Can redeeming yourself be a way of forgiving yourself?

Question

My situation is that I've lost a lot of valuable, materialistic things that were important to me (bought by other people who have had their feelings hurt for me losing them), and I feel absolutely horrible. I feel as if I must punish myself in order to make up the loss, forgive myself and move on.

It's not a big deal, but I feel that it is because I just can't move on

Answer 1

I lost my wedding ring, i found my engagment ring which i did feel better about but couldnt find my wedding ring.. it ate me up inside so bad.

I personally feel i punished myself more than my husband could have if he wanted too, when i told him i lost our wedding ring.

Yes it might be sad to loose something someone gave you, but if they are your friend or family they can feel upset or sad, but shouldnt direct you to do the same, its just giving you a big guilt trip.
So Move on, let them know you love them not the gift, or symbol..

Answer 2

Forgiveness consists of remorse, restoration, and correction.

Remorse - You should be sincerely sorry for your act. This means the original act, not necessarily the final outcome. For example, you should be sorry you were careless with someone else's stuff, not just that you lost it.

Restoration - You should do what is humanly possible to restore the loss or damage. And if the act was a crime, you should "do the time" or submit to the justice system. Or if it's a financial loss that you caused, restore their financial loss (pay for the lost stuff!)

Correction - You should correct the personal flaw or condition which led to the problem. For example, if the problem came from a drinking issue, stop drinking. Correcting one's flaw that led to the situation is perhaps the most critical part of seeking forgiveness!

If you do those things, then you can (and should) forgive yourself. If you simply "punish" yourself, you've done nothing to earn redemption.

Answer 3

STOP! No , you don't. You lost some MATERIAL things...life is more important and the memories you have should be enough. Accidents/or things brought on by others happen and you don't have to be punished for it at all. Don't you feel bad enough? Isn't that punishment enough? Stop it! MOVE on with your life and let bygones be bygones. You think you are the only one that has lot valuable memories? I have, also,. Yes, I feel horrible but the memories of it all I have in my mind and my heart. So, are they lost? NO, just the touching part of it is lost. Forgive yourself for any mistake you made to cause this. I forgive you! Bless.

Answer 4

Yes. I think that if you feel guilty about something that the best way to forgive yourself is to make amends for it. You can't really clear your conscience until you do something about it. You can ask forgiveness of someone else but the most important thing is to make peace with yourself. Redeeming yourself, in your own eyes & the eyes of others is the best solution.

Answer 5

It depends. It's possible.

If by redeeming you made it up to someone, then you'd probably be taking the first step to forgiving yourself (although not necessarily).

In most areas of life if you make mistakes, the best thing to do is to own up to it as quickly as possible so you don't have to drag it around like a ball and chain for the rest of your life.

Answer 6

There are many different ways to forgive yourself. Redemption is a good way to forgive yourself. In the end forgiveness must come to move on.

Answer 7

i dont belive that you neccessarly reedem yourself it makes you sound like money (sry) Forgiving yourself is redeeming youself sorta lol sry if i sound confusing......forgiving yourself is somthing you have to do, you should never hold a grudge against yourself because there is no point in hating yourself because that wont get you anwhere in life... and for the redeeming part you cant really redeem life or yourself... you can make improvements and add to success but you dont redeem yourself ..... ok ... example.... if you were to go to jail for selling drugs get out on bail or soemthing and then you started out of the kindness of your heart raising money for the hungry...it wouldnt be "redeeming: yourself it would be forgiving and making the right choices......

hoped this help sry if it sounds confusing again....

Answer 8

no!

the way youre thinking is schizophrenic! youre just agreeing with with the bullsh!t youve self created.

youre trying to avoid whatever horrific uncomfortable situation by justifying and rationalizing...this is common for immature girls who dont want to accept any responsibility for their actions.

Answer 9

it can be but it depends on circumstances of what was done. what do you need to forgive yourself for?