my boyfriend and i want to have sex. we'r both adults and it would be my 1st time. not him though. i know hes had sex before , and i told him i would like an HIV tes before, just so my mind could be in peace and i could not have to worry about it later. he doesnt like condoms, and last night he was telling me he doesnt want to get that test done...=/ i was upset because we agreed he would.
i know he probably doesnt have anything i should worry about, ive known him for years now and he doesnt have any symptoms like hes sick or anything.
i need advice....should i trust him ?
please help me. what is something i could tell him?
2007-03-06 15:30:40 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
am i over reacting by making him doing it?
2007-03-06 15:49:19 · update #1
being a virgin is special. treasure it and only give it to the guy that won't make your first experience tainted with a negative emotion. Honestly I would wait for someone else it does not sound like this guy is truly head over heal for you it sounds like he just wants to be with a virgin or he would be willing to do anything to put your mind at ease. HIV is probably not what you have to worry about with this guy I would worry if he would still be around long after you give yourself to him.. best luck
2007-03-06 15:37:51 · answer #1 · answered by m 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
How do you know he doesn't have anything, are you a doctor, have you run tests? When you sleep with him, you sleep with everyone he slept with and everyone they slept with and everyone they slept with. If he cares he'll get the test done. If he's so sure he's clean he shouldn't have any problem proving it to you. Are you on the pill? If not you should be. Next time he tells you he doesn't like condoms, tell him that's too fu&^ing bad. If he comes at you with some I had a vascetomy crap, don't believe it. I'm a single mother because he didn't like condoms and I said, well ok.
To answer your question tell him that the only way he's getting into bed with you is after you go on the pill and you have seen his doctor together (people do lie), and he decides to practice safe sex and wear a condom. After all, if he cared, he wouldn't want to get you pregnant or give you a disease he may have even though "he doesn't have any symptons like he's sick or anything".
2007-03-06 23:56:48 · answer #2 · answered by bellbottombleus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know his sexual history ?
What is his age, race & education ?
Has he been a drug user ?
When did he last have sex with someone else ?
Do you know this for sure ?
He probably does not have HIV/AIDS but how about Herpes
or some other STD ?
If you can answer all these questions are are comfortable with
it then he is probably clean but nothing is 100% sure..
It can't hurt to insist on an STD test before giving him your virginity.....In fact, it would probably be wise...
If I were him and a nice virgin offered herself to me if I would
get an STD test first, I would not hesitate...
You need to get started on birth control pills now if you are not
already taking them...
2007-03-06 23:49:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex with you is going to be so much better if your into it, but how can you be if there is a worry. Its hard enough for a girl to give herself the first time without having to worry about disease. If I were he, I would want you relaxed and hot for me. The only way that will happen is if he gets tested. If it were me I would hate it, but for you I would do it. Go with him, and give him lots of kisses. Later give them all over. Good luck and have fun.
2007-03-06 23:37:49 · answer #4 · answered by Dutch 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't trust anyone with your body. You must look after yourself.
Asking for pre-certified clean is not too much to ask.
This B.S. about not wanting a condom is pitiful.
For the sake of birth control at least.
You give him the ultimatum.....condom and test. He needs to respect you and your boundaries.
2007-03-06 23:41:54 · answer #5 · answered by Crispy_Frog 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are doing the right thing, if he truly love you then what the
problem in taking the test. i would not have sex with him until
he does and if he doesnot then he may not be the one that you
need to be with. i would think that he would want to know as
well for both of your peace of mind.
2007-03-06 23:57:04 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your guns and get the test...if you give in, he has control over you...
2007-03-06 23:39:21 · answer #7 · answered by ACTS 4:12 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you serious?
what is something you could tell him?
you could tell him that he needs to get his damn test, if he don't then don't trust him and thats it
never ever trust anyone with your life ever
2007-03-06 23:44:04 · answer #8 · answered by zether 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would go on my own in sight as to what you requested of him and I believe it will be okay.
2007-03-06 23:40:06 · answer #9 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be stupid and give it up to this chump. As soon as you do, he'll dump you so he can screw other women.
2007-03-06 23:38:48 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋