This past weekend I tried telling her that in her next relationship she should release a little control in the relationship and let him lead a little and do more for her. She's very head strong and she's a born leader. She got so angry and insulted me based on personal stuff I told her in the past. I was really hurt but we got over it. Now when she calls I feel so uncomfortble talking to her. I feel like I'm walking on eggshells. Help me understand. Am I supposed to be able to tell my best friend anything?
2007-03-06 13:08:04 · 11 answers · asked by JenniferE 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
A best friend is someone who you should be able to share everything with. Unfortunately that is not always the case because they are really not your B/F. Alot of people are fake and will stab you in the back when least expecting it. So if she's acting like that just move on. She is not who you thought she was. Best friends are few and far between. I had one I thought we were B/F for over 14 years from 5th grade till I was 27. We even lived together, and then she slept with my husband. Not once but for almost 1 year. He was supposed to be my B/F as well. But theres always another day, another opportunity.
2007-03-06 13:21:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All relationships take work from both parties. This includes a friendship. You hit a little bump in the road and that happens too in a relationship. You've stated the two of you have gotten over it. Obviously not, or you wouldn't be feeling so uncomfortable. Let it go, and go back to your friendship. Evidently you cherish your friendship or you wouldn't be so concerned. If you were really hurt, it may take some time and effort to let this go, but good friends are hard to come by. We all say things in anger sometimes and it sounds like this is what happened with your friend. She must have been angry, or at least became defensive from your advice. Sometimes the one closest to you can hurt and be hurt the easiest. Good luck.
2007-03-06 21:17:42 · answer #2 · answered by Tara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to tell her anything. She is just proving what you told her that she is. Head strong. I would feel uncomfortable too, maybe you should tell her exactly how you feel. It isnt too much of a friendship if you cant do at least that. To walk like on eggshells with a best friend is not healthy. Talk to her about it.
2007-03-06 21:13:54 · answer #3 · answered by mlock123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The things with best friends is, you can tell them a lot but with their relationships, no...that's where you have to butt out. This includes when you think her boyfriend is a loser, when you think she's doing a bad job in the relationship, basically when you, as her best friend see things going wrong with her boyfriend. Your job is to think he's great when she does (unless of course he's really damaging her) and to be the shoulder to cry on if they break up. After all, guys will come and go (even if your friend thinks this is the love of her life) but your best friend will outlast any guy
good luck
2007-03-06 21:15:11 · answer #4 · answered by glim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a best friend is a person whom you can talk to anything about, a best friend is a person you trust and you can communicate with about anything.
if she felt offended with something you told her about, you probably hit something right (truth) and she didn't want to hear that from you.
if she is controling in a relationship, most likely her partners won't be in with her very long. no-one likes being told what do/when to do/ whom to be friends with.
instead of you telling her, let her find out for herself next time and if she is truely your friend she will ask you for advice.
good luck :)
2007-03-06 21:21:51 · answer #5 · answered by ~muffun~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you hit to close to the truth so she had to become offensive to make you backoff and change the subject .and you should be able to talk about anything with a true friend.
2007-03-06 21:18:30 · answer #6 · answered by workin_man66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are suppose to be able to tell your best freind anything. And she/he is suppose to keep to confidential even if ya'll do have a fight over something, which will happen from time to time!
2007-03-06 21:11:56 · answer #7 · answered by chantol3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to tell her anything. If you can't then she isn't a best friend!
2007-03-06 21:11:11 · answer #8 · answered by BLAH BLAH BLAH! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO tell her nothing . don't ever tell her anything . she is out to use all of this against you . say nothing confess to nothing . admit to seeing nothing . hearing nothing . never ever reveal to her anything of importance .
say only nice pleasant things to people tell them nothing about yourself. this is always for the best.
2007-03-06 21:12:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
U SHOULD OR NOT IT IS ALSO DEPENDENT ON THEIR RELATIONSHIP AND THEIR CONDITION . SO BE QUITE UNTIL SOME THING HAPPENS
2007-03-06 21:14:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋