I think i may be bisexual but i have a wife and 2 kids...?

Question

My wife and I have been together for nearly 7 years now and in that time we've had 2 beautiful children. but i think i mite have developed feelings for my male boss as I enjoy spending time with him and have urges whenever we're alone together. I dont no wat to do and i dont want to upset my family. I'm confused!!! HELP!!!

Answer 1

Think about your life with your wife and your kids. have you ever had these urges before. maybe you just like this boss as a friend. look deep inside you heart. you'll see what you feel. chose to do what your heart tells you to do.

once you've done that!..................................read porn, have sex with him have an affair, tell your wife you want a 3som but not with her....or a 4som with her plus lotsa gay guys..........mmmmmmmmmmm you must be thinking him of rite now........call him tell him you love him i bet he loves you too......eat chocolate....from his poo hole...do sus things. take photos of him naked and put them on the internet. make you and his relationship a porn mag...every1 ll love it!

keep me posted gay bo......!!!!!

Answer 2

Yes, ur very confused. Look, u have lived a life of heterosexuality for the past 7 years. This would devistate your entire family. You need to come to terms with your issue and do right by your family. Do not act on your urges. If you feel that the urges are too great to control, then perhaps u need to separate from the wife. Take some time to think. And if you find that you are indeed a bi-sexual, then its time for a heart to heart with the wife. She deserves to know and to make the decision as to her future and your future as well. Its not just about u.
The two of you will have to be tactful when it comes to dealing with the children too. This isnt something that u just come out and tell them. Personally, i dont think they should know all the details, but something tactful is in order.
Your wife deserves more than what u r giving her right now. Talk to her.
Good luck.

Answer 3

There r a lot men & women who r bisexual, who r also married & have kids, so yes, u could be bisexual. But before u act on these urges, I suggest u talk to a therapist who specializes in sexual orentation. U can either look them up on the net, or ur local phone book. At this point, I wouldn't say anything to the wife. Wait 'til u've talked to a therapist. U need more help than u can get here. Good Luck & get going, the sooner the better.

Answer 4

Calm down. It is perfectly acceptable, normal, even beautiful to be bisexual. However, there are two things in your comments that are not acceptable.

First and foremost, it is completely unacceptable to have an affair of any kind with your boss...or any other co-worker for that matter. Do not do it unless you don't mind winding up unemployed down the road. As delicious as your erotic feelings for your boss may be, do not act on them, and do not accept any advances he may make on you. Work life and love life are best kept separate. Mixing things up will only lead to financial ruin.

Secondly, you made a commitment to monogamy with your wife, and unless or until she agrees willingly to open the relationship up to outside partners then any extracurricular relationships you have are what is known as ADULTERY. If you commit adultery, you will feel great guilt. Also, adultery leaves you liable to DIVORCE and LOSS OF CHILD CUSTODY. It isn't fair,but the fact is that, in most states, you may be liable to losing your parental rights if the court determines you are a practicing homosexual. Think carefully about what you want to do before you actually do anything that may jeopardize your happiness.

Final thought: make an appointment to speak with a professional counselor. They will help you sort your feelings, your desires, and your concerns. Good luck. There is nothing wrong with you or your sexual desires; you just need to think about what is truly important to you...and if possible, to find appropriate ways of expressing your sexuality given your circumstances.

Answer 5

Some people at some point or other have had fantasies of the same sex. Being that you are married, and you need to make a choice of what you want. Because the wife is not going to be accepting of it. Does he have feelings back for you? If so, you might want to find out if you are gay or not. I wouldnt hurt my family over a fantasy, unless you are sure of what you are. It could just be feelings on your part and not your boss. You need to find out. Dont risk getting fired over this, but you need to somehow know if your boss feels the same, but dont come out and say how you feel. There are too many lives to ruin here. Just be sure that when you make the decision to find out your identity, sexually, that you are willing to accept the consequences..Good Luck!

Answer 6

Ok, so this is the way I see it. I think bisexuality makes sense in that if you are only open to the idea of one gender then you are reducing your chances of finding the right person for you by 50% (approximately). However, being bisexual does not mean that you need to be with both. If you love your wife then she's the one to be with regardless of gender and if you are afraid that your sexuality may be something she cannot come to terms with then don't tell her - as unless you have cracks in your relationship - this new realisation should change nothing between you. Good luck with everything. = D

Answer 7

I don't understand it but my uncle did the same thing. He was married for like 5 or 6 years, two children, and then one day told my aunt that he was gay. They got divorced and have stayed really good friends for their two girls. Even if you think that you are bi don't break up a happy home for sex. Would you have to think about it this much if you were developing feelings for a woman?

Answer 8

Seek help. You already have a family and a wife that loves you, do not let these little 'urges' or thoughts take over the best things you have.

Answer 9

You put yourself in a difficult situation. It is possible that you was disappointed by your family. It led to the step that you want to find to one another who can spend time to listen and be with you. In this case, the most suitable one is certainly your boss. Unfortunately, that person is a man. That make you possibly mistaken your feeling with him.
If that person were female, you would never think about your feeling like this. You would feel comfortable not confused.
In my opinion, I think this is just your mistakenness of your feeling. Do not worry about that. Just spend more time with your family.

Answer 10

Look at like gay p*rn and such, and see if it does anything for you. Thinking about it, and having the nerve to actually do it are really different. Maybe you're just curiousabout how gay people are, and how it feels. See if your wife will let you do anal on her. By no means have an affair. You will hurt your family. Just browse around gay p*rn like I said, and it's actually alot different then you'd think.

Answer 11

stop being confused! is it fair for you to lie to your family. here's the option you lie to her and have a gay affair and continue to sleep w/ her at the risk of infecting her w/ hiv or some other disease. and now she'll be gone and who will raise your children. it's your choice to be gay or have an affair so why does the rest of your family have to suffer for your desires. grow up and be a man and tell her the truth so you both can move on with your lives. you can't have both worlds w/o her consent let her make up her on mind if she'll let you have your cake on the side. it's not right to lie to her. that's what will hurt her more. trust me.