Peopleusually hate doing their schoolwork. I am very enthusiastic about doing homework. But my parents make my sister and I do it until 9:00-10:00 pm ! homeschool and I start from 9:00-10:00am. I'm not failing in grades and I'm not behind. Even when I work late, they're not seeming happy!? Its liek you can't satiify them and I don't know what to do! Its drivin me nuts cuz i want to have play time with my sister and enjoy life a bit. My mother and father have loud arguments many times that are verbally inappropiate. I am ten going eleven exposed to words worse than the f word. I am exposed to conflict and quarrel that now my sister and I have adopted such a habit-we argue all the time now.
Also, my parents tell me they love so much. Things like-I quit my life and put myself on hold to take care of you, to teach you.... but then later they don't act like they love us!! They say things like-"we need to puth them in a barn!or stick utenseland plunger in our face i don't know what to do!
2007-03-06 16:02:47 · 9 answers · asked by lemon drops 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Did you know that this family barely goes out!!! I've never goneon vacation, and besides camp, I'm now doing a program/activity- first time in lifetime besides camp! On the night of academy awards, I was not watching, you know! Geuss what... I was doing my SOCIAL studies until 9:22pm- by the time I sat down, fireworks and confetti- ITS FINISHED! Not that I care about the Oscars-point is- I long do I have to my schoolwork. The thing over this is that they're not happy with any of us! (I have a twin sis and a bro, all of us are fine as far as academics)- I work late and try to ace my grades for MY PARENTS- i don't do it for myself. I don't know what to do, i can't take it any more. I'm confused as to whether they love me or not??? PLease help. What do you think??
2007-03-06 16:09:49 · update #1
I cannot talk to anyone about this!!! I AM NOT allowed to invite anyone! I have never went to a friend's house beforem, never invited, and whenver we meete someone good somewhere, we never keep contact!!!! WEll, there is this friend and Drama class she's a good person I'm not about to bring her into this!!! I can't talk to anyone!!!
2007-03-06 16:11:36 · update #2
man !!!...I so feel for you ...!!!..for after what you have to put
up with ..I really admire you !!! for continuing on being so strong
as for me I only see 3 ways out....ok..
1.make your dad family to hit you...call police...you'll be placed
in a foster home...hopefuly along with your sis.
2.you seem to be so mature despite your age, so I do say
that you can / could be able to manage on trying to have a talk
with your parents...and try to make them see your point of view, to lax up and you girls have some time off to play around
watch tv..etc
3.just plain tell them....that you do not like the situation in
which they treat you and your sister...and ..that if things do
not change ...you'll make it a point ...as soon as you can
down the line/ years...you'll be leaving the house, and they
can forget about you stopping by and visit or helping them
in any way.
good luck...keep strong..for you are..and also..keep up
on the good grades...for that is your safest way out of
that house....eventually.
2007-03-14 00:03:52 · answer #1 · answered by Roberto D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest with you, it seems like whatever they're doing is working. Your spelling and writing skills are better than most of the adults on this site. I was really impressed when I realized that you are only 10.
However, I can also understand how you feel. It's time to work on your negotiating skills. Ask your parents to sit down and have a talk with you. Tell them how you feel as appropriately as you've told us. Let them know that you appreciate their sacrifices, but you'd like to try starting and finishing your school day earlier so that you are prepared for a world that will require you to be at work by 7 am, and so that you can have some play time. If it doesn't work this time, try again later. It really does sound like they mean well. And being homeschooled is more common than you think since the public school system is such a dismal failure. You should consider yourself lucky to be recieving such a quality education. I hope that you are willing to do something with it. Try not to quarrel with your sister. She's your best ally right now.
2007-03-06 16:19:31 · answer #2 · answered by Lesley M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear you and your sister are going through this. They do love you. It sounds like they are having personal problems and you guys are getting the brunt of it. Don't use your parents behavior with your sister. You know its not right, so don't use it as an excuse to do so(cursing at each other). Try to keep a low profile and do what your told. I do think 12 hours of school work is a bit much. Do you get breaks during the day and maybe this is why the hours are extended. No more than 8 hrs should be needed to be taught an education. I do think your parents just want what they think is best. You might try talking to your mom when she is not busy and stressed. Tell her calmly how you feel and whats bothering you. She may be able to help you better with these situations.
2007-03-06 16:17:15 · answer #3 · answered by ascendent2 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have relatives? Who do your parents talk to when they want to socialize?
Parents aren't the best teachers but at least when a kid is homeschooled, the kid has most of the responsibility. Parents can start feeling insecure - is their child going to be able to keep up? One thing you can do is ask your parents if you can earn privileges for grades. You say that you are ten and don't go on vacations, etc. Perhaps your parents' financial situation has something to do with that. It's a hard thing to judge: they have several kids and vacations are expensive.
Maybe you belong to a church youth group. Ask the youth pastor if it sounds like 'all work and no play' to him. Maybe he or she could talk to your parents sometime and tie some of your play hours to supervised activities at the church. It would be better than nothing and as long as it didn't cost your parents anything, maybe they would be OK with that.
2007-03-12 05:12:38 · answer #4 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes I believe that your parents love you vary much,,..... But I do believe that you need a social life as well. Not to just sit in-front of a book all of your life, and never go out and meet new people. They, as your parents should not fight in-front of you, and your sister and brother. And say the things that they say in-front of you all. You should say something to them. As far as your grades go.. Keep up the good work..But do it for yourself, not just for you parents. You need to open up and let your parents in on what you want. And what you are feeling. If you are scared to do that,see if they won't let you see a sociologist. Then you can tell them safely. With someone else in the room.
2007-03-14 16:02:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to go to someone that you can trust to talk to about this. laying that guilt trip on you of 'i quit my life' etc is damaging in itself this sounds like a very verbally abusive household and verbal abuse is just as damaging as physical abuse. i went through it myself with my ex husband. if you have any friends outside of the home and you can trust their parents i would go to them. or if you have a neighbor you can talk to that may not realize what's going on. usually parents that are like that think they are good parents and they aren't doing anything wrong. but really they are tearing you down emotionally and mentally. i really wish i could help you myself. i don't recommend contacting child protective services yourself they'll probably brush it off as a kid who got mad at their parents. having an adult to help you is the best way. start a journal of daily incidents but only right EXACTLY what happens. obviously you need to make sure your parents don't find it. you can take this with you when talking to child protective services. best of luck to you. usually in cases like this they will put you and your parents in counseling together and also make them take parenting classes they will keep a check on things to make sure they are getting better. i don't want you to be scared that they will take you away from your parents because i don't think that will happen at all in this situation.
2007-03-06 16:13:33 · answer #6 · answered by butter_cream1981 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a minister or another adult relative you can talk to? It sounds like your family really needs help. Find someone you can trust and ask them for help. Good Luck
2007-03-06 16:08:38 · answer #7 · answered by justcurious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont study get bad grades then they'll pay attention to u cuz they want u to get good grades so when ur grades r low they're gonna have to help u more
2007-03-13 14:19:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man thats mest up just pray so that god will give them mercy.
2007-03-06 16:11:19 · answer #9 · answered by HUGO B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋