I am sitting here while husband is living with girlfriend. He told me to wait a few days and he will come be with me. He said he wants me but cant hurt his girlfriend. I wait but cry because he hurts me by protecting her and making me wait.
The other night I went to his house to get him and he told me to leave, i cried. I beg him not to make me wait. And then his girlfriend was looking out the window.
Tomorrow is the dead line and him and the kids are supposed to pick me up. He has the kids until school is out because i didnt want them to change schools.
We been married 9 yrs , seperated 5 months.
I dont want to give up on our marriage..this morning i ignored his phone calls and he rush right over to see why I didnt answer the phone.
I dont know what to do.
2007-03-06 15:44:58 · 26 answers · asked by Navulam 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No this is not a joke.
I am confused! Its hard to just let go.
2007-03-06 15:50:03 · update #1
I'll give you basically the same answer I gave you to your other question yesterday. Tell him to ***** off!!
He's just using you as a doormat. You should have given up during the last 5 months. He says he doesn't want to hurt his girlfriend? What about what he's put you through? He obviously doesn't care about hurting you.
Oh, take him to court, get custody of the kids and make sure he's paying so much in support for so long it makes his *** bleed. It's the least he deserves.
2007-03-06 15:51:56 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lord Lord Lord
You young girls are so messed up. How in the HECK is your husband living with his girlfriend and you think this is OK? He tells you to WAIT A FEW DAYS AND HE WILL BE WITH YOU. Then the brainiac leads you to believe that he will come back but not now because it will hurt the tramp. And your crying all over town.
I think you need your head examined (by a blind man with a screwdriver.) Is his peter golden? Are you in a town with only 4 men? Cut this looser out of your life. He is a master manipulator. He has a Harem and your in it. Don't accept that tramps sloppy seconds. Get financial help and advice and keep it moving. He is an ***. But you are the one with the donkey kick in your forehead. RUN RUN RUN
2007-03-07 00:05:58 · answer #2 · answered by MissUnderstood 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get some support from friends and family. Maybe Family Services where you live too. You have to cut him off. You have to make the right decisions for your self and your children.
If you don't want to give up on this marriage then you have to start ignoring him more and start acting like you don't need him. Don't be mean or rude, just stop being nice to him and acting like he is important in your life. Ignoring a man makes him crazy. As long as he thinks he can get away with treating you poorly he will. And as long as you act like you can't live without him you will be in his power. Act as if you are getting on with your life and don't need him anymore. Cry in private where he can't see you. Don't let him know he's hurt you any more.
2007-03-06 23:55:06 · answer #3 · answered by Johnny C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't take it but if your going to remember the response you got by ignoring his phone calls, keep him on the outs, don't let him come home right away. Its been 5 months, if you let him come right back and it will happen again, you watch and see, tell him to piss off, you don't want him home, do it for another month or so and he will be the confused one... make him feel the loss and he will be feeling what you are feeling.
Jerk a knot in his tail.
Good luck!
2007-03-06 23:59:36 · answer #4 · answered by mark 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to consider a divorce now as you are going through a difficult phase of your life. I understand how you feel and the truth of the matter is, my friend, don't wait for him. What sort of man would make his wife wait for him at home while he has fun at his girlfriend's house? I think you need to find a job to support yourself and do something fast. Don't wait.
2007-03-06 23:50:47 · answer #5 · answered by happy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not wait for him. As a husband his responsibility and commitment should be to you, not some girlfriend. If he is not acting the part now he cannot be trusted in the long term.
He is treating both you and this girlfriend like commodities. You deserve better.
2007-03-07 00:03:04 · answer #6 · answered by prefrontal.cortex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear heart, this has to be an extremely painful period in your life and I'm sorry that you're experiencing it.
I'm sure most of the posts here are urging you to 'dump the bum' but that is a decision that only you can make. And judging by your post, you're just not ready to let go. There's a ministry called Rejoice Ministries that addresses marriage restoration. The website is www.rejoiceministries.org. Check it out, it may offer a solution for your situation.
2007-03-06 23:52:43 · answer #7 · answered by moe497 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You need to get your affairs in order, retain an attorney, and file for divorce immediately. You need to start now, immediately!
You need to understand your marriage is over! A man who is worried about ANY other person's feeling over yours is not in love with you. I am sorry to have to tell you, but the marriage is over.
You need to get an attorney and file for divorce because you have children involved and need to make sure you don't lose them too.
Focus on getting your money and property safely stacked away where he cannot squander it - the attorney will advise you. Also, get your kids in your possession NOW. Then have the attorney file for divorce.
Look at it this way - You're marriage is lost, but you now need to secure your money, property, and children - you don't want to lose those things.
Be strong and good luck!
2007-03-07 00:03:40 · answer #8 · answered by ManOfTheHour 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am going to be honest with you he has alreasy given up on the marriage when h went and found somebody else. the fact that heis putting th girlfriend feelig and everything over the nine years of marriage is garbage. it is obvious that he has chosen the girlfriend over you and will not faithfully come back to you. i would say prepare for the possible that it time to start the divorce paper and let him go. i am sorry
2007-03-07 00:01:32 · answer #9 · answered by OB the Wolf 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you dont want to give up this marriage? why? does he a a super big Banana that you cant live without ? you want him to to feel sorry for you? all you do is crying, If I were your husband I will bring the new girlfriend home and ask you to sleep in the living room. you have no backbone.
2007-03-06 23:53:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋