What can I do about my anger/hurting self problem?

Question

I have a problem with anger.I get mad sometimes at stuff,and I hurt myself.I've gone crazy a couple times for stupid things.Like one time a old friend/who i'm not friends with anymore took my hat,and this was everyday,all my friends did it,and I told them to stop,all of them did,except him,and one day,after her did,I grabbed his and twisted his arm,and almost broke it.Then another time I hurt my best friend b/c she threw a pillow at me,i got really mad,cuz i thought she broke something,and I grabbed her and pressed on her pressure points,and pulled her neck back.But I punch myself in the stomach,and I cut my finger with a fingernail clipper,the cut is the size of a needle hole.But I still think its wrong,but I don't want to tell anyone else about it,I told my best friend,but thats it.I don't want to go to counceling though,I hate conceling b/c I really don't think it helps,b/c I been there before when my dad died,and sure it help for alittle while,but as I got older,it stopped working.

I also do this b/c I don't want to hurt others.And I don't know,I just feel when I hurt myself,more so on the hurting my finger thing,I forget about what I'm anger about...and I guess I feel right about punishing myself for being angry.

I don't drink alcohol,wine,beer,or anything like that.I'm 19 yrs old,and don't hav'ta do that crap etheir.

Answer 1

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Answer 2

sounds like you are on the edge and that you feel life is unfair after losing your dad, so anything that treats you unfairly gets the backlash. In the instances you quote, people did things you did not like and true you overreacted, but you have a right to stand up for yourself.
Anger is rooted in the liver, if you are drinking you must stop now or seriously cut down as this will just create a vicious circle with your anger. Try to drink plenty of liquids to relieve your stress and try to get a good diet going.
You can try visiting a homeopath, they may be able to help you without counselling, but they will need a good deal of information about your background, physical symptoms, etc. If you can deal with talking about it, you will hopefully be given an effective help, not a bunch of advice. It depends on the quality of the homeopath.
Most of all be good to yourself and maybe get a punchbag.
Good luck friend.

Answer 3

What's your background. When you were growing up, were you cared for. Do you believe you are good, worthy
See, very important point. Listen & understand:
MOST IMPORTANT THING ALL ABUSERS LOSE IS
SELF WORTH.
Self worth, good self esteem is what is always lost in abuse cases.
Ask yourself, what you want. ANGER MOST TIMES IS A SIGN OF HELPLESSNESS.
What do you want changed in your life. What do you feel helpless about.
Remember,
You are worthy. Don't hurt yourself ever, ever. Take care of Your body & your mind .
What do you feel must happen- that isn't happening--- ask questions to your mind. only then will you know the real issue. only then can you begin healing.
Avoid negative people. Even if few, meet positive people. Find an activity to channel your energy, your mind.
Do you eat properly. Is it lack of energy thats making you angry/ depressed.
Address the issues.You will be fine. There are others like you. You are not alone, suffering. Do not blame yourself , work hard to find the underlying issue . thats the first step, then the healing will start. You will get there.

Answer 4

That is between you and her both to communicate, put it behind you and hope it will never happen again. The circle of trust has been broken. It's almost irreparable. My first marriage I had many affairs and finally got divorced because there was no love. What I learned is that when two people really truly love each other then you will not do anything to hurt that. My new lady in my life together her and I have a strong bond and love and no man can seduce her or make her do anything of that nature. She and I both love each other very much and she is very protective of me as I am of her. At party's she stays by side and if she mingles then she is not far away and comes back to say I love you and respect. We are going to be alright. As for your situation, your wife really screwed up and it's going to be a very long road ahead to heal that damage. It's not impossible, but very hard to do.

Answer 5

Stop it