I have a loving Grandson who is 24, and give till it hurts me.
My Son got a girl pregnant at 16 and my grandson was the result. We brought him home from hospital because mother did not want him. We raise him husband and I, best decision we ever made in our marriage.
I have M.S. and is in remission for how long I don't know, but when I had shingles It caused me to have paralysis and I could barely move for two weeks. My Grandson was there for me he washed me, fed me, got me into wheel chair and took me outside to get some sun, And Changed my dirty dippers without a complaint, said " he could never let his grandma be left in soiled undergarments"! I love that boy, as any of my kids who never even help me. I now live with grandson after husband died 3 years ago, he went to Stanford and got 2 Ph.d.s applied mathematic, electronic architecture physics, and make a very good living freelancing trouble shooter, as well as, fly in navy reserves. I'm really proud of him, to say the least.
2007-03-06 16:30:43 · 13 answers · asked by Proud G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
But he has a new love in his life who has asked him to "marry her".
(yes she asked) and he said grandmother and I are a packaged deal!
he's got his own place he calls safe harbor, It was to be a church/ community center but people screwed around and well Grandson got it for pocket change. He made 5 apartments out if it and the top floor, 3 story's, is his, I live just below him and an elevator of my o have direct access to his apartment through a set a stairs to his place.
He makes me dinner, we watch tv together he sees to it I get medication on time and get to bed, I'm 54, but with M.S. i sometime feel 80, The other apartments my kids live in and refuse to pay rent because my grandson wont let me pay rent!
I'm angry at everyone of them, and god help me at my grandson who refuses to shove these parasites out the door. He say he's got the money so why not, help out. His bride to be wont accept that, told them, and him it's time for them to pay a monthly rent or be shown the door!
2007-03-06 16:30:55 · update #1
I really love this young lady, she a child psychiatrist for traumatized children, and is perfect for grandson I believe. She really loves him saying he's think only of other people well being, even if a bunch of parasites like my kids, who are all over 28. She told me he thought I was the best and he would go to end of planet to help me, and she understand that but she did say that I would have to respect there time together, and I assured her it will be that way.
I hate what his father is doing living off his son, the no good bum (he's my son I can say that) and 2 daughters who feel its family place that they all can live at . All apartments are over 3400ft. and three bedrooms his is over 4600ft. and also three bedrooms.
I sometime feel I should move out and go to a assisted living facility but grandson wont hear of it! He tells me I'm staying put, but my kids are driving him insane but he's says nothing to them or me about it and he deserves his own happiness. should I move OUT?
2007-03-06 16:31:20 · update #2
If your grandson and granddaughter-in-law-to-be are agreable, I suggest he sells (or rents out) the current place and buys a two-floor apartment elsewhere and the three of you move there. Then have him hire a live-in maid to take care of you when he and his spouse-to-be need their own time or when they are not around.
As for your children, leave them be. Once the house is sold, they will have to move out, or they can rent it at a nominal fee from your grandson. So he need not be the bad guy to them, do so through a realtor or agency. If your grandson can afford it and wishes to take care of them on a longterm basis, I suggest he regularly put some money in a trust where his parents and aunties can draw upon but making it clear that when it is finished, there will be no more. That should teach them some responsibility and own up to their duties.
2007-03-06 16:46:43 · answer #1 · answered by amn1717 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I applaud you for having such a grandson. He is a credit to his raising. As for your question, even though you have a very close relationship with him, he and his new bride should have every advantage in the world to make their marriage work. You and I both know that married couples need a lot of privacy and minimal outside worries to concentrate on building a strong and solid bond. It appears that you have given much thought about the same thing. It would probably be in his best interest to have all family move out so that he and his new wife could start building a loving and caring future together. He will probably argue with you but you must let him know that this is important to you and you will not argue about it - it is your decision. As far as his dad and any other family, it's time they grow up and move out on their own. The grandson may need to consider whether his wife wants to continue living there or look for a new home that they will both like better. I wish you the best of luck in whatever happens and a long and happy life to that grandson and his new bride.
2007-03-07 00:50:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no! thank God for your grandson and I thought the world was full of EVIL. He has given me new hope on society!
Why don't you tell your grandson either THEY GO or YOU GO! WHICH IS IT! Better yet let the wife do it! she sounds way cool.
You know your grandson sounds so DAM GREAT FULL for all that he has! He sounds genuinely great full to be a part of the world but as you can see. It's very rare. Your kids are the majority of our new society. Every one DESERVES! that's what it comes down to. In this society it's all about TAKE, AND TAKE, AND TAKE! and I have seen people lie, cheat, and steel to get what they want... Sad part is they get away with it. The good seem to be going downhill. And so the saying goes "Nice guys finish last"
Your grandson gas to wise up just a little. For his new brides sake. Because I get the feeling she's only going to be able to deal with SO MUCH giving. And that would be a tragedy for him. He's got to learn that his wife's feelings are important as well. And it would make me sick if the leaches screwed up a good marriage.
Much luck to you and your Grandson and may God continue to smile upon you, him and his wife.
2007-03-07 00:55:57 · answer #3 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not, you would only hurt the one that loves and cares for you. He wants you there, he needs you there. Don't let the no good bums make you feel like a no good bum. You have paid your dues, you raised that boy instead of his no good bum of a father and look at the results, he sees it & his wife sees it. As far as him letting the others stay rent free, its his choice but as an educated man, he should know he is only hurting them by holding them up all the time, a time will come when he wont or cant and then where will they be? Flat on there a s s e s.
Stay by your grandsons side, he needs you as much as you need him!
Good Luck!
2007-03-07 00:48:41 · answer #4 · answered by mark 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's necessary for you to move out, but I think you should hire some help so that he doesn't always have to be the one who has to help Grandma with her pills and dinner.
I think you and your grandson's girlfriend need to build a better relationship, and your grandson needs to evict the people who aren't paying rent. This is why relatives and friends rarely make good roommates.
It sounds like you have a wonderful grandson. Lucky you!
2007-03-07 00:44:41 · answer #5 · answered by Ask Aunt Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not ever think of hurting ur grandson by acting in panic or leaving him against his wish. He is too good to be given that kind of treatment. God bless him.
2007-03-07 01:44:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your grandson is a great young man I hope you understand what you mean to him!
2007-03-07 03:17:23 · answer #7 · answered by disturb m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that he is a good man. but you should not move out
the others should start paying rent or they need to leave
your grandson is a good person. and you should be very
proud of him as well
2007-03-07 00:49:26 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes move and let your grandson live his life with his wife that assisted home can help you
2007-03-10 15:15:56 · answer #9 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i very glad to hear he their for you,,an pray he be with you to the end,,, he come to care for you cause he love you,an see the rest dont give a damm,,,but he an his new wife took you in,an that great, being 53 not old, but you have no one to depend on, ,,, but she right, the rest are young, an need to pay their way,,,,,as long as he their for you,, dont worried about the rest,, you got a great helpper,, thank god ,,,,,
2007-03-07 10:26:41 · answer #10 · answered by ghostwalker077 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋