I recently realized that I don't enjoy being a woman. And I don't mean transvestite stuff or anything else. I just have not found being a woman anything to celebrate. Probably because I was mosested by family members when I was a kid, and life just has not been all that great to me. So, my question is............what are some good reasons to celebrate being a woman, and how do I learn to enjoy, and be proud to be a woman? I have never felt sexy, or pretty. Just used. I think I am actually fairly nice looking, and I have a great husband. But somehow I can't get past feeling used and abused, and down on myself. And no, I am not abused anymore. Haven't been for years. It's a head thing now. Don't tell me to go to a therapist. Been there and done that. And I'm not going to do that...........at least for now. I just want some good advice, guidance, and suggestions that may help me.......other than seeing a doc or getting drugs. Natural stuff is OK. Thanks.
2007-03-06 13:54:05 · 5 answers · asked by lostjane 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Oh, there is SO much to celebrate about being a woman!
We female of the species are the only ones who make it possible for there to be other people in the world.
We are strongest, most intelligent, wonderful, blessed, celebrated creatures on the planet.
We have been given the God given talent of being absolutely amazing multitaskers.
We are accountants, counselors, triage nurses, budget managers, interior decorators, nutritionists, hair stylists, wardrobe technicians, and chefs. The good thing about this, you may be asking yourself?? Many of us NEVER had to go to college to get a degree in any of the above fields! What have I just described to you? Mothers, aunts, cousins, and friends!!
Take pride in who you are, for you ARE NOT defined by what some really twisted and deranged adults-and use that term VERY loosely-did to a small, trusting, completely innocent child.
Look in the mirror, OFTEN, and tell yourself that YOU are a great, powerful being, and that GOD put you on this planet for a purpose. You are worthy of love, you are worthy of being respected, and, most importantly, you are are a BEAUTIFUL, MAGNIFICENT W-O-M-A-N!!!
2007-03-06 14:20:51 · answer #1 · answered by Chell B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you've never embraced the joy of being a woman, now is as good a time as ever to start. When you think about it, we are so lucky to be women and should really celebrate it! Think about it, being female is great! For instance:
- We got off the titanic first
- taxis stop for us
- we can hug a friend without wondering if she thinks we're gay
- we can talk to people of the opposite sex without having to picture them naked
- There are times when chocolate really can solve all our problems
- We'll never regret piercing our ears
- We know which glass is ours just by looking at the lipstick mark
AND We have enough sense to realize that the easiest way to get out of being lost is to ask for directions!
Being a woman is the greatest, grab some girlfriends and go shopping for a new outfit, then have a girls night in with chick flicks, chocolate, and the odd cocktail or too! hehe.. Once you realise how special you really are, and believe in yourself, it will turn your world around. Here's to being a woman, cheers to you girlfriend!
2007-03-06 22:23:03 · answer #2 · answered by VodkaKween 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women are what makes this world beautiful if there was none it would just be a bunch of guys and they would all eventually turn gay and that would just be some scary **** so yeah also maybe you should have a baby or something it might help you feel more womanly because well only woman can do that unless your arnold swarzenigger cause he did it that one time in that movie with danny devito um and i dunno really but i truly wish you all the best because like i said at the start women are the true beauty in this world so i would like to take a moment here to say i love u nina you are my world <3
2007-03-06 22:08:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn the abuse and misuse and turn it into strength. Make it your inner badge of courage. Become your own hero for surviving.
Now, couple it with your gender status. You are a woman: We are the life-givers in nature. It is our fruit that feeds, so to speak...
a brief digression:
a strong inner light can sometimes be a threat to others who feel harbor feelings of self worthlessness. Bearing that in mind, entertain the notion that your beauty, integrity and inner light was so strong that it was a threat to someone else. Don't let them win.
2007-03-06 22:17:51 · answer #4 · answered by angeldust 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read some self help books about being abused as a child and do some things for yourself regularly that make you feel pretty and it should help. Good luck.
A good book is The Courage to Heal.
2007-03-06 22:03:41 · answer #5 · answered by elanabutcher 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋