Have you ever had to deal with.......?

Question

A person who thinks that other people are "So stupid," that they have to make horrible remarks about them all day long?What did you do about this situation? How was the situation resolved?
if it didn't get resolved,,,what would you do next time about this problem?

Just for the sake of argument..I did try to speak with this person...but she would NEVER listen! Her attitude was so bad that even my former boss, who had called to my apartment...thought that she was "the rudest human being alive!" LOL! My ex-boss thought that I should get her out of my place, and find another roommate! Her basic personality was rude all of the time, to anyone..even her own family! Now what do you think about that?!!?

Answer 1

yes i had a friend like that, she is the perfect one and everyone around her including me were always put down, frankly the negative energy i felt whenever she was there i could not bare. after talking and explaining many times to no avail, i had to make drastic measures.
i was the one suffering so i was the one that had to leave, i even left my job that was with her at the same place, from that day 2 years ago i am a happier person because i did not even have to hear about her or be under her remarks ever again.
it feels good.
so you have to do that, do whatever it takes not to be around such a person obviously with superiority complex...
Good Luck...

Answer 2

Sure, there are so many people like this. The best way to deal with them is to let them know that you understand.
For instance:

"This person is SO STUPID. They did this and that"

You reply,"This and that IS frustrating. How did you deal with it?"

Once they realize you have heard what they are feeling, they can then focus on the problem instead of the person.

The negativity that is effecting you is a product of their frustration. When you aknowledge that frustration and help them to focus on the solution, you will not be expected to carry the negativity with them.

"That IS frustrating. How will you overcome this?" or "I can SEE why that would make you angry. What will you do so that you can feel good again?" or "I feel for you because of what has happened. What would be the first step in helping the situation?"

After a few of these statements, the negative person will stop trying to bring you down as well.

Answer 3

I was in this same situation. I worked with 3 other girls.2 senior to me and had been there for 4 years the other my age and started a few days after. They would play this shitty music all day and sit and ***** about their lives. I would try to join in but was always cut out and given a messed up look. I am new to this small town and they all knew each other and everything about everyone. I spoke with my husband about how much it bothered me. so he downloaded a buch of music he new I would like and put it on my MP3 player so at least i could work in peace. OH MY GOD!!!! They had a fit!!! They start yelling at me when ever they talked to me. And I only had one side of the headphones in. thay were so rude they would even yell and say i was cleaning to much! so i just kept working and ignored it. But the second day i brought my MP3 player the one lady just snapped a rude comment at me. I sat there for a second then finally said, is something wrong why are you being so rude to me. She said I'm not we just all talked about it and we dont like you. Then she went and got the boss who yelled at me as well when he didnt even know what happen she just told him i back talked her. i tried to explain myself and he told me to leave that they wouldnt ever stop fighting with me and so it woulndt work out. I was very very pissed off. I did all the right things but i guess that is what they mean when they say lifes not fair!! they hated they couldnt get to me!! the person you are talking of is most likely insecure with themselves and has to make others seem inferior to them. And they obviuosly need that attention even if it is negitive attention.

Answer 4

You just have to ignore their remarks. Keep in mind that anyone who would spend all day putting someone else down, is likely doing it because they don't feel very good about themselves. Doesn't make it right but might help explain it.

Answer 5

I have met people like this before. My thoughts are that they are either very insecure about themselves or very foolish. Personally I would tell her to respect your friends and family or look for somewhere else. If she wants to carry on that way that's her decision but she shouldn't let her attitude interfere with your life. best of luck :-)

Answer 6

This person is creating negative energy and you should not continue to put up with her. Talk with her first but if she will not listen to reason then you should probably ask her to leave. Experiences thru out life might teach her to get off her high horse. Be one of those experiences and ask her to leave.

Answer 7

Superiority complex prevails in their id. There is not much you can do with them because they are born like it. You can try them and test them using technique of power struggle and power manipulation and see how they react to it. They will stand back from you because for them, you're no longer a sample, but a match.

Answer 8

Ask the person why she/he is so mean, and if he really thinks he is so smart. Explain to him that he isn't making any friends but antagonizes people. If the situation continues remove yourself from it if possible.

Answer 9

This is a person who in reality are stupid and insecure themselves. they are mean and put people down to build themselves up. Get the book, How to deal with nasty people!

Answer 10

my mother's like that a little, she thinks the worst of people and situations, if i have someone like that in my life, i get rid of them, i have no time for negative attitudes, but with my mother (since i can't get rid of her lol), i just totally ignore her when she says negative things, i've learned to tune her out and not let her get to me