Have you ever grown apart from a best friend?

Question

I'm growing apart from my best friend. We've been best friends for 4 years. We're in 7th grade now. We don't talk as much, and she's found someone else who she loves to hang out with. I don't want to tell her, because she'll think i'm jealous or something. What should i do? Is this normal? Is there a way we can be close again?

Answer 1

You know, sometimes people just grow apart and sometimes a friendship can only be taken so far and then it's like there's nothing more to gain from it. Sounds cruel, but it's really just a part of growing up. I would recommend that you not focus on your friend's new best friend but instead try to find new friends yourself. Keep busy and hold your head high. Find interests -reading, church, a new hobby, writing in a journal, dancing,helping others -- anything that interests you. Just keep busy. Can you be close again? Absolutlely, but only time will tell and in the meantime, you need to start moving on . You are very young and you will have many wonderful friends in your life as you get older. Best wishes...

Answer 2

I've been in your position. My best friend and i have been best friends since grade 4, now were in 7th, and since were not in the same class out friendship has grown apart. I found in a way a new best friend, i'm still good friends with my old best friend but were not as close. My old best friend hangs out with more peeps, last year and other years we were always together! i feel your pain, you may not want to talk to her about it but tell her what you feel, tell her your friendship is growing apart and thats a shame. It is definatley normal, dont worry about it if its normal or un-normal, now just worry about saving a friendship thats not worth throwing away.
Good Luck!

Answer 3

Trust me when I say that you will meet a ton of people in your life. Talk to your friend and tell her how you feel, if she is a good friend she will invite you to hang out with her new friend too. The more the merrier! As people in middle school get older they change and sometimes that means growing apart. Your friends now will probably different to the ones you have in high school and college and beyond. Stay strong and you try and make a new friend too, you never know what you might learn about someone else!!!

Answer 4

i've grown apart from several. and yes it's possible to be close again. i have a friend i've had since i was 2 and i'm not 27 we went through a time where we actually couldn't stand each other it lasted for like a few weeks maybe a couple months. but then we were best friends again like it never happened. another friend of mine and i grew apart because her bf didn't like me but then we have grown closer again recently. she apologized and said she knew some of the damage couldn't be repaired and i was there before he was so she shouldn't have ever seperated herself from me in that way. it could just be that it's a new friend and she wants to hang out with her a lot because it's new but you could just tell her you miss her friendship and how you used to hang out a lot and you would like to still hang out some and maybe even be included in a couple of their outings because if she thinks the new friend is so cool then you are sure to like her too! there are many ways you can approach her about it with out sounding jealous. just telling her you miss her is a good way it doesn't say 'hey i'm jealous of the new friendship' it just says 'i miss my friend' and saying you'd like to get to know the new friend definitely doesn't seem jealous because if you were you would be coming to her downing her new friend and acting pouty. good luck and i hope you grow close again with your friend. sometimes in life though change is inevitable and as life goes on i assure you you will grow apart from many friends you once thought would always be your friends. some will stab you in the back but for the most part your lives just start going in different paths and it's not that you don't like each other it's just a part of life. as you grow older you change and so does every one around you. your interests your schedules you name it. but trust me you'll still hold all the memories of those departed friends (minus the back stabbers) dear to your heart.

Answer 5

i'm a senior, i've had my best friend for almost 3 years and i can tell you that it's just normal. i had that feeling about 3 months ago. you should just tell your best friend what you feel because then she'd know. trust me, if she knows then it's better. i don't think she'd think you're jealous. if you feel this way, then i guess she feels the same way too. of course you can be close again. all the things you've been through will just be put to waste if you don't. i seriously suggest talking to your best friend. if it's harder to say it in words, write it on a note and pass it to her. once the feeling is out in the open it's easier to handle it and find solutions to it. don't be jealous. as you grow older, you can't just have one best friend. but of course, there will be that one that truly makes a difference in your life.

Answer 6

Yes, I have grown apart from a best friend before. People change, their interest and the dynamics of a relationship. When you understand this, you do not take it personal. Because your friendship has changed, does not mean the the friendship can not and will not continue. Remember do not take it personal and move on.

Answer 7

I had a best friend from daycare all the way up to the end of high school. We kept going to the same schools but then she had a baby and moved far and i did to. . . . in my heart she's still a best friend but for right now she's just an old memory

Answer 8

Yes its sad but life has a way of helping with that. What till you get to your 20s or 30s it only gets worse. My parents only have a few "friends" & rarely go out & most of their "friends" are neighbors. It will happen many times I'm sure & not always because either party wants it it just does.

Answer 9

This happened to me too. Me and my ex-friend were friends for 4 years (since 5th grade.) After 8th grade, we've grown apart. He became punk/rock and I was hip-hop. I made some new friends in 9th grade, and so will you.

Answer 10

Get Over it move on make new friends