If you suspected that your bestfriend had a crush on your spouse in the past but you had no real evidence of it would you forgive them and continue the friendship?
2007-03-06 17:55:30 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank you for your answers but I should have been more clear. Actually it is MY HUSBAND that suspects his friend has a crush on me.
Anyway, I reposted this to be more clear.
2007-03-06 19:09:59 · update #1
You said "in the past", meaning that they no longer have a crush. If that's the case, let it go and continue the friendship. Sometimes, the crush is not because of the man, but because of the life that the wife has with that man...a form of jealousy and longing for that life.
If you suspect that there is still some feelings going on, then cut ties with the friend because you don't need to be looking over your shoulder whenever she's around your husband.
2007-03-06 18:02:00 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, in my opinion there isn't really anything to forgive unless your Friend has acted upon the crush. You cannot stop people from feelings things for someone else no matter who it is. I think you friend has shown enormous quality by proving to you that she not only respects you but complete cherishes your relationship and she would not let her feelings ever stand in the way of making you unhappy. I think defiantly continue the relation ship. On the other hand, if you are talking that she has been intimate or there has been an affair...? Defiantly not, get rid of her quick smart.
2007-03-06 18:01:08 · answer #2 · answered by Kris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think that I would be a lot more cautious ...ya know in fact...maybe you should NOT invite this so called "best friend" over anymore...because truthfully, I have seen this stuff happen..to one of my sisters....and to her best friend...(My younger sister was getting a lot of "extra attention": from her best friend's soon to be hubby...and she tried to tell her best friend..and the best friend didn't believe her..and they are no longer friends anymore!!! Her hubby still had the "hots" for my younger sister..even after this woman's hubby and she were married, he was making passes at her!! )
I have had some things like that happen to me....I REALLY would strongly urge you NOT to let your "best friend" near your spouse...this is NOT helping your marriage..in the slightest!
You need to get her either out of your life...or think of something fast!!! I am soooo not joking about this...Been here, already...not a fun place!!!!!
2007-03-06 18:03:17 · answer #3 · answered by ladyk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don 't have any evidence, let it go. Keep your eyes and ears open though. I suspect the same thing, but until I have proof I can't let it bother me. Just trust your husband. If you feel you need to ask him if she has come on to him before. If he says no, say ok and leave it at that.
2007-03-06 18:32:38 · answer #4 · answered by aloneathome 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a terrific opportunity to brag "SHE'S ALL MINE". As long as the guy hasn't actually made a move on you, there's really nothing to forgive.
My husband is a dj on the side and I don't KNOW a woman (including two of my "best friends" and two of my older sisters") who hasn't made a pass at him at one time or another! On one hand, I find it somewhat flattering because he always turns them down (one woman actually decked him because he wouldn't sleep with her! LOL!) On the other hand, if they were to continue by aggressively pursuing him, I'd have to step in and confront the woman about her behavior myself.
2007-03-07 04:02:42 · answer #5 · answered by Romans 8:28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, losing a friendship over something that silly, especially if they no longer do have a crush it not worth it. just move on and dont keep things like that in the back of your mind.
2007-03-06 17:59:21 · answer #6 · answered by absolut_nixter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as no one acted on it...continue the friendship and consider her crush a compliment. That you have a man good enough that someone else wants but he belongs to you!!
2007-03-06 18:47:02 · answer #7 · answered by mysweetluvie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. without any evidence how can u say that ur best friend had crush on your spouse, its just ur imagination, forget it and continue ur friendship. if he is a true friend of urs, then he wont be having any crush on ur spouse.
2007-03-06 18:21:53 · answer #8 · answered by prabhakar_ace 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's in the past, don't be so suspicious.Trusting your spouse is important in building a healthy relationship.
2007-03-06 18:38:18 · answer #9 · answered by ilovegruyere 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would, there's no need to make problems for yourself if you don't have to. Beside whatever happened to trusting your spouse?
2007-03-06 17:59:39 · answer #10 · answered by gypsey78 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋