I feel like a bad friend?

Question

When my friend walked in the door, i had us go around the other way to the computer so we wouldn't walk in front of my step dad. I keep replaying the whole thing in my head and wondering if i did it because he will think she is fat and then when we walked to my room, i wondered what he'd say. No matter what someone looks like. if they are purple,pink, blue, black, white, too short or too tall, 50 lbs. or 500 lbs. i will still care about them and be their friend but it bugs me about what i just said. I keep obsessing i actually went through another part of the house so he wouldn't see us and wondered what he'd think when he saw her. Although, i am a good friend besides this. I feel like a horrible friend because i obsess over "what if she knew i did that"

Sorry if you guys misunderstood. My step dad is SOOO nice. Like has a heart of gold like me! He wouldn't say anything out loud. but people have thoughts ya know?

Answer 1

to me it sounds like your stepdad would make a comment about her weight and you wanted to spare her feelings.

Answer 2

As long as what you did wasn't intentional, there is no need for you to beat yourself over it. The incident you just described isn't something you should ponder over and feel guilty for. If it really kills you every time you reflect on it, maybe you should change the way you act or speak. Think first before doing something you might regret later on or better yet you can talk to your friends and ask them if they are affected by your actions. It is unhealthy to create such compulsions for yourself. You are a good friend so just focus on that.

Answer 3

You were merely protecting yourself and her from Negative Energy. I think you should feel good~! :)

YOU are kind hearted and aware that your step dad says unkind things. You blocked this action before it happened.

Just think of it as protecting your friend and yourself from NEGATIVE ENERGY AND/OR REMARKS!

I would think you were a good friend.
And if she ever says, why don't we walk in the room with your step dad, just say, he's always a downer, or has negative things to say, and I like our friendship and don't want it contaminated by any remarks or judgements.

Tell her he's very judgemental, and negative.
only if she asks.

Obesess on the positives, and how you avoided negativity!
You are a very good friend and kind.

Answer 4

u probably shouldn't have done that otherwise you would be feeling SO BAD! mebbe nxt time take her for da whole tour, round the house, backyard, up da trees. wateva, u know