Do you really want to live the rest of your life with a crazy woman? Get the courts to give you visitation rights and if she doesn't comply then you talk to the judge
2007-03-06 19:42:46 · answer #8 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her be and move on with your life. Do not wait for things to happen. You just have to live your life and enjoy it. Life is short. Good luck.
2007-03-06 19:44:55 · answer #9 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't touch her with a infinity pole if I were you.
2007-03-06 19:42:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋