daughter all the time and my mother-in-law hates me too.I am stuck living in her house and I'm so despondent. I feel like I'm losing it. I can actually feel a hindering spirit in this house. Help. It's way worse than what I am telling.
2007-03-06 15:57:36 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is on oxycontoin because he got hurt and had neck surgery. My daughter is 22 and in college.
2007-03-06 16:02:28 · update #1
My daughter is married and living in her own home.
2007-03-06 16:03:59 · update #2
I feel for you my dear, went through same experience, only lived in same house, two of us alone and don't know how i made it but I stayed,,been taking oxycotin for over 5 years now my husband, and the terrible fights we had and the police over alot, only my husband was drinking at least 12 beers a day everyday along with his pills,,,he is currently taking methadone now to get off the pills and had to quite drinking due to severe liver problems,,now without the booze is better, but the pills have such a hold over you that is the worst thing in my life that I have seen,,we're still together and some days I wonder why,,but will hang in there till I see the end result,,I pray that you have the strength to stick it out, but girlfriend you need to think about yourself now,,get out of the in=laws house pronto, and establish your life,,he loves you he will tag along and get help to get off these pills,,he has to come clean to the doctor and tell them what life is like at home..I cried many a nights by myself,,thank god for my dog he got me through many terrible nights,,be stong for youself and get out of that house before you loose it,,get a place and have some peace it's all about peace and am sure that is what you crave most is PEACE.. PLEASE try to find that and all your answers will fall into place good luck and get out of that house NOW...............
2007-03-06 17:24:09 · answer #1 · answered by lisadivirgilio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a Disabled Vet, I too take the same Meds, so I can relate with pain and such. By you saying he seems like he is slipping away, I don't understand as it wasn't too clear, as it can be taken that he is dying, over-medicated, or you two are drifting apart. I don't know.
Either way, all in all; you sound despondant, and you seem like you are surrounded by a lot of negatives and definately some bad aura as you alluded to.
I don't know if you are religious or not, but, I hope you can find some solace with that, .......but, also more than anything; I think (IMHO) you need to tell EVERYONE you need to take a "Time Out", and get away for a week at least and maybe up to a month.
Nevertheless, you need to go somewhere and hopefully you have friends or family a close Sis, or someone you can get away with or to, and give yourself some time and space to think things out and get some fresh air and a change of environment to clear your head. I would think you may want to entertain ideas of leaving your situation, but, I sense you are a dedicated wife, and maybe some frequent getting away time may do you good.
Surround yourself with some good supportive folks, or go to a Woman's Church group or other support group type of deal.
Maybe just taking time for yourself and go doing something to acknowledge you are alive and feel your essence may be warranted. Hopefully you can get some good energy by stepping away.
I wish you the best and hope you can maybe exact some changes in your situation and break out of the negative atmosphere and rejuvinate yourself from all the despair.
My thoughts and prayers are with you!
2007-03-06 16:10:27 · answer #2 · answered by The Sylvan Wizard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say WHY your husband is on oxycontin.....other than he is in pain.....any medication can make a person act horribly. It's very possible that he's addicted to the oxycontin and needs rehab. Now, as far as living with a mother in law that doesn't like you.....go somewhere else, why put up with that? Why be miserable? I would stay with a friend, relative for awhile, and suggest marriage counseling, or seeing a clergyman...
2007-03-06 16:03:35 · answer #3 · answered by rocketgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is mind blowing, I know you need answeres but let me finish. This evening is the first time i've ever looked at the question and answere section of yahoo, i mean I have never been on this site or any other like it. You are probibly asking yourself why is this man telling me this bullshit? well I am telling you this because I think I was ment to answere this question for you sweetheart. I am married as well and I was also on oxycontin heavily for years i mean heavy. It is my opinion that this drug should be put in the same category as herion. I was just a miserable prick and way worse to be around i'm sure. I put my poor wife through utter hell and then some. As im sure you probably know the mood swings are dramadic and severe as a result of this drug. One second he has a smile on his face then the next second he's screaming so loud its amazing he didn't **** his pants. ha, ha, ha.. I'm sure he feels terrible after one of these epesodes as I did. This evil narcotic had me angry all day every day most of the time i woke up mad for no ******* reason at all.. Anyway if it seems like he is slipping away it is probibly because he is and if you still love him you need to fight with him and for him with everything you have now not later.Get him off of that poision no ******* matter what it can not be the only ******* solutition so if anybody offers that oponion up tell them to **** themselves. by the way i'll apolijize now for my explicit language i hope that you don't take offence to it. on the serious side fight tooth and nail for what really is your husbands life and get him off that dope, It effects your brain to the point that you cannot even even emagin your life without your little green pills... You see these drugs were orrigionly developed for terminilly ill people to keep them comfoatble and mobile for their last days on earth. theirfore their was no concern or exploration into the sever addictive qualities or side affects i mean who cares about side affects when your dieing. But the drug companys faught and got it qualified to be perscribed in a broad range.And for the mother-in-law I finally told mine to **** off. By your writing you seem intelegent you cann't let the fact that your in her house bother you because if it is obvious shell use it against you. You need to walk through that house with your head held high sit down with the man you love the one you married and tell him how its going to be and pull no punches and you just tell that ***** of a mother he's got to stay out of your way. If he still loves you hell listen because he will know you are serious. as i'm sure you know love can help you through alot of pain, but if you are going to do this you need to stick by his side it is going to be a long hard uphill battle for your lives but if that is what you want it will come.... P.s.hold your head up high you are a strong inteligent beautiful, woman act like one....have a nice day...jed
2007-03-06 16:51:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't sound like much of a life. Before you lose it, see a professional therapist and do some serious venting of your frustrations. Let it all spill out. Yes, it will cost you some money, but he's taking Oxycontin, you can spend some money on counseling.
2007-03-06 16:35:41 · answer #5 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EVEN IF YOUR DAUGHTER IS GROWN, she probably donesn't like to hear or see them treat you like that! If you ove your husband then do what you have to but still show them your strength, do it for you self!!! He may be on pain medication for the rest of his life or even get hooked on them wether he needs them or not. You have got a long hard road to stll live in that house, it's up to you how you make it!
Well take charge! It's completely up to you now & forever if you allow people to treat you that way! Being nice or polite can only go so far. You may live there but you are married to her son so she should treat with with some dignity. You don't have to love each other, just make sure you pull your wieght around there, always hold your daughter high up above all that negativity! Brag on her to her and to everybody when they say something bad. If she needs talked to then keep her in line but do not take abuse mentally or verbally, you simply don't have to and you can firmly make that known without showing your A*S*S* !!!! Be a strong woman! They will respect you more and you will feel better about yourself as well. It wil be a good example to teach your daughter so when she grows up she won't feel like she has to grovel at somebodys abuse. Tell her to hold her high just like you!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I have been in similar situations when I was younger and staying with a boyfriend I flet like I was a piece of crap!!! NOT NO MORE! I'm older and have the bull by the horns, it's my world in't nobody going to make me feel like that again. If I were you I would start by going out and getting a little job, waitress, clerk, part time just for my own sanity and pride!! It will get you out of there for a while, and you'll have some spending money for you & your daughter to go buy something and giggle together!!!!
Don't let them steal your sanity, your dignity or smudge your selfworth!
2007-03-06 16:01:03 · answer #6 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2016-12-14 12:49:45 · answer #7 · answered by vasim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry. It's best not to make major decisions when you're feeling emotional. Talk to someone you trust like a friend, family member, pastor or counselor. Therapy is one way to work through your feelings. Give it some serious thought and then try to find a way to make it better or leave.
2007-03-06 16:02:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Watch out for the oxycontin, people get hooked on that stuff like it's heroin. Maybe that's why it seems like he's slipping away, because he is. Hang in there and best wishes.
2007-03-06 16:04:51 · answer #9 · answered by Lee Edward 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can say Oxi is a rough road to traval if its getting too bad GET OUT. Dont stay for kids or cause he is in pain. Not being cold hearted here but you need to think of yourself... Your kids will thank you later. Adicction to anything is hard on kids
2007-03-06 16:02:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋