My husband is a wonderful father of a great 7 yr old from his first marrage and has been apart from his Ex wife for 6 yrs and she still trys to argue about things that have no merit, if we cant switch pick up and drop off with her she tells my husband that he wont get his son anymore on the weekends,we still do because it's court ordered, but this is getting very old we even document and tape record her, I wish we could play it in front of a judge and have him tell her shame on you maybe that would work. What methods have you found work on dealing with VENDICTIVE ex wifes who's children are not their first priority? Minnesota
2007-03-06 16:17:19 · 13 answers · asked by LuvnLife 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have been togther for 5yrs married for 3yrs and have children. And are happy people we just want to enjoy life why cant she
2007-03-06 16:35:48 · update #1
i find that when they open their moth and you just slam the door in their face it is effective to a point
2007-03-06 16:33:13 · answer #1 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all the tapes are no good in court unless you told her you was recording her. second she has unresolved issues with him of some kind. and it could be she is jealous of you because you are now with him and she wants you 2 to break up. that would make her day. just stay calm and if she says he cant have his kids on his visitation days then go to her house with a police office. that way you have legal documents on that. and i can promise if the police have to become involved she will stop or go to jail. i would also tell her no calls from her unless the kids are at the hospital or hurt. plus i don't think she has really gotten over the divorce and shes using the kids because she knows it will hurt your husband. just stay calm and if she says he cant have them call the police and have them go with you 2 to pick them up. she will not want them there too many times cause she knows it will look bad on her if it goes to court. just stay calm i know it hard but do your best. and also after you see her or talk to her say real nice you have a great day. LOL that will get her to cause she knows what shes pulling isn't bothering you anymore if you don't show it. best of luck i hope this helps. :)
2007-03-07 00:30:26 · answer #2 · answered by kameo_44 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You marry someone and have children with them and devote years of your life, the best years of your life to a man who dumps you and takes up with some new young chippy and I bet you would feel bitter and vendictive too. Some men are such creeps and they destroy the woman before they dane to leave them. If you are going to go with a man that has an ex wife than you have no right to complain because you put yourself in the middle of the battlefield. How can he be such a wonderful father of a 7 year old when he has been seperated from the mother for 6 years. I think you need to get your facts straight.
2007-03-07 00:22:13 · answer #3 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
What about ex-Husbands who make it hee on their ex-wives. I am a man in a relationship with a woman who is going through a child custody battle with her ex and has been for the last 3 and a half years. He is as vendictive as they get. He is the ex. from hell. He hasn't been with nobody since their divorce and this is like a game to him. He doesn't even keep his child support payments up to date just to hurt my wife. He doesn't care about his child. All he cares about is hurting his ex for divorcing him.
2007-03-07 00:26:03 · answer #4 · answered by jacksonvillegarycollins 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a shame that some people are so selfish, vindictive and just plain mean that they will use thier children to hurt an ex-spouse without any thought or concern of the damage caused to the child.
2007-03-07 00:34:42 · answer #5 · answered by theanswerman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey im not a man but this guy @ work is going thoruhg the same thing. he talks about it allt he time. My opinion is that the ex wife is either jealous or controlling and she will use the kids anyway she can to make his life miserable.
2007-03-07 00:41:59 · answer #6 · answered by lady26 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
time doesnot heal wounds... my ex is the same always bitching and moaning about something like food or clothes(which i provide) and i think that she can't take the fact that i have moved on..she is still the same self centered women.maybe you should just ask her to sit down with you and your husband and talk it out. if she doesnt like that she is not worth bothering about. if she breaks the court order she is stuffed...
2007-03-07 00:31:38 · answer #7 · answered by Bob Lee Swagger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure why you said men only. I know a lot of new wives who have to deal with ex wives of their husbands (as you are)
2007-03-07 00:20:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can see why you only want men to respond.......its easy to give your two cents, where it is not even needed! Its none of your business, You chose a man who has children from a previous relationship, Deal With It! I think you have more important issues to take care of then being an instigator, maybe you should take
a 1st or 2nd grade course in spelling?
2007-03-07 00:31:24 · answer #9 · answered by Skinz 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
you dealing with an women scorn they can hold grudges for a long time which means women are inmature then some men as well
2007-03-07 07:51:02 · answer #10 · answered by trueexposure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋