What are the signs that someone is desperate for attention?

Question

And that's not their intention at all and don't realize that they appear that way?

How to not appear desperate for attention if they don't care about attention and doesn't want attention?

Answer 1

The Attention-Seeker

Motivation: to be the centre of attention
Mindset: control freak, manipulation, narcissism
Malice: medium to high; when held accountable, very high

emotionally immature
selectively friendly - is sickly sweet to some people, rude and offhand to others, and ignores the rest
is cold and aggressive towards anyone who sees them for what they really are or exposes their strategies for gaining attention
overfriendly with their new target, especially in the initial stages of a new working relationship
overhelpful, ditto
overgenerous, ditto
manipulative of people's perceptions, but in an amateur and childish manner
manipulative with guilt, ditto
sycophantic, fawning, toadying
uses flattery to keep a person in authority on side
everything is a drama, usually a poor-me drama
prefers not to solve problems in own life so that they can be used and re-used for gaining sympathy and attention
capitalises on issues and uses them as a soapbox for gaining attention
exploits others' suffering and grief as a vehicle for gaining attention
misappropriates others' statements, eg anything which can be misconstrued as politically incorrect, for control and attention-seeking
excusitis, makes excuses for everything
shows a lot of indignation, especially when challenged
lots of self-pity
often as miserable as sin, apart from carefully constructed moments of charm when in the act of deceiving
demanding of others
easily provoked
feigns victimhood when held accountable, usually by bursting into tears or claiming they're the one being bullied and harassed
presents as a false victim when outwitted
may feign exclusion, isolation or persecution
malicious
constantly tries and will do almost anything to be in the spotlight
includes Munchausen Syndrome
the focus of their life is to be the centre of attention


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Answer 2

I've got a friend like that. When she's not in the center of attention she goes all quiet, which is super unusual. Then people will start to fuss over her and ask why she is so quiet. In a way she can 'reign' over conversations and people like that. In fact, this friend of mine also confessed that she likes attention. See the connection? ;)

Answer 3

Some people who crave attention talk about themselves constantly... One shouldn't talk about themselves all the time because it looks like they crave attention...

Answer 4

http://www.bullyonline.org/workbully/attent.htm

thought this web site....explained it perfectly!

Look for the page that say Attention seeking personality.

*****how not to appear.....think of others first and listen rather than speak

Answer 5

I agree with ..Just Moi ..attention seekers are the ones who constantly talk about them selves .and constantly
always having something to say in any conversation regardless of having any knowledge of the topic ..they hijack the topic so they can talk about them selves..

Answer 6

People who talk loud, talk obscenely, cut themselves, cry in public, wear close to nothing, scream, um.....create scenes. They are desperate people.

Answer 7

people who try to "outdo" every story you tell, wearing gaudy or "ho-ish" clothes, freaky hairstyles, etc.

if you LISTEN to people instead of "waiting" until you can say something in response, it will show confidence and a good upbringing.