Is there a way to set up something on line so that I don't have to talk to the real mom about new grand baby?

Question

My husband and his ex wife have older children. The divorce did not make them friends, nor will they be in the near future. They rarely speak, and I am NOT the favorite of the ex wife (hates me with a passion !!), but our oldest has just informed us that she is having a baby! We are very excited ! Herein lies the problem.
I don't feel that she should have to be the monkey in the middle on the purchases that are made for the baby, or that she should have to choose between us, if we should buy the same things.
So........I thought about a personal page (or something) where updates can be made on the progress of the baby, and a way for the Grandparents (3 sets) to know what the others are buying and don't necessarily have speak. To be able to list out purchases / projections on what they wish to purchase for the baby.
THANK YOU IN ADVANCE !!

Answer 1

A whole list of ideas. see the Yahoo! Search results page.

BabiesOnline or mytinybaby.com for a website.

Use more than one gift registry.

JCPenney - hard to beat with free shipping for a lot of items.

OR

"Babies R Us"

send the announcements with a note listing the gift registries.

Answer 2

No offense but, why doesn't the whole lot trying growing up a bit. That's too harsh. I mean why not just get together and have a major bit ch session. Get out all those bad feelings that are being held in and realize that the lot of you are a family, like it or not. The past is the past and the ex needs to understand that nothing can change that now.
Why don't you be a woman and soon to be grandparent and call her on the phone. Tell her that regardless of how you feel for each other, no matter how much hatred there is, it needs to be buried now. There is a new grand baby coming into this world and the baby and the mother are going to need full support from the both of you. This needs to be done so that the baby can be in the same room with all of it's grandparents at the same time.
BITE THE BULLET AND BURY THE HATCHET. The time is now, life is short. Put the baby first. You should be able to come to some sort of truce where you can at least be civil enough to be in the same room as the child or talk on the phone about him.
Do you guys want the baby to grow knowing that his grandparents hated each other so much they all couldn't attend his first birthday party, come on now. Don't be scared, call her and keep cool!