...friends. He had a crush on her from elementary through high school. (He was nerdy by the way.) Why didn't she show herself to me? Or to our other high school friends? To my fiancee (who was one of her friends too) though she and my fiancee were rivals over everything (including over me)?
2007-03-06 14:19:51 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Science & Mathematics ➔ Alternative ➔ Paranormal Phenomena
I don't mean to say my friend's "nerdy" in a bad way. Don't get me wrong. Hey, I love the guy! He's a genius! He gets me out of every mess I get myself into! He covers for me... And he's content with being a nerd. But he's not "that" nerdy. He's cool too! He's a yellow belter.
One more thing, when me and my ex broke up when we were 17, she sent me a "Dear John" letter. Didn't know she suffered from depression and guilt after the break-up...
2007-03-06 14:49:31 · update #1
Another thing: When I said "ex" I meant ex-girlfriend, not ex-wife...
We broke up when we were 17... We're what--26 now...
And we never smoked "pot." Period.
2007-03-12 10:25:01 · update #2
Maybe she feels your not ready. Sometimes spirits may want you to see them,however, if you are still feeling emotional, grieving, guilty, too stressed out, not open minded, or maybe she waiting for you to forgive her, they have been known to be aprehensive in appearing or speaking to you when you have anxiety. Give it some time.
Here is a tip that has worked for me. If you are not good at communicating verbally, you can write how you feel in a letter addressed to her. Ask that she give you a sign, just be sure to keep the faith in knowing she will give you a sign, be aware of the things going on around you. You may hear yours/her her favorite song on the radio, her name may pop up on a tv commercial, drive by a sign with a saying that catches your eye, find a piece of paper on the gound only to find it has her name on it, or has the answer to your special question.
You can also ask her to visit you in your dream. The dream is an actual visit, you will notice the dream to feel so real. There are no symbols, everything will make sense and will be very lucid. If you want to remember your dreams, just be sure to keep a pen and journal or tape recorder next to the bed. Upon waking no matter how tired you are, without moving your head too much, write down or tape what you dreamt. If you take a nap, set your alarm to wake you up at an odd time. During your dream, you will have the opportunity to express your feelings to her.
She may be showing up to your friends because they are more open, and have moved on. She wants you to be happy, and not mourn or feel guilty, the more you mourn the harder it will be for her to move on.
Just have faith, and believe she is in spirit. Send white light and loving thoughts to her, she will feel it. Meditate, meditate, meditate,...
Most of all forgive her
2007-03-06 17:02:10 · answer #1 · answered by LM 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your friend is either delusional or a liar. There's no reason for you to be disappointed that he saw her and not you, because he didn't really see anything.
I noticed that some responders, "toastette" for example, suggested that there might be something negative about you which prevents her from making herself visible to you.
Those people are viciously cruel. Criticizing someone who has just experienced a tragic loss is a sign of mental illness of some kind - probably mood disorders or antisocial behaviors. Ignore those fools.
You're not doing anything wrong. Stop beating yourself up over this.
Appreciate the closeness and support you now have with your fiancee. Those of us who are always alone consider you to be very fortunate in that regard.
My sincere condolences to you on the loss of your wife. You have good memories and dreams of her that your "friend" can never have. Cherish those memories and ignore anyone like him who is perverted enough to claim that he has more of her than you do.
Take care my friend,
Big Al Mintaka
2007-03-11 14:50:22 · answer #2 · answered by almintaka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might consider that if ghosts were easy to see, everyone would believe in them. My suggestion is that you may not have seen your ex for the simple reason that you don't have the ability, or that you have closed it down. Just as we can't all be "nerds" or "jocks", not everyone is sensitive to this sort of manifestation (or would want to be even if they could).
Regardless, I am sorry for your loss. I hope both you and your friend can find peace in this situation. If it is important to you to see your ex, perhaps you and your friend could try to contact her together, since he apparently has the ability. However, if you do, please cast a protective circle first. Not all the spirits out there are loving and forgiving, and you may reach someone who is not your ex. The technique for casting a circle is in many books on Wicca, for a start--your library may have one you can borrow.
2007-03-12 07:50:19 · answer #3 · answered by Laura H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My condolences for your loss.
I personally do not believe in ghosts. I believe your friend is either making this up or misinterpreting something he saw. But in fairness, let us consider the possibility that this happened as he said.
It could be that he had a greater need to see her and she sensed this. While this seems to have strongly affected you (how could it not?), you may be adjusting to the shock better than he.
Another theory from the opposite direction could be that perhaps she sensed that it was more important for you to NOT see her yet. You still have some healing to do and seeing her might interfere with that.
Whatever you choose to believe, it's important to come to grips with your loss and move on w. your life. Never forget her, but life is for the living.
2007-03-07 00:16:10 · answer #4 · answered by maxdwolf 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I doubt this treally happenned. Your friend knows you would be jelous if she visited him and not you. Trust me I am a 55 year old man and when it comes to friendship and the oppisiote sex all bets are off and friendship takes aback seat so friends can chase after the same girl. He is just trying to make you jelous.
BB
2007-03-06 15:58:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should see a psychiatrist... it sounds like you are having trouble dealing with this. My heart goes out to you if you are truly honest in what you are saying... I hope you can work through this.
Or maybe its that your nerdy friend is the one having trouble dealing with this, and since you are niave, you truly believe she appeared to him in ghost form.
2007-03-06 16:00:20 · answer #6 · answered by ssmith 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that didn't happen. There's no such thing as ghosts. If ghosts existed, we would harness the power of Albert Einstein's, Nicolai Tesla's, and Archimedes's spirits to create the Ultimate Sekiha Tenkyoken Cannon and lay waste to our adversaries in one fell swoop.
2007-03-06 14:24:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
So what kind of drugs are High School kids doing these days.
2007-03-09 09:42:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ghosts REALLY don't exist. Waking dreams, however, do. Perhaps your friend had one of those, or, the psychology of sexual jealousy is at work. People are strange.
2007-03-08 13:37:11 · answer #9 · answered by archolman 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
~Possibly because you and her other "friends" are what drove her to the suicide in the first place, but the nerd is a sensative, warm, caring, intelligent individual to whom she wished to appoloize for mocking as a nerd while she was alive.
2007-03-06 14:25:41 · answer #10 · answered by Oscar Himpflewitz 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋