people who read this will probably assume that because i mentioned my parents that i am not very old and clearly need guidance. I'm 18 and I'm in a serious relationship with my boyfriend. for right now i feel very much in love (do I plan on getting married? no! do i think this will last through college? i don't know but i will probably give it a chance). Anyway I am well aware that my boyfriend feels equally as strong for me as I do for him, perhaps a little stronger to be honest, but i realize that this relationship has been so important to me in every aspect of my life. my parents have always controlled my life so tightly that I've never been able to really do anything. I have to look, act, and be a certain way all the time when I'm with them I'm stuck being a person that I'm not (this is not the issue here) but when I'm with my boyfriend all I have to be is me. Anyway we were watching a movie (honestly) and my mom walked in. they want to end our relationship completely. help me!!!
2007-03-06 14:51:28 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
They can only do that if you allow them to. Be strong.
2007-03-06 15:06:45 · answer #1 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend, I've been when you are and I know what a terrifying and stressful position it is to be in.
Really though, if you want to be honest to yourself you are going to have to make a tough decision. Your an adult, your 18. If you feel like you can't be who you are around your parents and this relationship is really that important to you, you will have to move out to pursue it.
As long as your living in your parents house and they are paying your bills, they will have that to hold over your head. Independence at that age isn't easy and you will have alot of challenges ahead if that's the choice you make, it does offer you though the freedom and lasting independence your craving.
I would look into getting my own place if I were you. You'll need a job and maybe you can find a room-mate or even if the situation permits live with your boyfriend. I just don't as a first choice recommend living with people before marriage though, it really does complicate things and makes you unhealthily dependent on them. Maybe if your going to or thinking of going to college you could live on campus. These are just a few ideas.
Good luck!
2007-03-06 15:01:33 · answer #2 · answered by Kurius_Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm on the same boat as you are..
to think I'm already 22 but my family is highly Conservative.. they worry too much that i might get pregnant or something like that. what i did was when i had the chance to talk to them i told them that i am not dumb to ruin what i have been working hard for (my career), my life and i haven't even reached half of my goal that is to be successful in my own right. that this is my plan and this is who i will be. i guess they got the idea that yeah i am in a serious relationship but that doesn't mean I'm willing to give up my dreams. i also made them understand that my bf is supporting every inch of my dream.
after that talk they became much understanding & some how loosen the grip.
i wish you well!
2007-03-06 15:01:05 · answer #3 · answered by bebe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u probably wont listen to me because this isn't what u want to hear but u need to listen to yoUr parents. they probably foresee some problems ahead of u if u continue this relationship. even though u r 18 Ur parents know a little more than u do. the best thing to do at this age when dating is to keep Ur options open. who wants to be tied down when u are so young? u have the rest of Ur life to be committed to someone. and the odds of u staying with the boyfriend that u have at 18 are slim to none. what u think u want now will not be what u want in 5 years. hell, it wont even be the same in 2 yrs. suck it up and listen to ur folks, im willing to bet that u will be thankful in the long run.
2007-03-06 15:00:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find out why your parents want to break you two up. I'm sure they don't deliberately want to ruin your relationship for the sake of hurting you. Even if they've had tight control over your life, they know what its like to be in a serious relationship. (I'm sure they are committed to one right now) Sit down and have a very serious discussion with them, and try to compromise. Tell them your reasoning, and don't lose control of the situation. You have to be vigilant and calm if you are serious about it.
Hope I helped ^^
2007-03-06 15:00:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are 18. Move out on your own. As long as you live with your parents they can tell you who to see. Right now, I don't have a relationship with my daughter (who is an adult) because I believe the man she is marrying is a jerk, and worse. Since she is old enough to make her own decissions, I'm letting her, but that doesnt mean I have to be around him.
2007-03-06 14:59:35 · answer #6 · answered by ralahinn1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell your parents straight up that you don't have any plans on breaking up with your boyfriend. If your parents don't like it, well too bad. It's your life, not theirs, so live it to the fullest. You should tell your parents to accept you for who you really are, not someone they want you to be. I know what you mean. I stood up to my dad and told him my opinion whether he liked it or not because as a growing individual of 15 years old, one must start to think for temselves and say things out loud. because you have the right to do so, whether your parents like it or not. If you don't stand up to them, they will always treat you like that. I strongly suggest you tell your parents to back off(in a nice way) because if you make a mistake you can take responsibility for it and not blame your parents or you can learn from it. Remember, llive everyday as your last, now is the chance to stand up to your parents.
2007-03-06 15:03:40 · answer #7 · answered by girlynsporty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Josie. I'm sorry to hear that your parents do not approve of your relationship. Since you are 18, you are considered as a young adult and your parents really can't control your life. Are you living with them? If that is one of the cases, you are under their roof and should respect them as well. But I think that you should prove to them who he really is. Have them get to know each other.
2007-03-06 14:57:37 · answer #8 · answered by kmerino21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well honey da truth is you already are 18. and if you guys really are in love then just leave. its about time your parents but out of your life. just make sure your making the right choice. if deepo inside you know its love then go for it!! your parents are suppose 2 want 2 see you happy. so sit down and talk to them. if it doesnt work out then just tell them its time for you to go!! am a little younger than you (17 yrs old) but i am a lil experienced.. so just trust girl!! and go with wateva floats your boat
2007-03-06 14:59:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screw your parents if they think they are doing the right thing then they have thought wrong. Well if you love him its your relationship and tell them to brake up and if they say they are married and care for each other then say you feel as though you could get married.
2007-03-06 14:56:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well .do tell Darling, what were you doing when 'Mom" walked in(honestly) . Like Like the guy on the radio says( Paul Harvey) "Now here is the rest of the story" So we await the "rest of the story"
2007-03-06 15:02:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋