I need experienced people with compassion and understanding for this situation. It breaks my heart every time I see him high. Help...
2007-03-06 16:41:23 · 15 answers · asked by Veronica S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Sorry to say I know exactly what you are going through. We have had to become very knowledgeable about drugs/symptoms/what to look for/paraphernalia. I looked on-line for a lot of info.We have monitored our teens activity on-line -like myspace to see whats going on. We counseled with our pastor ,youth leader ,school counselor/social worker. Please seek out someone who you can talk with- for your sanity. Do not keep it a secret between the two of you-that just makes the problem bigger. I would suggest drug testing randomly 1-2 times a week if you decide to allow him to stay at home. We got a box on-line to last several months. Limit activity with friends-know the friends. The truth is, drug users are great liars, and it may have been going on for a while. If they are willing to follow your new rules and the tests are clean it is workable at home. FOLLOW YOUR GUT. If they have a cell phone, you might want to take it. Don't let your teen have cash on hand. Our school system allows us to pay ahead for lunches. Know that they have lost the right to trust and privacy for now. Clear containers for clothes/belongings is a great idea. Look for eye drop use, red eyes, munchies,loss of interest in activities, different friends,poor grades, cutting classes,etc.Your teen will need to get help at rehab and/ or counseling with someone who specializes in this-but honestly, behavior mod rehab is probably the best. I'm so sorry for what you are going through. I will pray for your family. This can also be a real time of talking and rebuilding. Keep loving, but be TOUGH.
2007-03-07 03:14:56 · answer #1 · answered by Lynne 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. You can educate him as to the problems with marijuana. This probably won't help but it might.
2. Probably you are going to have to get TOUGH with him. I've known people to turn their kids in to get them off drugs or marijuana, and stand by them through the court scenes, and it has worked.
If the marijuana is in your house I do think if someone else reported it that you could also be held legally accountable.
2007-03-07 00:47:14 · answer #2 · answered by Cris O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what i did or will do may be very different to what you would do
my daughter is 19 and is using marijuana and she no longer lives with me i told her that if that was how she wants to live her life she can no longer be a part of mine
if i found out one of my younger children where using i would put them in treatment and if that did not work i would turn them into the police i would rather it was on there juvenile record then there adult kids do things and if caught earlier the behavior can be changed
i love my kids very much and would do anything for them but there are things i can not tolerate and drugs is one
2007-03-07 02:44:39 · answer #3 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take everything out of his room except a pillow and mattress. Drive him to and from therapy. When he goes a week without drugs he gets an item back for his room, and continue such. No partying. No events until he is clean. Too much compassion on your part will make you seem weak to him and he will take advantage of it.
2007-03-07 01:03:31 · answer #4 · answered by winkcat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Rehab, counseling etc. only work IF the individual person is ready to attempt change. If your son is not ready to commit to change then their is nothing anyone can do. Alot of people with addictions relapse numerous times and will return to old habits if they do not want change themselves, no one can force change in a person.
2007-03-07 07:54:56 · answer #5 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I took my brother in law, who is now 18, to the County jail and he was locked in a room with a narc detective for several hours. He came out of the room crying. We did weekly drug tests at first and they were always clean, then went to monthly, still clean. I don't know what was said in that room, I just know that the detective scared the crap out of him and it worked.
2007-03-07 00:45:21 · answer #6 · answered by punkin_eater26 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i understand your concern,but it is very common for teenagers to experiment with alcohol and pot. marijuana is by far the safest drug to experiment with.
as long as he doesnt venture into other drugs,you shouldnt worry. most likely this will pass.
i've attached a link, you should check it out and learn about the effects of marijuana/other drugs.
2007-03-07 00:50:21 · answer #7 · answered by N 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
beat there but and lock them in there room
no on a real note talk to them, find pics online of how bad it can before her
talk her to a counsler
2007-03-07 00:45:27 · answer #8 · answered by jennieh_79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not a lot you can do. try to be there for him. find out why he is doing this. talk to him as much as you can. dont fight with him about it, it only makes things worse. he will probably get over this stage. you cant stop him from doing it. just keep a close eye on him. if the problem gets worse you may want to take him to talk with someone.
2007-03-07 02:08:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Talk to a local cop, and see if you can have them do a "fake" arrest.
have them come in his room, and do the whole police thing. have him spend the night in a holding cell. make sure your crying, and freaking out.throw in the
"NOOOOOOO PLEASE DONT TAKE HIM PLEASE! PLEASE OFFICER PLEASE I WILL DO ANYTHING PLEASEE"
dont talk to him for the night.
the next day, visit him, and then say visiting hours are over, and you must leave. leave him there until its time to go to sleep, then take him home.
tell him that's what life will be like if you ever catch him doing ANYTHING like that again
i did this on a Friday night, and it worked. he stopped immediately.
2007-03-07 12:10:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋