or not be as close friend as it is now?? or no change??
2007-03-06 14:44:49 · 28 answers · asked by Friendly 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
CUT CUT CUT !!!!
2007-03-06 14:57:38 · answer #1 · answered by Snow White 2 · 1⤊ 8⤋
Well, it would really depend on which one of my closest friends did come out (hypothetically, at least). However, I'm just going to use one of my good friends named Nathan as an example. Ever since I knew him, I just assumed he was straight (Nothing about him set off my gaydar and I (for convenience's sake) usually classify people as straight unless otherwise noted. When I did find out he was gay (from his MySpace account, oddly enough), I didn't really know what to think. When I did find out he really meant it and was gay, I pretty much thought, "Meh." I was semi-apathetic to it; as he's been my friend since freshman year (which was about three years ago), I want or feel the need to let that stand in the way of friendship. Hell, I have two friends that are gay *and* a lesbian Godmother. It would be stupid if I just went, "**** you!" to a friend who I found out was gay or something.
Back on topic, it would really depend on the person and how deep our friendship goes. However, I would ideally accept this and move on.
2007-03-06 23:31:29 · answer #2 · answered by ldnester 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I am gay, and that would be extremely hypocritical. I don't believe in "cutting" relationships just because a person won't have sex with whomever you would have wanted them to. It sounds really, really ridiculous.
First of all, he or she would have always been gay, and there is nothing that could have changed that, so the person would be the same. I would be honored, however, if he or she told me because that, in my mind, would be a sign that A) That person trusts me, especially if he or she isn't out yet, or B) That person really wants me to know them as dynamic person.
Why cut a relationship if its just starting to deepen?
2007-03-06 23:19:48 · answer #3 · answered by Waverly Pascale 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can give my 2 cents on this one. It's from my personal exprience when I came out to my female best friend.
She's Catholic, not exactly pro-gay, but she been my friends ever since high school. When I told her I was gay, she didn't flip out or anything (what grace) but appeared calm as I explained myself.
After I went home, I phoned her and she told me how she felt.
She did not judge me in her religion. She did not condemn my homosexuality. She was shocked because what I told her changed everything about me that she knew. Telling her that I was gay drastically changes she had thought of me before.
What your sexual preference would have meant to the person will determine whether how much the person will think of you to have a friendship with.
2007-03-06 23:04:05 · answer #4 · answered by Maurice 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No change. Some of my close friends are gay and I treat them the same way I treat all my other friends. You shouldn't judge people by the they sleep with.
2007-03-06 23:25:23 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No change. If I cut off a friend just because he came out of the closet, I'd be one lousy friend, wouldn't I? I treat my gay friends the same as my straight, bi, or transgendered friends. In short, friends are friends, no matter what.
2007-03-06 22:57:28 · answer #6 · answered by solarius 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hell no I wouldn't. I'd probably hit it... lol!
But in reality, you are close to this person for a reason, and what betrayal would occur if suddenly this friend was friendless.
When I came out to my best friends, they told me "well, no ****. We've known for years,' which my response was like 'WTF? Why didn't anyone inform me?'
The way I see it, if you decide to cut a realtionship because of a detail like sexuality, then you really aren't a friend. Period. That's like waking up one day and realizing your friend is of a different race, or has a third nipple, or has blonde hair, has three eyes, has one eye, or what not and saying 'Oh my golly gee willagers, this person is a freak! Why haven't I noticed?'
It's very shallow and callous.
-Ned
2007-03-06 22:53:38 · answer #7 · answered by Ned No D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if I found out my closest friend was STRAIGHT?!! OMG!! The HORROR of it all!!!
I personally don't give a rat's behind who sleeps with whom,as long as they're all consenting adults,and aren't into pda,lol. I don't want to see anyone slobbering all over each other in public...and I don't do it either
2007-03-06 22:55:16 · answer #8 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No change. If I loved this person when I thought he or she was straight, I would love them if he or she was gay. It is what is inside of the person that counts. If you have a friend who is there for you through thick and thin, when you're sick, or having a crappy day; you should count yourself lucky-no matter that person's sexual orientation.
2007-03-06 22:55:34 · answer #9 · answered by SJM620 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No change! I'd be happy for them! Uh after all, one of my closest friends is gay and I'm bi, lol!
2007-03-06 22:48:44 · answer #10 · answered by ~ Lillie ~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you found out your closest friend was black (if they're white) or white (if they're of color), would you cut your relationship with them?
Sounds shallow at best, hateful at worst...
If you care for your friend, you care for them, whether they are exactly like you or not. If you can't handle people different than yourself, sure, cut them out of your life, *they* are better off without *you*.
2007-03-06 23:10:54 · answer #11 · answered by edith clarke 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋