me anything because he was too sick. Not to mention the fact that he didn't get our 8month baby anything, I got nothing for my bd christmas or valentines. I found out cause he did tell me he bought the bracelet, but I think it actually slipped. I am drawing up papers for divorce. Am I wrong? Did I mention he had to have the bracelet imported from another country? And just a month before christmas he was just coming back from walking out on us for 30 days and i still made sure he had a gift. A wedding band because he said his ring was to expensive to wear everyday.
Am i being petty or abused?
2007-03-06 17:44:18 · 19 answers · asked by PROPHET 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I just went through the trauma of divorce with my two closest friends and my father was a serial cheater. I'm probably stating the obvious when I say that your soon to be X also lied about why he was unwilling to wear his wedding ring. He didn't even try to wear it and then remove it and keep it in the car when he was out catting around. He simply figured the lie would cover it.
Sweetie, I'm sorry but to say things like I bought a bracelet that you never received are not said accidentally. You were set up with this too. I think that you should kick him to the curb, but in a way that will ensure that you and your little one are taken care of. Do this carefully and deliberately. The man's a pig but remember that pigs can be clever--remember the one who built the house of bricks? Once the papers are signed, you cannot go back and make changes.
I'm very sorry that you are going through this. He has been having unprotected sex with you and out s****ing around, you'd best get tested for STDs. Just to be safe. That is not being petty, just safe.
He is obviously a Soprano wannabe or he thinks it's still the 18th century and the little lady is to remain barefoot and pregnant while he lives a double life. My Italian Grandmother, when told my Mom was divorcing my Dad, said "once a runner always a runner!" Nona was very wise. Men like this do not change. You should really look into a support group for those who have gone through the same experience.
All the best. Remember, the ring and bracelet are just the tip of the iceberg. You cannot be petty in a situation like this. There are only two reasons for a man to buy jewelry for a woman not a family member and these are because he wants to get into her pants or has already done so. Putting up with this will demean you. Ending a demeaning situation is never petty and always necessary.
2007-03-06 18:29:38 · answer #1 · answered by Loki 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would definately get the papers. I'm sorry but, what kinda man thinks he can get away with not buying something for his baby?? And then getting something for another woman,. It sounds like he is playing around quite a bit. My husband wears his ring to the oilfield where it could cause him to lose his finger if that doesn't make it too expensive to wear I don't know what does but he still wears it. He didn't have to give the bracelet to the other woman after he came back to you he chose to he could have saved it for your daughter or given it to his mother or given it to you.
2007-03-07 01:53:52 · answer #2 · answered by emmandal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why he bought another woman jewelry is beyond me. I don't think you are necessarily being petty. It isn't really that he bought someone a gift, but why he put some other woman over you and your baby. Is he seeing this woman? If so, yes...I would probably be looking for a divorce as well.
2007-03-07 01:50:48 · answer #3 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump that sorry _ _ s Dump that sorry a_ _ I'm sorry you picked the wrong guy he is a loser and doesn't deserve you so dump him NOW Call her and Thank her for taking him off your hands. He will do the same to her. Next time pick a real man. I can't believe he has 8th month old and he doesn't get the mother of his child any thing and gets some thing for an other women. UNBELIEVABLE
2007-03-07 02:02:41 · answer #4 · answered by Bruce M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are asking this question is alarming. RUN!!! Run now while your baby is too young to understand. Run while you have a change to start a life the way it should be. Run before he gives you a disease. Run before he spends anymore of YOUR money on his girlfriends. You are not petty. You are waisting valuable time starting your life over doubting your decision. Stop reading these and start running!!! Good luck!
2007-03-07 01:50:26 · answer #5 · answered by Starlyn 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are being disrespected and abused.
It sounds like you made a poor choice in who you married.
The guy sounds like a big time cheater.
Move on hon.......and make sure HE HAS to pay child support and spousal support if you can get it.
He would have to change a great deal and be sincerely sorry for you two to continue to be married.
You are NOT petty. He is a creep.
2007-03-07 01:49:18 · answer #6 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce fast and also child support, that way your baby can have what she/he deserve. And depend on how long you been married and what state you live, get alimony.
And yes, you and your baby are being abused, but you know how to put a stop to that.
Best of luck.
2007-03-07 02:01:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well good that your filing the papers make sure when your doing the paper work that your lawyer gets YOU THAT IMPORTED BRACELET as part of the divorce settlement haha!
2007-03-07 02:01:35 · answer #8 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the fact that he didnt buy you or your baby anything pretty much sums up what regard hes holding you guys in, compared to the international gift he got for someone else.
Doesnt take a genius to see that.
If he left for 30 days, thats another tell right there.
Divorce him, move on. He will get what he deserves.
And hopefully so will you.
Good luck with it.
P.S. - take him to the cleaners. Get what you can to make up for what he didnt get you and your baby.
2007-03-07 01:48:50 · answer #9 · answered by writersbIock2006 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Drop that zero boo, he dont mean you no good. How can he not buy you, not to mention your 8 month old baby nothing for xmas? He a loser and you should make his azz pay!
2007-03-07 01:50:57 · answer #10 · answered by B. Gregory 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋