My question is rather simple. I am a new mom, and I plan on returning to work in August of this year, but I am finding it hard to leave my child with anyone, other than his father, for more than three hours a day. What should I do?
2007-03-06 13:53:45 · 14 answers · asked by Cormeliusb 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I am a teacher and I've worked in a daycare, so I've seen some of the things that go on there. They weren't pretty. Parents are paying the fees, but all of the materials were not there. I had to purchase material with my money (note: daycare teachers don't get paid a lot, $5.50 -$6.00 depending on your location). I had 18 - 25 students in my class and no assistant/ teacher aide to help.
2007-03-06 15:50:21 · update #1
You could find a job that can be done at home. I have a 3 months old son and that is what i do, work at home.
2007-03-06 13:58:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem... except I'm the only one with my daughter EVER until the end of this year when her dad comes home so I really didnt fell anyone was right to watch my daughter and found it really hard to even think of sending her to daycare and fealt I would be a horrible mom if I did. My daughter just turned 4 months a week ago and has been in daycare now for almost a month. And surprisingly I think it was the best thing for both of us. I just recently have found a job now that I have the time to search for one and my daughter is used to other people other then myself. You just really need to do your research and find a place that is not only a great place for your child and that is up to par and meets the codes but is somewhere you feel comfortable leaving her. I dunno I know that is so easier sad then done, right? It's gunna be really hard to leave your child with other people for the first time but when you find that perfect daycare or nanny or babysitter which ever you decide to choose you will just know that no matter how hard it is on you... your baby is okay. And it also helps them develop skills they need and become social and build up there immune systems so just remember no matter what it's a great thing for your child!!! Hope I helped!! and good luck on the search... you'll find the perfect place dont worry!! and always make sure there are enough teachers to baby ratio and that they dont mind if you come and check in during the day or call 20 million times throughout the day... even if you dont want to do those things it's important to know that they will allow you to.. that's a sign that there a good place for you child to be. OKAY im done rambling! GOOD LUCK!!
2007-03-06 23:00:36 · answer #2 · answered by californiacaiti 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you im in the same situation and i have decided that i will only go back to work part time so that i dont have to leave my baby with anyone else he watches her when im at work and i watch her while hes at work then we dont have to pay for a sitter but i understand most people cant afford to not work full time and pay the bills i would ask friends and family who they chose and realy drill the pearson on there ethics and find out there background! theres alot of crazys i even heard of a large certified day care in my area that had a manager shake a baby and give it shaken baby sendrom so just be careful ok i wish you luck !
2007-03-06 22:02:05 · answer #3 · answered by Kay Castilio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With everything in the media about abuse that happens to children from a babysitter/nanny I'm terrified too. If you can afford it, place cameras around your house. You can find companies that hook your house up and not spend a fortune on it. There are also daycares out there that are wired as well so you can check on your baby via internet when they are there.
I ended up having to work opposite shifts from my husband so that she was with either of us.
2007-03-06 23:32:24 · answer #4 · answered by santobugito 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try going out to eat with your husband (or something like that) and get a babysitter. Do this once a week then eventually make it to everyday. Soon you want feel as bad about it after a while, i guess
hope this helps-good luck
2007-03-06 21:59:44 · answer #5 · answered by Derrick S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the exact same boat!!! I'm finally (5 month old son) going back to work at the end of the month. Fortunately I can go back just part time. I'm starting out slow.
2007-03-06 22:01:06 · answer #6 · answered by Nik's Mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you need to go and interview for daycare providers or ask friends ...parents... co workers for there opinion. you might want to go back part time for now till you get used to leaving the baby.
2007-03-06 21:58:25 · answer #7 · answered by mommy of 2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leaving your baby is sooo hard-- Take baby steps... leave him w/ sitter or friend (other than dad) for a few hrs here and there... and increase it over the next few months... it's so much harder on you than it is on him! Best of Luck.
2007-03-06 21:58:18 · answer #8 · answered by Bio Instructor 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was exactly like that at first,the only people were my bf or him and my parents.After I had no choice but to get adjusted to letting her go,to other family members b.c. sometimes my bf would not be able to babysit and we had to get someone else.After a while you'll eventually feel like breaking down and need a break,it just takes time
2007-03-06 23:25:43 · answer #9 · answered by TH 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to leave them at all.let alone having to leave them with a sitter.Try leaving the baby for a few hours.it still sucks but it gets easier..Good luck and congrats
2007-03-06 21:59:48 · answer #10 · answered by angie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋