My husbadn left me today. I was the one who wanted out, but since he wants out now, I want him back. He isn't coming home, waht can I say to him to fix it? I want to call him and say the perfect words, but I don't know what to say when I call, I just go silent and want to hear his voice?
I am pregnant. I want him to come home.
2007-03-06 12:34:46 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
say this:
"Sometimes I say things that I dont mean, especially when im mad...this is my appology to you..my way of telling you how i REALLY feel, that is, if you are willing to listen. I dont want to fight, I dont want us to yell... I really want to sit and talk like adults about our relationship...because that was our promise, remember? till death due us part? Thru the good, and the bad? we're having a tough time right now, and being without you has made me realize that you left wtih my heart in your hands...
I love you and I think we need to fix this problem, and/or atleast talk about it...you are going to be a great father, and I am going to try and be the best mother I can be for our child... so lets both, stop being selfish for once in our life, and do this for our baby thats on the way. I believe in us... I believe in you...and you are the love of my life, reguardless of how much we fight or what it is we fight about....i love you...."
I think that if you really speak from your heart, you will get thru to him.... also, remember that things like this take time, so if he is going to turn around and come home, it may not happen over night...but stay strong and leave the rest in God's hands, and I really hope my advice was somewhat helpful. Good Luck hun...
2007-03-06 12:47:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry you're going through such a bad time. It must be really confusing being pregnant and trying to think about the future. Your message is short so I don't have a lot to go on but you do say that you broke up today and i think its normal to miss him. Its scary and you probably feel really alone and unsure. However, you also say that you were the one who thought you two should end it. Maybe, that was for a good reason. My advice is to sit it out for a while, don't take any action for at least a week. If you can, take a bit of time off; talk to friends or better still, go and stay with family....get some distance from the situation and if you can take time off work or whatever, its amazing what some time to take a long walk, either alone or with someone who you trust can do to clear your head and show you what you have to do. I feel bad for you, but just think hard and things will seem a lot better soon
I wish you luck
2007-03-06 12:46:48 · answer #2 · answered by glim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U want him back because its human nature to want something u cant have.
Wake up hun. U wanted out, and now that he took the route, u feel betrayed. Its normal to want him back. But, if u wanted out, why take him back. Things wont be different. He hasnt changed. He is still the fella u wanted to leave a week ago.
These are the facts.
Dont try to get him back right now. Give it a month or so and then reevaluate your life and your relationship.
Your hormones are insane right now too. This doesnt help u to make rational decisions. I left my man when i was 4 months pregnant. I am now 7 1/2. I made the right decision though. In time i figured that out. Pregnant or not, I know what I need in my life.
Dont try to get him back just because he was the one who left. Seriously evaluate your life and what u want in it.
If he isnt it, then take your time and focus on baby and stay healthy and after the baby is born, make the necessary changes to find what u really want in your life.
Dont be hasty. This isnt the time to do that.
Good luck hun.
2007-03-06 12:44:15 · answer #3 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since i don't know why you wanted out i can't help you there. However, you could tell him that it was your hormones talking and that your heart and sould wants him to come back home, You need him. You being together is the best thing for everyone. You love him. You are sorry. And aside from that, give him a little time. If you have trusted him in the past, trust him now to follow his heart and feel the hurt in yours. I really wish you all of the luck in the world.
2007-03-06 12:41:52 · answer #4 · answered by pumpakin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you want out?Do you want someone so bad that you are willing to settle for someone you wanted to divorce?Why did he finally want out?If you pushed him to the point of where he doesnt want to come back, chances are you just need to set up child support and try to work out a visitation schedule for the kid.If I knew why you wanted out and why he finally wanted out, then maybe I could be of more help, but it looks like you drove him away by what you said.
2007-03-06 12:41:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a man's emotions are built like glass. you shattered his world, for whatever reasons, but you took away his faith in you, in love, and a happy life. he has no reason to come back. the only thing i could suggest is that if you really want him back, you will have to bow to his every whim. let him step all over you, reign over you like a king to a servant. because if it were me, i would need to exercises my resentment and maybe, eventually, after enough time has passed, be able to forgive and possible love again. and then treat you like a real person. all's fair in love and war.
2007-03-06 13:45:59 · answer #6 · answered by optcynbassist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say you are the one who wanted out so chances are you were not being really good to him..........you need to tell him that you were going through a rough time and took it out on him .... but want to try to make your marriage work,,if he gives you another chance ......that you Loved him or you would not have married him and that he loved you as well so isn't your marriage worth it ...... ........ lastly tell him you want to be a family and grow old with him , be there for each other and tell him you are sorry ....hope this helps.........if you can not say it.......send it in a card..an ecard or email or actual card ..best of luck
2007-03-06 12:43:22 · answer #7 · answered by connie b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband left me too. It ended up being the kindest thing he ever did for us. Being a single mom is hard, but enduring the chaos of a bad marriage is far worse.
2007-03-06 13:22:56 · answer #8 · answered by Smiley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun give the dude a call and let him know how ur feeling and that ur regret by wanting him 2move out..he should understand and if he loves u bck he will b bck on ur door in a heart beat. give the guy a call dont waste anytime here on y!a...go call him...
2007-03-06 12:40:54 · answer #9 · answered by Just_Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man r u confused or what. You want out and when he leaves NOW u want him back? Make up your mind girl.
2007-03-06 12:38:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋