While I was a 7th grader, I liked a guy and I gave him signs about that. After he knew that I liked him, he responded positively but in fact he was just playing with my heart.
from that time on, I started to have a habit of hiding my personal feeling towards someone. (I dont wanna get hurt anymore)
Now I am in college, and the habit is still there.
so there is a guy I found cute in college, and I wanted to give it a shot. The habit prevented me from doing so. So what should I do? Please give me some methods to overcome it.
2007-03-06 15:59:49 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Think about flowers, like morning glories, that open up in the sun and close down in darkness. They're better protected when they're closed, but not as pretty, not as appealing. Think about the guy you like. Think of him standing in a garden of morning glories. If they're closed he won't notice them. If they're open there's a chance that he will reach out to touch or smell them--and might squash one if he's not careful!--but the beautiful flowers have to take the chance, they have to be open in the sun.
2007-03-06 18:03:10 · answer #1 · answered by Wise Advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm... I dunno if just one experience from junior high would destroy your display of personal feelings until college. There must be more that happened, or you were awfully attached to that guy in 7th grade!
In any case, I would become friends with people first. As simple as that sounds, it's really that easy. Just become friends with the guy and you'll learn what kind of person he is. You don't have to make a big emotional thing, like "I think you're cute and I want a relationship with you", just build it up slowly and you'll probably find that the feelings will just flow. I was a bit of the same way before i met my current boyfriend and because we were best friends, everything just flowed. It was so much easier than I thought it would be.
Good luck!
2007-03-11 17:30:18 · answer #2 · answered by Chicken Little 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to overcome this "habit" it will always get in the way of your future happiness. Taking a chance of getting hurt is a part of life and you have to learn that with every relationship you learn and grow. Everyone brings something to your life, enjoy the adventure and don't take everything as a personal reflexion of your self value.
2007-03-11 09:25:49 · answer #3 · answered by cream city chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was 7th grade. he was a kid acting like an immature jerk. you can't possibly hold that against everyone in your adult life.
college is not high school anymore, it's a whole new world and hopefully a bit more mature. think of alll the dumb things you did when you were in 7th grade, how much you've grown as a person. get over it already.
2007-03-11 21:56:35 · answer #4 · answered by LuckyMo! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happened a lot to me in junior high and highschool and really it like well there is plenty of fish in the sea and ia applied that as an adult and met and married the man who is now my husband . so just go for it
2007-03-12 12:35:37 · answer #5 · answered by Beth G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you have to talk to him and just tell him how you feel let it go ask say what would you think if i said i really liked you play it by ear ready his body language and listen to what he says then when you start talking the words will just come out naturally
2007-03-06 16:06:43 · answer #6 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it a chance
2007-03-11 12:39:16 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋