me and my girl are in highschool and w hve already decidedthat we want to marry each other . we have both been though alto together ! and we have promised each other we would marry each other 1. is this normal ? 2. hen tell her i want her to leave options open just in case she falls for someone else she gets mad why ? 3. i have all the desire in the world to marry this girl ! we're in highschool
2007-03-06 15:10:09 · 20 answers · asked by some kid :P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh geez. Don't rush your life too quick...you'll regret it.
2007-03-06 15:11:57 · answer #1 · answered by xolilwindmill 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Those are questions only the 2 of you can answer. High school is too young for some, not too young for others. My husband was in highschool when we got married. The first year was great, then the second year, not so great. He wanted to do somethings he felt he had missed out on. In the end, he didn't want those things he only wanted to be with me and now we have an amazing marriage. I couldn't ask for anything more. I guess what I'm saying is that it is something nobody here should be telling you yes or no. We don't know you. Your parents can't answer that, your best friend couldn't answer that.
I do have one suggestion. I am a Christian and I do believe that you should wait until you are married to have sex, but that is your choice too. What I suggest is live with her for a few months before you get married. just because you live together doesn't mean you have sex. Things come out when you live together that can tear you apart in a marriage. Work them out.
2007-03-06 23:29:08 · answer #2 · answered by Mr & Mrs G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"wise beyond years" sorry bud, you're not, otherwise you wouldn't be asking this question.
You're far too young to be permanently bound to some girl. Guess what, in 10 years when you are regretting only being with one woman and in the process of getting a divorce while arguing about the custody of the kids, there may be a restraining order in place by then, you'll look back at today and regret that you decided to stay with her in opposition to all the advice you've received here.
Why are you asking this place anyway? Love does not equal sex. Love does not pay the bills, and you can't live as an adult without paying the bills.
Don't make a decision with your hormones in full swing and don't use other's arguments as an excuse to do what you're going to do anyway.
2007-03-06 23:17:50 · answer #3 · answered by Johnny C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's perfectly normal to be in love and want to marry each other. Even in high school. I went through the same thing. However, now that I'm older I should tell you to not think about marriage right now. Just enjoy your love. Things might go on and be wonderful forever but, people change. Please wait til you are older and have jobs and a little money to work with. If you still feel the same way in your 20's then, by all means marry. I know you love her so, please be careful and practice safe sex if you are having sex now.
2007-03-06 23:18:58 · answer #4 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might be wise beyond your years baby, but you still have a lot of growing to do. Trust me, I know. I was with my ex at 16 and thought we'd be together forever. But we changed and things changed. Basically...the boy you are right now is not the man you will be at 25, 30 or even 40. Take your time and get to know and LOVE YOU first...then when its time, the right woman will come along.
2007-03-06 23:15:30 · answer #5 · answered by Shareen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People change. Event hough you might think you're all grown up and this and that-your not. When you graduate highschool you change and grow. You and your girlfriend will grow into different, more mature people, and will probably grow apart. Love is beautiful, enjoy it but dont blindly jump into it. I advise that you wait two months after you graduate or get into college.
2007-03-06 23:18:06 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get married now..it will end in divorce...its best to live your life and explore your options and settle down latetr in life
You may be in love now..but when you move in with each other things wil def change...and familiarity breeds contempt.
2007-03-06 23:16:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude i think u shud wait a while till after high school cuz like trust me its a pretty stupid thing 2 do at the moment and believe me i kno all about stupid things
2007-03-06 23:16:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes except for a major factor the way you view things at 25,30 35 and 40 will be completly different then at 18
2007-03-06 23:13:56 · answer #9 · answered by resigned 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suspect you are not so wise beyond your years. Your reaction is 100% typical of a teenager who has more testosterone than good sense on board. Go out and play the field and enjoy yourself. Use condoms! Have fun.
2007-03-06 23:15:12 · answer #10 · answered by Jack P 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First, Don't get married. Second, Stay in school and learn how to put a sentence together!!!
2007-03-06 23:13:48 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋