Does anyone else have a severe anger problem like me and how do you cope with it?

Question

I don't fnd it funny;I'm not proud of it either,I'm a person that gets easily angry and I have poor relationships including with my own family,I'd get in physical fights with my own family members and I grew up during my adolescent years thinking it was "normal",so I'm grown now and doing positive things in my life to better myself;I've improved with my anti-social behavior,but I have a question to anyone who I can RELATE to or could GIVE ME A HAND;what can I do to stop being so arrogant,I don't know where to start but I don't feel sorry for myself,I could need some words of understanding___Thanks___God Bless

Answer 1

i totally feel for you, trying to better my anger management myself. I feel embarrassed about my anger issues. I, too, grew up thinking this was normal. Best luck -- keep smiling--

Answer 2

I've had the same problem, understanding the following information helped tremendously, I hope that it can help you.

Taking charge of yourself

Taking charge of yourself involves putting to rest some very prevalent myths. You’ve probably grown up believing that you can’t control your own emotions, that they are things that just happen to you.
Like all emotions anger is a result of thinking. Anger is usually a result of wishing the world and the people in it were different.
Simply put, you believe that things or people make you unhappy, but this is not accurate. You make yourself unhappy because of the thoughts that you have about the people or the events in your life. It’s not people or events that make you unhappy, it’s what you choose to think about those persons or events. You alone control what enters into your head as a thought. If you don’t believe this, just answer this question, “ If you don’t control your thoughts who does?”
You have the power to think whatever you choose to let into your head If something just “pops” into your head you choose to put it there, though you may not know why, you still have the power to make it go away. Your feelings come from your thoughts. You can’t have a feeling without first having a thought.
If you can control your thoughts then you can control your anger.
When you are in charge of your emotions then you don’t have to choose self-defeating reactions. Once you learn that you choose to feel you will be on your way to personal freedom.

Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
Your Erroneous Zones

Answer 3

Acknowledging the problem is the first step- congratulations. Soon you'll get to the point where you can stop yourself mid-sentence and say, "you know what, I need a break. I'll be back in a minute." When you come back, you can apologize for almost losing your temper. After a while, you'll be able to stop yourself before you owe someone an apology. It's just a process of being aware of it and stopping yourself a little sooner each time. Good luck with it. I'm sure the people around you will be happy with the changes you're trying to make.

Answer 4

i know how you feel. i have a daughter who is 23 and has a 5 yea old baby. my daughter and son-in-law split. and I'm doing all i can but pulling my hair out. my daughter has a mind of a 12 year old and i feel like I'm beating my head agents a wall with her. i have found doing something constructive keeps my anger down. I'm the type of person who is in the face and shoving. when i get angry my husband goes out side, he said when he comes up to me it's like bucking up agents a bull when angry. and right now i have some anger going threw me, that's why I'm on here now. trying to calm down. talk to god and ask him to give you the strength to get threw the day. repeat it as much as you need. you might want to talk to your Dr. good luck and god bless.

Answer 5

i know someone similar and as an outsider I realize that her triggers are constantly making her rise up. find out your triggers and get rid of them. hers is her mother. she's venomous. it's toxic. if you find what is toxic, rid yourself of the terrible things. if it's a parent and you cant cope, then tell them so and give them a chance to change....then if they dont u have to move yourself away from them emotionally or even physically. if you remove your trigger then you will find you can handle other little problems easier.

Answer 6

eat better food, i used to be angry all the time and i didn't know why, and later due to unrelated reasons I turned into a vegetarian, and I stopped being angry, then I turned into a raw vegan, and now I'm never angry, i sleep less and have more energy, it's the food you eat, i'm not crazy it works, look it up, other people have claimed it works.

Answer 7

Try an anger management support group. It would probably be effective, relatively inexpensive, and better than one on one therapy.