Let's say you did some things when you were younger that you now regret. How do you get over this regret and move on with your life? How do you make peace with yourself?
2007-03-06 14:10:53 · 13 answers · asked by Persephone 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Well I guess you could just say to yourself that hey I made the best choice for me at that time, with the information I was given. Now, as you look back, you have become wiser and know that your actions were not the best choice. However when you were younger, you did not see things differently as you do now. So you learn from your past mistakes, as everyone does. This is normal. I have made some decisions that I am not proud of, but some are worse than others. I wish you the best at finding peace within yourself. Love yourself and do things that you think will help you and not hurt you.
2007-03-06 14:18:06 · answer #1 · answered by just julie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If there was an answer to that question, society would save an enormous amount of money on therapy. I believe that everything happens for a reason, our actions (negative or positive) are learning experiences for the future. If you really want to make peace with the past, BE the change you would like to see in yourself. There is a saying: "Today is the first day of the rest of your life". Be well.
2007-03-06 14:30:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If these actions involved harming or being unkind to other people, the way to move through it is to make amends to those people. You can look at what exactly you did, how the other person probably felt as a result of your actions, and what it did to your relationship -- these are good things to mention. If you are truly sorry and express it, it will empower you in relation to your old actions and truly put them in your past. If the person is not around or living, you can imagine them sitting in a chair in front of you in a quiet place and speak to them that way. If your regrets do not involve other people, write yourself a letter apologizing to yourself and expressing the things mentioned above you'd say to someone else. Really get in touch with your feelings about your actions. Tuning in and feeling them is what enables you to let them go. You can put the letter away for a couple days and then read it out loud. Good for you for coming to this place in yourself!
2007-03-06 14:22:03 · answer #3 · answered by bluenile08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there are victims, you might ask forgiveness and offer to make up for the damage. If it's too far back, all you can do is work on the present. Like any wound there is no curing, only healing, and scars will be with you. But you can build new memories and new self-worth with the good you do now. If it helps, try doing something appropriate to the harm done. If not, change direction.
We all make mistakes. We should all be able to acknowledge them. But we should not let them consume us. No one has a better memory of your screwups than you. So don't forget to forgive yourself, resolve to do better, and move on. You have plenty of undiscovered life left ahead of you.
2007-03-06 14:22:42 · answer #4 · answered by skepsis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's impossible to leave the past behind you but the best thing to do is try to overcome the past and live as good a life as you know how. never go back to the old ways and most of all, treat people the way you would like to be treated.
2007-03-06 14:20:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, we probably see people daily who are in the process of making regrets. they might not know at the time that they will be regrets in the future. we live and we learn. i know it can be hard to make peace with ourselves for our regrets, but keep reminding yourself that THIS is your present and to just do the best you can. good luck :)
2007-03-06 14:20:07 · answer #6 · answered by AlwaysWondering 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to let it go.. move on with it and chalk it up as experience so that you dont make that same mistake twice.... You have to just know that you made it this far and that mistake is only making you stronger. Dont think about it. keep the past in the past and live for today, tomorrow and the future.... :D
2007-03-06 14:15:47 · answer #7 · answered by neisha G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot go back and change what is past, it is gone. Your only hope is to live for the future and dream positive good things and accept the things that aren't.
2007-03-06 14:19:21 · answer #8 · answered by djdundalk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard but just accept you did them, make amends where possible. Realize you are a different person now and live life in a positive healthy way.
2007-03-06 14:14:34 · answer #9 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Living in the past paralyzes the present and bankrupts the future. Let it go.
2007-03-06 14:14:11 · answer #10 · answered by killmylandlord 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋