You'll need an open mind to answer this one....?

Question

Just go with me on this one. I don't necessarily believe what I'm writing, but it is definitely worth some thought.

If you're spouse can't cook, you go out to eat. If you're spouse doesn't mow the lawn, you hire a lawn boy. If you can't change the oil on your car, you take it someone who can. So.....If you aren't having sex at home, doesn't it make ATLEAST SOME SENSE, that you should be able to get that need taken care of someplace else?

OK, allow me to AMMEND this a bit. I DO NOT INTEND TO AND HAVE NEVER CHEATED ON MY WIFE. I JUST ENJOY POSTING QUESTIONS THAT REQUIRE A LITTLE "THINKING OUTSIDE THE BOX"

Answer 1

Your vows included being faithful to one another. They don't normally include anything about lawn service or car mechanics.

Answer 2

The questions you used as examples are really not related to
your actual question, as you know.
Sex, well as much as most people love it there are some that
do not. Women especially go through periods where they
seem more it to it at times, and alot less at others. Why, well
alot of it has to do with our hormones. I hope you understand
that. Also, alot of women are not open and free with themselves
about sex. I guess it depends on the women. Women in
general just don't think of sex the same way as men do.

As far as getting sex some where else, well, you already know
that isn't a good idea. There might be some women out there
who don't care if your in a relationship, but you really
shouldn't. Satisfy yourself, it's not the same, but cheating is
not a good idea. I don't cook, my husband does, he takes care
of many things, and me included. Our sex life is the best,
cause we give each other what the other one needs, when we
need it. If your girlfriend or wife just isn't interested in sex right
now, just respect her feelings. What if the shoe was on the
other foot. Would you want her to go out and satisfy her needs.

Answer 3

Sorry I do not agree. Not trying to be mean, but it sounds selfish to me.

Seriously though, maybe if the guy would cook for her a few times out of the week, keep the lawn cleaned, and change the oil regularly in the car, or show her in other ways that he appreciates her, he'll start to see some positive results in the bedroom.

Answer 4

If you are not happy with your relationship (or sex life) then you need to talk to your partner about it see if you guys can get to an understanding. But it is never a good idea to cheat, you hurt people and eventually you hurt yourself too. The analogy here with the lawn boy or oil chage do not work. What make sense is work on your relationship, if all fails and you are so unhappy about your life, get out of the relationship, but never cheat.

Answer 5

I would have to disagree. What would happen if the man got someone else pregnant or the woman got pregnant by another guy? Talk about not only causing a great deal of headaches to be added to an already difficult life....but what about if there are kids involved already? No one seems to ever consider how cheating ultimately effects the development and mental reasoning of the children.

Answer 6

Having sex with someone is suppose to between two lovers.. But I guess in a sense you are right, you need your needs met lol. But don't' forget all the situations you put on, you and your spouse agreed mutually, if you guys don't agree about the sex thing then maybe it's a bad decision.

Answer 7

Some in a way, though hiding it is wrong. If your spouse cannot and is aware of your activities and OK with it, fine. Some people like to cheat, and as long as their spouses are the same opinion fine. But it is wrong to cheat on someone when they beleive in loyalty and faithfulness, while giving them the sense that you are really loyal and faithful. Cheaters by nature, please pick a partner that is OK with it, not someone of opposing beleifs... If you do pick someone of opposing beleifs and they find out and beleive ventilating you with a shotgun is a good solution, well I support their beleif as much as yours, so if I was on the Jury they would walk...

Answer 8

If you like to think of it as a "no punishment" in return for un-faithful actions, then yes. You could go get sex from someone else.

But-- In reality, you were bound to each other to love and to hold until death do you part. To show the unlimited firey love between you, and to show un-dying loyalty.

Honest thing is, you marry someone because you care about them deeply and want to ensure that they're happy and safe for the rest of their life. You went from strangers, to friends, to lovers, to being the better half of one another making a whole. So finding sexual action elsewhere would go against the whole point of being married.

Answer 9

life is not always rosy my friend there is always a compromise !
and learning is a process ehich never ends.somehow you need to create a situation which leads to sex,and definitely give it your best shot ! and also see that the whole situation is truly orignal and gives both partners immense pleasure mentally as well as physically,thus by doing this your wants of spending quality time becomes a cherishable moment for ur partner,therefore the urge then develops from the other side.!then it becomes a desire !
thats what u want !ok

Answer 10

No - its called cheating. Its immoral and not fair to your spouse. There is such a thing as masturbation. That doesn't hurt anyone. If you want sex with someone else, divorce your spouse. Be honest about it.