I was raped 8 weeks ago by my boyfriends brother. He used a condom though. Me and my boyfriend had sex 2 days earlier and didnt. I am now pregnant. I dont know what to do, coz i dont want to be carrying that a**holes baby, but my boyfriend wants a baby. I also dont wan to tell him what happened, coz it would hurt him to think his brother would do that, and i dont even know if he would believe me or not. I am so scared , what do I do
2007-03-06 14:45:54 · 24 answers · asked by jane 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You need to tell your boyfriend. You should have called the police. If your boyfriend finds out later he will probably hold that against you sadly.
Something needs to be done about it.
If the rapist used a condom but your boyfriend didn't it is probably your boyfriends baby.
You have some really tough desicions to make. You need to make them soon or it will haunt you forever.
2007-03-06 14:50:19 · answer #1 · answered by hollilynn 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for what happened to you. My first suggestion would be to go to the police. Rape is a crime and if you let this boy get away with it he will probably do it to some other girl. Second, please do not blame the baby. That baby that is 50% you had nothing to do with who, why or when it was conceived. It matters not if it is one brother's or the others. It only matters that you give the baby a fair chance. Even if you don't want the baby there are so many couples that would not only want the baby but give them so much love. I always try to take the bad and find the good in it. What if the baby you carry is the child that grows up and develops the cure for cancer or AIDS? Give him/her to a family who cares not about how or by whom they were conceived, it is simply enough that they were conceived. Please don't be selfish in either instance. Don't let fear over ride your knowledge that what that boy did to you was wrong and he should face the punishment for his crime. Don't kill a baby that is Innocent of all wrong and that could mean the world to a husband and wife that can not have a child. May you be blessed with peace.
2007-03-06 22:58:14 · answer #2 · answered by Kari S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not gonna tell you I'm sorry because that won't take away the feelings you have. You need to talk to someone about what happened. You also need to let your boyfriend know what kind of person his brother is and you need to consider pressing charges. However, if you do press charges it's gonna be a long hard road and it'll be your word against his.
As far as the baby...sounds like it's your boyfriends but there's no 100% way of knowing. Because they are brothers there DNA will EXTREMELY close,nearly identical, and they might not be able to give you a 100% answer. You need to decide what you should do. NO ONE can make that decision for you, not even your boyfriend.
2007-03-06 23:49:15 · answer #3 · answered by makalas_mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to tell someone who you can trust about this. Can you speak to your mum or a close and trustworthy relative or friend.
For your sake and the sake of future girls your boyfriends brother comes in contact with you cant let him get away with doing this.
I know its a very hard situatin for you but you must also understand that there is a chance that your boyfriend will not believe you over his brother. His brother may admitt it but say that you consented to it even...
It does need to come out tho and if your boyfriend does not believe and trust you then you have to be thankful to find this out sooner rather than later, as you are better knowing where you stand early on in this situation. Such as choosing to have an abortion or adjusting to the fact that you will become a single parent.
You will need his trust and understanding to raise this baby with him, so if you dont get it over something as serious as this then there seems no point.
You do however need to press charges or somthing against the brother, if you do have this baby you will be tied to him for the rest of your life and something like that cant stay a secret.
Good Luck, Stay Strong and dont let that ba**ard come out of this smiling
2007-03-06 23:23:35 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well hopefully the asshole is in jail for what he did to you because if he was bold enough to do that to his brother's girlfriend then he will do it again to you or someone else. If you are considering having a family with your boyfriend then hopefully he would trust you enough to believe your story and be there to help you. Tell him and tell him there is a chance its not his baby and you need to do it soon. If you are thinking of ending it you have less than 2 weeks to do so legally... Go to the doctor and tell them what happened and ask for an ultrasound, hopefully it will say that you are more than 8 weeks and you will know who the father is. Unless you are willing to raise the other guy;s baby then I think the best thing to do if you aren't sure is to end it and wait until you are healthy enough and try to have one with your boyfriend, that way you know the father and it will help things move on...
2007-03-06 23:09:45 · answer #5 · answered by triskitahs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry that this happened to you. Eight weeks is a long time to keep this kind of secrete. You need to tell your bf about his brother, also tell your parents and the police. If the brother used a condom, it is probably your bf, however, even condoms can develop leaks. The only way to be sure is to get a DNA test done when the baby is born. Good luck.
2007-03-06 22:56:21 · answer #6 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry this happened to you. unfortunately I think you need to tell your boyfriend what happened you can't bear that by yourself for your whole life it will eat you up. Now if your boyfriend doesn't believe you that is his problem right now everything is about you and the baby what do you really want to do? You can't count on keeping the baby for your boyfriend I'm sorry but, this is a bad situation for both of you and he may not be the prince you are hoping for under the circumstances. This is YOUR life. Go to a rape counsellor in your area and work this out. You need to talk to a person about this experience.
2007-03-06 22:53:45 · answer #7 · answered by emmandal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you don't think you did anything wrong. What your boyfriends Brother did to you is unforgiveable and against the law. Do you want this to happen to another girl? I know I wouldn't. Even though this happened over 2 months ago I think you should press charges against him. I think your boyfriend would want to know that his own blood brother raped you. That's awful, and you need to do something about it. Do you want to live your life not knowing who your babies daddy really is? I feel for you, but you also need to do the right thing.
2007-03-06 23:54:50 · answer #8 · answered by shorty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely it is y our boyfriend's baby, but you can't be a hundred percent sure without a test. You should tell your boyfriend now. It might hurt him but think how he would feel if he finds out later the baby belongs to his brother and then you come out with this story, it will sound like you are making it up.
2007-03-06 23:02:04 · answer #9 · answered by I love sushi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor poor dear. I am so sorry that happened to you. I cannot imagine what you are feeling right now. Wow
I feel honest is best in most cases. I would tell your boyfriend what happened and what is happening now. If you hide the truth, it will come out one way or another. It is best to face it openly, if not, it can tear you up inside. The baby is most likely your boyfriend's. It's good to think of him, but think of yourself. How do you feel about having a baby? Do you want one now? Will he be a good father? Are you ready to be a mother? It's a very big decision and big step. Talk about it with him and find what is best for you. What is best for you is best for your baby too, what ever you choose
Best wishes to you. I hope you find what is right. No one can make that decision for you.
2007-03-06 22:51:48 · answer #10 · answered by April 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋